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  • This is going to come off as really mean but if the guy cannot support a child he shouldn't have taken the risk and kept it in his pants. Otherwise this is a difficult subject. Having an abortion can be a very wearing on a girl. Both physically and emotionally. The fact that he actually asked her to have an abortion says something. All in all, it's his child he should be there for it in any way he can. And yet again, didn't mean to offend but this is what I think
  • I personally think no; that's probably going to score me many negative points, but that is my opinion. When the decision to have or not to have a child lies exclusively in the hands of one party, and the other goes on record as being against it, they should not have to bear the burden.
  • More correct, the question should be, can he be sued. If she can prove its his child, he can be sued for child support in some states. I hope he learned an important lesson about using birth control. Why is he not financially able to support the child? Is he really young and jobless? And its her body so ultimately, its up to her what she will do with it, including having a child if she chooses to do so. If she has stated she doesnt want any involvement from the guy, he needs to get that in writing and signed in front of a lawyer!
  • it took both people to make the baby and a guy can't think that it all ends with the fun part .... that's the thing with kids having sex .... if you aren't responsible enough to be a parent, you aren't responsible enough for sex
  • In my opinion, if a man tell his counter part that he does not have the money to support a child, but is much in love with her, and he suggests that an abortion happen, but the woman decides to keep the child, in my opinion she is on her own financially as far aas the child is concerned. (Let the Negative Comments Roll In)
  • no but he will be and they will prolly make him pay i think this is a conversation you should have before you have sex with anyone you should ask are you also ready to have children with them because even with protection things happen.
  • if a guy doesnt have the financial funds to support a child than he should at least try to have the finacial funds to buy himself some rubber. when a guy does not want to have a child he would make up any excuse possible in the book to not take care of that child. the court would not care one bit about if the guy wanted to have a baby or not, they are gonna see it as if you did not want to be responsible for your actions than maybe you should not be looking for actions and keeing your shit in your pants. i personally would never put a guy on child support because at the end everyone regrets what they do and if a guy doesnt want my child oh well, they are the ones who are gonna suffer when they feel ready and their already old enough child hates them...that to me is enough.
  • Absolutely. You made the same decisions to have sex and not use proper protection as did the woman in this situation. Your decisions lead to consequences. This consequence here is a child. The child is yours and is now partially your responsibility. Welcome to the world of personal accountability. I hope you do the right thing for your child so that it knows both parents and has a decent upbringing. Not because you have to, because you want to.
  • She didn't get pregnant by herself so yes he should pay child support. If you don't want to or can't pay for a child then don't have sex.
  • Legally, it is the woman's decision to go forward with the pregnancy or not. The father/sperm donor is legaly responsible for all costs incurred, including child support. The courts don't care how much you make, they will take a portion of it to care for the child. It is not going to make for a happy Dad, but that is what is going to happen. If she's smart, she will name him as the father on the birth certificate and then sue his butt for as much child support as he can afford. It takes two to tango and the court will support that. The court's interest is to protect the welfare of the child. Hopefully, he will use this as an example that he must take his responsibilities seriously.
  • Believe this or not, if the father is a minor and the mother to-be is a minor, both parents can be liable for the care of the baby. yep, you heard it here folks. If this is not the case. financially able or not, the father will be sued in civil court for support. not financially able, in this case, means exactly what? if you are employed, the court will see that the baby is supported by you. Yes, it takes two to tango, but someone has to be responsible for the infant. It cannot support itself.
  • This is a tough topic, yes it takes two to tango. Yes he chose to do the deed. But she made the choice to keep it, he had no power to change that. I think that legally yes he is responsible, but morally if she knew his feeling (especially if befor having sex) about having a child, then she should respect his stand and accept sole responsibility. That said, what kind of jerk would actually not try and help
  • Legally, ou have to because of the wide contraception methods available, I'm not even talking about abortion which is a last resource after all the other ones. But, your life can't suck that bad, there's got to be a good job after all the crappy ones. What they can do, is give you at least the opportunity to do somehing for a better job and just ask for back payment after. remember, it's your kid.
  • Without any doubt he should be! At the end of the day it is the womans choice to have the baby or not, he is the father therefor he has responsibilities for it! There is only one case I have ever heard of where I have thought the father should not pay support, and that was when the mother was a multi-millionaress (lottery win) and the father was working 16h a day and earning maybe 250 dollers a week (take home) and paying 200 per week in support!
  • If he was willing to have sex than he is responsible to help support the baby.
  • yes, you play, you pay. simple.
  • Yes, he needs to get off his butt and get a job. He knew bofore hand she could still get pregnant and it would be his responsability to help raise and care for the child. If he doesn't want to have to deal with that then he needs to keep it in his pants. And to pressure someone he claims to love to kill the child is just selfish and shows he doesn't love her. The only time I don't think a guy shouldn't have to pay is if he can prove she tricked him into getting her pregnant.
  • ABORTION IS NOT A FORM OF BIRTH CONTROL.
  • In short, yes. Presumeably, both of the people involved knew when they had sex in the first place, that sex is the leading cause of pregnancy and children, and that you can't ever assume that sex, especially unprotected sex, if that was the case, won't result in pregnancy, so it could very easily be argued that both the mother and the father effectively made the decision to have a child when he made the decision to have sex. And requesting that she have an abortion does not qualify as a reasonable effort to prevent an unwanted/unexpected pregnancy, the only thing that could be considered a reasonable effort on his part would be to have kept it in his pants in the first place. When he gave her the er... Required materials, he forfeigted his right to take it back, once the deed was done, virtually all rights passed over to her. Also, I would say that it is virtually impossible for a person to be literally "Unable" to provide financial support to their child. Just about anyone can go out and get a job, it's usually just a matter of getting off your arse and finding one, and if they are pysically unable to get a job, then they must have some source of income, else they wouldn't have any money to support themselves. Ergo, they must have *Some* money to put towards the raising of their child.
  • So, just because he says he can't support a child, he shouldn't have to? So what if the woman also can't support the child? What then? I'm sure she's not exactly thrilled about having a baby with no father, but on top of that she's supposed to carry the financial burden of this child for the rest of her life and he gets off scot free because he won't get a job? Bottom line; If he can't financially support a child, then he shouldn't be having sex. Just because you don't WANT a child, doesn't make you any less responsible for them once they're born.
  • In my opinion..yes. His responsibility is not absolved just because he can't deal with the reality of consequences. Emotionally or financially. It takes two to make a baby...they are both responsible.
  • to ask us if the man SHOULD be sued leaves it up to a persons morals and opinions...technically he CAN be sued, it took two people to make the baby, and it's going to take two people to raise the baby. He can ask for the abortion, but obviously he cant get it without the woman's doing so...the couple should really talk things out in a civil manner, for the child's sake and future.
  • i would be surprised if the girl in this equation actually wanted to keep the baby for the child's sake, rather than just being spiteful and sueing for the monetary end of it. it's also part of the womans fault too, because she slept with someone she likes enough to do it with, but has the cajones to sue them anyway. it's definitely a two way street, but the fault is almost always more on the men.
  • if your mature enough to be sleeping with girls and getting nthem pregnant , then your mature enough to get a job and try to support this baby. i know it wasn't planned and you don't want it, but in a few months time there will be a child in this world who will grow up to ask where it's daddy is.
  • I honestly do have a problem with the way things are set up, a woman's right to choose can condemn a man to 18 years of child support whether it's his choice too or not. Yea yea he shouldn't've had unprotected sex or whatever but except in cases of rape, every decision leading up to the pregnancy is shared 50/50, why should the choice of keeping the baby and/or requiring child support be entirely up to the woman? For the record I am pro-life and could go on & on about this subject, but that's my answer to the question.
  • yes he should be, it takes two to make a baby,If he wanted to make sure he didn't want a baby,he should have took the percautions and wear a condom. but since he did he should be a man and own up to his responsibility.
  • Yes he should just because he wanted her to kill her child which he prolly expected her to pay for to does not mean he gets to pretend its not there that is selfish and imature. Oh yes its just as much the womans fault but trust me raising that baby cost more than she is getting in child support. And does nobody relize that if the guy gets custody the woman has to pay child support?
  • yes. abortion is plan b. if he didn't want to get a girl pregnant, he should have considered the reprecussions before that pregnancy test came out positive.
  • Crude answer, but: If you breed them, you feed them!
  • Yes, the guy should pay child support. He had the enjoyment of creating the baby. And, just because he couldn't get the woman to make a horrible decision that would effect her life forever.. doesn't mean he should get off from paying child support. Take responsibility for his actions.. and be a man. That's what he should do.
  • it his relative ;parent ?
  • Without question. A man should be responsible for his children, it's natural, it's always been right, and this will not change. The thing is his taking responsibilty for his 50% of the deal does not absolve the women from her 50%. He dipped his wicked and she spread her legs and they both had a great time. Both should buck up and take responsibility and do all they can to provide their child with the best life possible financially and, more importantly, otherwise.
  • Aye..In the U.S men have no say in whether the child is to be born or aborted. So once born..congratulations to the world of fatherhood ;)
  • There is such a thing as adoption, if the child is unwanted by one parent, and the other parent has no way to support them. it really seems the best option. Especially since the question states that the father is not just unwilling, but not financially capable of supporting the child even before the lawsuit. but that's just my opinion.. legally he's fucked.
  • I think he should have thought of that before having sex with her. Same with anyone.
  • Yes you can forced to pay child support. You can give up all parental rights to the child, and maybe the mother will not sue you for support.
  • Where were you when you were created by your biological mother and father?? Duh, when you were born did they say, "Hmmm lets see, do we go through with what we already did?, make a human being?" This child has as much rights to live the best life possible as you and I do and the two who made him/her have the responsibily to give them that.... no choices at this point..it was made when they had their playtime... sounds like that's what sex was to them, consiquently we all have to stand behind our behavior, choose wisely. nuff said
  • The fact that she is the one choosing not to abort does not mean the father does not have to pay. There are many ethical, moral, and religious reasons to not have an abortion - that is, to many of us, killing a child. If the male does not wish to be financially responsible for it, then he should not indulge in the process. The question has it's own answer... If a guy GETS a girl pregnant. He did his part. If all he ends up responsible for is SHARING the financial burden, then he is lucky. He will not have to carry it, birth it, change diapers, feed it, walk the floor with it when sick, worry about it, teach it, discipline it, or love it. He will just have to fork over some money for the 'error' he made. I neither want, nor care for children, but I feel strongly that were he to choose this route, he loses out on a great deal.
  • Yes. Sex does have consequences. Good and bad. If the girl does not want to have an abortion, you should respect her wishes. Sad to say, it is not good to bring a child into the world when you're not prepared to have one, nor bringing a child in the world when you do not wish to have one. She will be able to sue for child support as long as you are claimed as the biological father (DNA test). You will pay child support until your child is 18 years of age. If you are not financially capable to support this child... you and your child's mother will need to discuss how to make ends meet and where you want this relationship to go in the future. I do not know how old you are, but... if you are young...I would suggest your parents and the girls parents to have a meeting discussing the financial responsibilities. This point in your life may be stressful but as long as you have a plan things will get better. You will need parents or grandparents to help watch the baby when you're working (that will help with not paying for a Nanny or a Child Care facility)...it depends what you want. Additionally, since it seems from your question that she will have this child no matter what. I suggest when you have the meeting to discuss financial options, etc.. to discuss a financial plan long term for the child. For example, will you have a college fund for the child, and start also planning for retirement.
  • Yes take responsibility for your own Semen. You don't want to have a child use proper precautions to ensure that you don't get a woman pregnant. You might not owe her anything but you owe that child a life.
  • Yes , he can still be sued for support , of course
  • If you cannot afford a fifty cent condom and use it, you should not be having sex.
  • you can give the child in a house of adoption, is the most solution
  • You had the "right" to put a condom on if you didn't want to be a father. You chose to not do that. The girl got pregnant. It took two of you to create this child and legally two of you are responsible for the care of this child. So, yes, you should be sued for child support. Maybe next time you decide to have sex you will wear a condom so you don't create another child you don't want.
  • hell yea she did him a fav now its his turn 2 pay the pric3 ya dig!!
  • No matter what, he is responsible. Good for you for not getting an abortion. You can't think about him, you have to think about your unborn baby and you. I'm sure you both knew how to prevent pregnancy and you/he didn't, so now he has to take care of his responsibilities. This baby is going to happen so yes he should have to pay child support.
  • Most definitely. It takes two to tango, and it's wrong to expect a woman to abort her child because he doesn't want to deal with the consequences of pulling his pants down.
  • Yes you should have to pay child support. That's why you must use protection if you don't want a child or you are unable to support a child! You shouldn't kill a child by abborting it! Use protection!
  • yes thats the easiest only way you can get out of it if you were tricked in to getting her pregnant but you better get a lawyer NOW if you wait the later the longer it will go against you
  • Yes...He is resoponsible for child support regardless. If you are not married the court will order a paternity test of the child....if it's your child, you are 100% financially responsible, even if you did not want it. the way the courts see it is if you did not want a child, you should not have engaged in the act of making one.
  • You jerk. You choose to have sex and made the baby and you are responsible for it. You have no right to ask the woman to kill her child because you were both irresponsible and you don't want to pay. You are sick!
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  • If a man has no say in the choice of abortion, he should not be forced into the consequences later on. What about a man who wanted to keep his child but the little slut wanted an abortion? To the woman: your body, your bastard. Take care of "it".
  • Yes. If you can't deal with the consequences, keep it in your pants guys! You do the deed, you deal with what happens, or you are a coward.
  • a good relationship with your children.. Step1There are a few ways to avoid paying child support, no matter if you have a divorce or paternity case. Step2The easiest way is to get joint physical custody. That means the child lives with you half the time and the other party half the time. This is easy to do if you live near each other and the child will still be in the same school district. If the parents don't live near each other or in the same school district it can work up until the child is 4 or enters schools. Step3Another was to avoid paying child support is if you or the other parent lives out of state and you have to travel/pay money to visit the child. The transportation expenses for the visitation may off set a weekly support order. If you are on any type of public assistance you can't be ordered to pay child support. TAFDC or EAEDC. http://www.ehow.com/how_2182532_avoid-paying-child-support.html check out my other articles
  • Sorry big guy. I suggest you get out and find a second job if need be because you are responsible for that child.
  • That's what birth control is for. Condoms are alot cheaper than supporting a child.
  • Yes. He should be placed on child support. You made the decision not to be protected. If the girl doesn't believe in abortion then why should she have to raise this child on her own. She didn't make the baby by herself.
  • When you engage in behavior that has certain reasonable risks you need to be prepared for the potential consequences. Unless the guy was raped or the semen was collected trickery, ie. removed from a condom, the guy is responsible for whatever happens with the seed he has fired into a crowded uterus. If you fire a gun you are responsible for whatever damage the bullet does whether the result was intentional or not.
  • If he can't afford to pay, he should have never played! What kind of question is this? Because you can't afford a child you request the child to be aborted, because it's not aborted then their is no reason to help support it? It takes an egg and a sperm to make a child. I haven't heard of an asexual adult yet or cloning. If you can't afford a child don't have sex. At the very least wear a condom.
  • Yes he should. After all no one forced him to bonk her, it's just one of the risks / responsibilities you have to accept with sex.
  • Absolutely. It's called taking personal responsibility for your actions. Maybe next time he'll be a bit more careful.
  • See questions like this get to me. Man the hell up Dude, you were man enough (and her woman enough) to screw around sexually then when crap like this happens its like the two parties go dummy up. Yea I am sure the next thing said will be you thought she was using protection........well why the hell didnt you rubberize yourself. What happens now is THE CHILD pays the price for the stupid act two so called adults made. Sad very sad
  • if he isnt "finacally prepared" he shouldnt have sex without nowing the consiquents
  • Yes because he could have not had sex with her.
  • Okay for this you must realize that it's a woman's right to "choose". What that means in practical terms is she can: 1. Abort the baby and the man has no say whatsoever 2. Adopt the baby and/or give the baby away sometimes in exchange for a generous cash settlement and the man has no say whatsoever 3. Keep the baby and force the man under threat of imprisonment to pay her for 18-24 years. The state gets a generous matching federal grant, dollar for dollar for every penny they assign you in child support so it will *high* as the judge has a vested, pecuniary interest in getting as much as possible. It's rather like allowing the police to keep the money they collect in tickets and further allowing them to set the amount you must pay for speeding. But it's all "FOR THE CHILDREN!!!" so its all justified. You see women have "choice" but NO responsibility as feminism inc. is all about the accumulation of power without having to pay for any of it. If you challenge any of this you'll hear it "takes two to tango" but brother believe me it will only be YOU who pays child support! If you challenge this you'll hear that you should have "kept it in your pants" but anyone who suggests that the woman keep her legs closed is being a meany poo, a dinosaur, unprogressive, whatever. Women can accept no responsibility for their role in any poor behavior they show, period, and that plus the state is what you are up against. So sorry to say yes, your only you are liable, and your only option for freedom from this slavery is to leave the country. I hope you have a second citizenship lined up. Otherwise you will be a slave for 18-24 years and perhaps much longer if you can't keep up the payments and don't expect ANY sympathy if you lose your job, get injured, or can't find work. If that happens they'll jail you and the prison will force you to work (slavery again) with your $1/hour going to the state to hand over to the woman for more crack. If you refuse to work they'll throw you in a cell where you'll be raped and beaten until you agree to do what you're told. Life in the good ol' USA, land of the free, with the largest prison population on the planet.
  • In one word.........yes. Its not all about the money though.

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