talking? y do u have to find out?

ask him, he may be more forthcoming than you may think.

act like a crazy psycho chick

What is wrong with talking to people?

And its bothering u because?

If you are that controlling pretty soon you will not have a BF to ask.

it depends on how he is talking to them....face to face, mobile, e-mail?? but if you trust him there shouldnt be a problem

hi! "talking" has us all confused. i think everybody agrees that "talking" is natural and a part of life. i talk to the bank clerk, co-workers, wal-mart employees ... nothing wrong with innocent talking. now, if i start talking to bimbo barbie OR my old gf and puttin' on the moves, then you ought to feel some concern and "check it out" by examining text messages or emails of phone logs or hiring a private investigator. you might ask him. if it's the former, then i'd suggest that you have a really insecure relationship or some insecurity issues yourself. counseling is recommended, maybe for both of you.

Why, are you that jealous and controlling? if you keep doing this kind of crap, your not going to have the boyfriend long

LOL@DR...again! i know i shouldn't find ignorance so entertaining...that is one of my shortcomings...

you'd probably hear it from other people..you know..word gets around. but who cares if hes talking to them. as long as he isnt doing anything with them.

Oh my! Is it forbidden to talk to another female? That's pretty harsh expectations on your behalf. My S/O can talk to whomever he pleases. And he always comes home after work too!

Maybe you should stop and look at the situation from a distance. Ok first if he does take his talking to a more serious level which doesnt mean talking about sex because thats pretty normal to do so. But if his mouth ends up doing anything other than talking then why are you with him? To have a stable relationship trust is a must, if you cant trust him then leave him. And if you are just being jealous and controlling maybe you should have some time to think about why you feel this way. And you might find swearing at people for answering a question isnt the best way to go about getting advice. You worded the question funny (I've done it too) and because of it you cant blame people for jumping to the conclusion that your question sounds like.

this is getting funnier all the time...my answer got removed and doorsfan was the one using all the profanity...

He is most assuredly talking to other women... Most places he goes there will be women - cashiers, receptionists, etc., even speaking with female friends, and probably where he works. And, there should normally be no reason for him to report each conversation with another woman to you. - Talking, in and of itself isn't usually the problem. I see that an ex contacted him through MySpace, and they've talked on the phone. THEN he states, "You know you and the baby can go on a trip without me. I dont have to go with you all the time. Same with me if i want to go visit, i dont expect you to go with me all the time", and the ex he's talking to lives near his mother. That can cause fear and distrust in people - an ex who lives close to places the s/o visits contacts them, and then the s/o makes a statement like that - especially in those who may be insecure in their relationship. People DO talk to exes all the time. Sometimes they have financial reasons; sometimes it's because they have children together; sometimes it's because a relationship is new, and they are seeking advice from someone they trust; and, sometimes, it's just to "catch up". Yes, sometimes it's because one misses the other, and tries to get them back, so the fear is NOT unfounded. Why would people keep this communication secret from their s/os? Even those who are completely trustworthy might, simply because of reactions like this. The fear and distrust can cause people of all types to think more is going on than actually is. Of course, it COULD be a founded fear/distrust. Has he given you reason to doubt the trust you have for him, besides the "we can visit our families without each other" thing? He obviously trusts you, as he's given you the option, too. Do you trust him? And, yes. It COULD be that he will call or go over to the ex's and talk (or more), but again, do you TRUST him. Remember that exes (both s/o and friends) probably know more about a person than others, and when things go wrong, many will want help from people like that. It could be that his ex is having problems, and feels "safe" with him because he knows her, and is in a committed relationship. You need to discuss the whole thing with him. Tell him what you know, and what you fear. If he can convince you that he's being aboveboard with everything but talking with his ex, and has a good excuse for doing so, all should be well. If not, then you may have problems. (And watch the language. People here are not unintelligent, and people who answer questions like this are in many cases sympathetic or at least empathetic. Some, of course, will try to make a joke. That doesn't make them all bad. Name-calling and continued cursing can get you into trouble.) Good luck with the BF. ;-)