My gf gets angree with me coz i speak to my mom in greek and my dad in russian, she thinks i should speak to them in english all the time, butmy dads english is poor at best, my moms english is gd what should i do? am i beeing meen by not speaking english
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joshua m
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I don't get it. Why is this mean to them?
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Have you tried hitting her?
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Tell your girlfriend to get over it. She's not the language police. Let her learn some Russian and Greek and stop being such a baby. Two words for her: Rosetta Stone;) http://www.rosettastone.com/
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i dont understand why your gf gets angery with you, what language you speak in to your perents is your business not hers, may be its because she wants to know what is been said.
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What a gift for you to be able to speak those two languages! Some would perceive a conversation going on in another language in front of them as rude (you should visit my nail salon). BUT if your Dad's English is poor, explain to your gf that you have no choice. You could compromise by speaking English with your Mom, who is better able to handle it.
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I can understand how she might feel left out but you shouldn't alter your relationship with your parents because she feels left out. She could try to pick up little bits of the language which would show how much she cares for you and that she's interested in communicating with your family. You could help to soothe her by translating as much of the conversation as you can for her so that she feels included and not left out.
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I gets uncomfortable being around when you do not understand the language. Have your dad practice his English when she is around in honor of her feelings. That's a WIN WIN
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if those are your primary languages, tell your g/f to grow up and get over it.
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Do not stop speaking to your parents in these languages. I spoke Greek with my Yiayia all the time. She would get mad if i spoke to her in English. Your girlfriend probably thinks you are saying bad things about her or something. Why don't you offer to teach her the languages?
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No you shouldn't change the language you speak to your parents just b/c your girl doesn't like it. Maybe she thinks that by talking english all the time to them will help them, but if they've gotten along this far without knowing how, I'm sure they'll be fine. However, you can tell your gf that they know they can ask you questions if they need help. She has good intentions but there is not reason to be upset about it or think it's mean if you don't do it.
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Being fluent in three languages is a good skill to have, and may open career doors for you in the future. Try offering to teach your girlfriend some Russian, perhaps some Greek too, and help your Dad brush up his English, that way you will all have something in common, she will then have the beginnings of a new skill for her future, and hopefully yours too!! I have little, if any language skills, beyond being able to swear in five different languages, so I envy you and your girlfriend for the opportunity you now have!!
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... remind her that we are living in the information age and that the ability to communicate is becoming increasingly important ... I speak six languages, and often switch between them while speaking with my many friends who are still trying to learn either French or English ... ... I feel you should make some effort to help your parents learn more English, assuming that is the main or official language of the area you live in ... and help your GF to learn some Russian & Greek so she does not feel left out of a conversation ... ... no, not mean at all ...
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I think that if she's in the room while the conversation is happening, and is completely left out because she doesn't understand - then yes, it's a little rude. If she's talking about what language you use when it's just you and your mom or dad - then why does it matter to her? I'd suggest helping her learn a little russian and/or greek, and encouraging her to try to use it - while still using mostly english while she's around. It will also help your dad improve his english.
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