If you're with someone for a year+ and you still have problems and arguments, is this normal?
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Yes i think so. two different people are not always going to agree one the same thing. Now if you constanly fight and can't avoid arguments thats something different!!!!
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By the way you use the word 'still', it sounds like you started out with arguments and problems. Not normal.
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I'd say no. If i were in a relationship and we were arguing often, i'd finish things because the first couple of years are the best and if THAT was the best it was ever going to be i'd be walking. You're meant to be in the honeymoon/lust stage.
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There will always be problems and arguments in life. The key is in how you handle them. If you're expecting to get to some Disney World in your relationship, you can pretty much forget about it and join the rest of us in the real world;)
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It would be impossible for a relationship to not have issues arise every now and then, and I believe it is very typical to have disagreements over the years. If this has been a problem from the very beginning, I might have some concerns, though. I have noticed in most relationships I have been in or have encountered there has always been a "honeymooning" period. Another reason for concern is what the arguments are about. If you want the relationship to last, make sure you are open and very clear with each other. Communication can be the key to a "smooth" and happy relationship.
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Of course it's normal to have arguments and problems. The question is; Is it the SAME old problem and argument? If a situation keeps popping up and you can;t seem to find middle ground at all, then maybe it's time to reconsider. Or if it's small, just brush it off. Arguments are for finding a solution and making things better. It they make things worse and no one is budging then maybe it's time to rethink things.
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My aunt has been with her parter for over 6 years and they still have arguments. it's completely normal. You can't agree with someone 24.7. There a saying that if you don't argue here and there then you really don't care.
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It is. I was married for less than sex months before the fights started. I don't think relationships are based on how many times you fight... but rather how you deal with that fight and over come your differences. =) If you really love eachother you can find a way to make it through your rough patches.
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Yep. BUT: Rising above what is normal, and trying to go into and even more awesome relationship I have a few questions: Were you happy and super in love for the majority of time up to this point? Sounds to me like you have been so happy and in love that you forgot/didn't notice as much of the crucial things you could learn about the person to avoid conflict in the first place. I have seen this tons in my relationships of anyone for that matter, especially in my s/o and I's. Not to fear!! Theres always time. And one year isn't even close to how much time it takes to become quarrel-free. 50 years is often not even close for some people. I advise this: 1. Try to see what the issues are when they happen. 2. Ask yourself 2 things, is this something I can't change about myself? (I.e am I right, wrong, or is this something that is neither?) 3.Did I miss anything about my significant other that could have explained what happened? If you find after these answers you are just having a normal argument and nothing serious, its normal. However, if you don't like it, just ask yourself "does this matter?"
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Very Normal. There is always something suspicious about long term partners who say they have never had a bad word between each other? I've been married for 40yrs and my lovely wife and I still argue like cat and dog.lol!
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