I have 2 boys11yo and a 8yo the other night I walked in their room to say goodnight (an hour after we told them to go to sleep) and the older one was on the younger ones bed and had his pants down and had his mouth on his penis. I am lost and need help!

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• see this is the first time i have caught them but my wife has caught them doing "stuff" together and we didnt think anything of it and just let it go

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  by Anonymous on August 17th, 2009

• I think it would be helpful for your comfort level, as hard as it may be, just to have a conversation with them about sex. Completely ignoring it may cause issues in the future as they get older, where as just having a nice, non-judgemental conversation can be a way of informing them. At that age, especially the younger one, the views on what sex is, etc, are very narrow and generally misguided.

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  by Elfie on August 17th, 2009

• ok im gonna do that now any suggestions?

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  by Anonymous on August 17th, 2009

• Honestly, I'm not sure. I've never had to talk to a male child about..well..anything.
  
  Best way to start may be just to discuss if there are any people at school they really like, etc. Don't focus on what they do together. Just discuss what they think they know, etc. Perhaps speak to them seperately so they're comfortable speaking without the other there.

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  by Elfie on August 17th, 2009