Should a wife take her husband's last name after marriage?
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i would think so. im getting married very soon and i would be proud to take my mans last name :D
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I don't think so. Why should a woman take a man's last name? Why doesn't the man take the woman's last name?
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Only if she wants to. +5
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The "traditional" view is, of course, "yes". But there may be practical reasons. If the husband's name has some special significance it might be helpful. Sometimes the wife will have established her maiden name as significant and there would be no reason to change it. I would object to a hard and fast rule on this, letting the circumstances dictate.
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In this day in age I think it depends on whether or not they want to be traditional. Celebrities don't do it.
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If she wants to0 !!!!
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I DO NOT THINK SO =D
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Yes, if not, then keep your own,. But for the sake of God, don't hyphenate the damn thing, unless you want to advertise to the world that you have a sissy boy for a husband.
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Yes otherwise how would people know your married. I hate femenism, and this is one of the results. If she doesnt take her husbands name, it means she is not really commited to the marriage.
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She shouldn't have to unless she wants to. The only problem is that if he is Mr Smith and she is Ms Jones, people will snigger! And then, there is the effect on the children at school!
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Depends on lots of issues. One it depends on that woman.She may retain her maternal name and be happy with it or she may take on her husbands name.Legally when the issue of marriage comes the question asked is if you are married then what is your married name.The school admissions,passport and some other document requires it.Then what happens?So that woman needs to consider every angle not only from her own but from the future children's perspective as well before deciding.+
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It will sound little funny. may be.
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My take is that she should unless there is a compelling reason not to. That may include inheritance, professional or celebrity recognition or social standing. Fair enough. . If the only reason not to is to thwart tradition, well...happy thwarting, bitch.
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I think she should if that is what she and her husband want to do. If they don't, then they shouldn't. There should not be rules about this sort of thing. It's something that people should be able to decide as a couple, without everyone telling them what they should and shouldn't do. Whatever they are most comfortable with is what is right.
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It just depends. Sometimes the husbands last name is tricky, or the wife has already established herself using her maiden name. Or, maybe she just wants to keep her own name. There's nothing wrong with keeping your name no matter the reason. Personally, I think if a woman keeps her name, the children should get her name and not something hyphenated. Women are the center of the family, I don't know how we became so male oriented.
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Should she? No, there are no 'shoulds'. Of course she is welcome to take his last name if she wants to. I took my husbands name when we married 24 years ago, but now I sometimes wish I hadn't. You lose some of your autonomy. Sometimes people refer to me as, "Mrs (Husbands first name) (husbands last name)", I am not that person. There have even been times when we have gone to make a purchase on payments where they have said that they would only put my husbands name down as we are married, we maybe married but it is a joint purchase.
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I did but i guess it depends.
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if she is carreer established with something where name recognition matters or his last name is something messed up like wipplefish then he should take hers... but if there is no reason to break the tredition why break it? marriage itself is a just tredition these days. what I am adamant about is they SHOULD share a last name... marriage is about family if you are not going to be a family then do not get married.
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If she wants the traditional diamond engagement ring, wedding gown, husband to wear a band, live together full time, etc., yes she should. However, if she's non-traditional, there are no rules for how they live. It's up to them. There are other questions like this. Should he buy her an engagement ring? Should he have to wear a ring? Should he have to stop talking to his ex-girlfriend?
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It is up to her, if she wants to change her last name, I dont think it is mandatory, more traditional. -
If she wants to ... that would be up to her. Whether she does or doesn't, that should be the least of the problems married couples should concern themselves with.
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Hell yea. If you dont then that just shows how much you care...not so much
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I kept my maiden name and took my husband name. I felt marriage shouldn't delete from where I came from but rather add to who I am.
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great question, keithold! he "bought" her an engagement ring, right? it's her turn to give him something in return. right? strange custom that i'd give anything to learn more about (ok, $19.95 on amazon). as a dad, i wonder why my son will keep my last name but my wonderful daughter will some day take on another man's name. taking on any one else's name can facilitate losing one's sense of identity. assuming a common sir name can be difficult (jane smith, really?). women, as they get a bit older have established more independent identity and some have published articles or books under their birth sir name, so, they're more reluctant to give it up. how often do men give up their last name for their wife's name? what do gay and lesbian couples do?
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Being an old fashioned traditionalist I would have to say yes to that.
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in my personal opinion, yes. but im a little old fashioned.
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it depends. most women want a new last name, a new identity.
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Depends some women are in a professional area and don't want to give up their professional name~~it is all different now days~ if you ask me~ a name by any other name would still be a name It was tradion for a women to take her husband last name and some are hyphanated? but anyone in the US can call themselves anything~~ this should be hashed out before the marriage as it could cause trouble if not ironed out
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Yes in most the muslim wives last name is of husband last name.
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I think it is the right thing to do. In my case it didn't matter, because we both, my wife and myself, had the same last name. We are not related....it is just one of the most common names in the whole world.
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Depends on the wife and if she wants to do so. But if the man gets upset because she doesn't want to, then that's just silly.
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I think that's up to her. However, if she's still carrying her first husband's last name (as I am), then YES she should take the new husband's last name. There's also the solution of hyphenation "maiden-husband"...
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nah i think that eeryone is entitled to their own last name :) i know married couple who have kept their original last names
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I think she should. If she's willing to commit herself to a man, that's just one of the things that comes with that commitment. There are situations where it's better not to change it, like if you are an established actress and you are known by your maiden/stage name. But you can always change your real name and keep the stage name the same.
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I think that is a personal choice and shouldn't be up to anyone but the wife and the husband.
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Yes.
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I think that should be totally up to the couple to mutually decide.
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my husband is from indonesia and the women there do not take their husbands last name or wear wedding rings. i hyphenated my last name when i got married but it irritated my husband because he said i should not give up my family honor...our children have his last name. so NO women do not have to change their last name. only if it works for the family...dont listen to the BS of "what effect it has on the kids" thats just stupid. 50% of marriages end in divorce and most women go back to their maiden names. my mm changed her last name three times when i was growing up and it never bothered me. (and im not a feminist bitch, im a stay at home mom of three kids)
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if i should remarry i would take my husband's name since i am not going by maiden name now.. if i had went back to maiden name i would have kept it and not changed it again. there is a story here but not for public consumption. +5 fth
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She should do what makes sense for her. If she's established in a career and has name recognition with her maiden name she may want to retain it for professional purposes. Other times I've seen women with names that are unusual take their husbands' name when it's easier to spell or pronounce. Sometimes, though more rare in our culture, the husband takes the wife's name. There's no right or wrong, each couple has to do what makes sense for them.
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