My partner tells me he is going to band practice.. but he is going to a sauna... then getting suspicious texts asking if he wants to meet again?? is he cheating?
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Probably. I suggest you show up at the sauna the next time and find out.
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I would only trust this person, as far as i could throw them. Confront this person, if you already have not done so, and learn the truth. if this leads no where, then set surveillance and discover the real truth yourself.
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More than likely. If he is lying about where he is going then you have a problem, not necessarily only with him cheating (if you can confirm it) but definatly with honesty and trust which should be the foundation for any realtionshiop. I would ask him about the texts and see what he says.
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Sounds highly suspicious to me. Why is he lying to you about where he is going?
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You never really know until you ask, but it looks very suspicious. before hiring a private eye or showing up at the sauna, you might want to sit him down, let him know you know he's been less than truthful and ask why. Maybe he was setting up something as a surprise for you. Maybe he's in pain and seeking holistic help without you knowing. Maybe he wants alone time and didn't think he ahd to tell you. Maybe he's beginning a romance that's out of bounds. The point is, you won't know until you ask him. I might suggest you open it as a discussion rather than a confrontation. People tend to get defensive and shut down when put in a corner. Good luck.
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Only you can know that. Try seeing if he acts differently when you're alone with him.
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Sounds like it to me. Any time your partner lies about where they're going and what their doing is a red flag to me. You need to flatout confront him on what you found. But then again if he's been lying you're just going to get more lies. The next best thing would be to show up at the sauna so he knows his been nailed. And then pack your bags and find somebody better.
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I think you just answered your own question. if you feel it in your gut then its probably true. confront him.
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If it looks like a duck, walks like a duck, gets text messages like a duck... Well, you know what I mean.
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I'd say yes... Don't waste your time with him.
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A gay sauna? :o
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maybe he feels saying he is going to band practice makes it sound more man-ly than going to the sauna & maybe he thinks you might want to come along and he is meeting his guy friend(s) for some man on man time and he doesnt want to tell you incase it hurts your feelings? :)
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Sounds suspicious, by sauna does he mean knocking-shop?
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then things don't add up then there is a problem that must be solved.
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