Sounds more like he's afraid of you finding out something he doesn't want you to know. Too much baggage, even if he's not cheating on a wife or girlfriend. Get out before he throws you away when he's done.

Ooooh, be wary of this one. If he is openly discussing a mistrust towards commitment, he's put forth all the warning signs you should need. Several scenarios: I. He's not over past hurt yet. He's no good to you then. And he won't trust you. II. He's just saying this, so you'll never bring up the topic of commitment with him. III. You're a convenience for him. Nothing more. My bet is on number one, though, due to the frequency of contact. Sounds like he's needy because of his hurt.

Well this isnt really an answer but i find myself in the same situation...calls all the time comes around (not always for sex) hangs out but doesnt want a commitment you tell me we are fools is what i think.

He's scared

He is still recovering from another relationship.Take things slow and see what evolves.

I just went through this for 11 months with a guy. He ended up leaving for a girl he did want a commitment to. Tell him you don't want a commitment either and think it would be best that you spend time apart so you can find someone you want to commit to. I bet he will freak out and chase you if you push him away. Make him work harder to see you. If he works harder then he might be interested, but most likely he isn't, you are just a crutch for him in his hour of need. Think of a guy you don't really like as more than a friend, but who you like hanging out with -- that is how this guy sees you. What ever you do -- do not tell him you have feelings for him and do not tell him you love him. He will freak out. Wait until he says it first if he ever does.

He's just not that into you. Next!

well I've been this guy and still am. it's a combo of things, past hurts, just not that attracted to you, and he's calling cuz he's trying to be friends. guys hang out with each other that often all the time. some of my guy friends complain that I don't call often enough (just like a chick lol)

Yep, I agree, "He is just not that into you" waiting for someone else to come along or already has someone and is waiting for her to come back after she finds out about you. Your being stringed along here so if you want something move on......he aint worth it!

killing time on you.. sorry for that

Maybe you should try IMPLYING commitment so he knows he wont get hurt...

This is a tricky one.. and it probably doesnt have just one simple answer because it could be any number of things.. He might really be afraid of getting hurt especially if he just got of a really bad realtionship.. Since you said you never implied a commitment maybe you should try talking to him and telling him how you feel. And if you don't feel comfortable doing that or talking to him doesn't work if you really like him maybe the only you can do is wait it out for a little bit.. Prove to him that if your interested in being in a relationship with him that you're going to hurt him.. Be his friend first and see where things can go.. If he sees that he can trust you then maybe he will change his mind.. If not then dont wait.. Life is too short and there are plenty other fish in the sea..Good luck!!

I'm facing the similar problem. i see him practically everyday and he calls me few times a day and yet he's just not that into me....its bee 3 years. Time wasted and but stupid to say i'm so into him.... i just don't understand.

You'll never let a guy take you for granted ever again if you read this http://www.amazon.co.uk/Men-Who-Cant-Love-Commitmentphobic/dp/0871319993 You shouldn't be taken for granted and sounds like this guy has got way too comfortable with his 'cake and eat it' situation. You need to reclaim the control of this relationship. You set the pace, you set the times when you see each other, be more unavailable. Most importantly start living your life more like you did before you were seeing this guy. Never change the pattern of your social life dramatically until he has proved that he really values you. Go shopping with the girls on Saturday afternoon, go to your class on Wednesday night, out with work friends on Friday night, whatever. These are the some of the things that made you attractive in the first place. Also, this is part of the foundation which keeps you on an even keel, when and if, things go wrong in relationships. For now, keep him at arms length emotionally to protect yourself from his personal internal conflicts. I know this is hard if he's calling the shots, which may have already unbalanced the power of the relationship into his favour, and which is driving you nuts! Remember, men love the chase, it's what piques their excitement it's in their genes (it's why they love adrenaline sports, hunting, F1 racing). If you are making it too easy for him, there's no challenge and he begins to undervalue your worth because he hasn't had to work for it. Think about it, where's the excitement in a soccer match when other team has no one in defence! Look after your end of the pitch girl, only let those guys through who have really proved their worth and don't leave your goal unattended. Good luck!