ANSWERS: 4
  • You mean in an argument? I would support them if I agreed. If someone made them cry, and I thought they weren't being mean, I would probably them (the child) to explain to me what they found hurtful, and go off of that.
  • Get over it? That isn't exactly rolling up one's parental sleeves and getting emotionally involved with a child who needs guidance through this! The first priority IS getting involved with the child. It isn't helpful, at first, to tell someone they're wrong when they are so emotional, though. All it does is create a worse sitiuation for them emotionally, and send them the message that they cannot trust you to come to you when they need someone. Very damaging indeed. Once the support has been established in the conversation, THEN discussions can begin that will help the child understand the whole situation, and process it in a healthy way, which does include helping them see what their mistake was, and why. Deconstructing a situation without blame benefits the child, and results in priceless gifts that will serve a child for the rest of thier lives. +5
  • I always support my kids (and they're adults now), but that doesn't mean that I always think they're right. If they come to me for advice, then I give it to them straight, and in that case I would point out places and ways where their interpretation of a situation could be incorrect, their facts or assumptions in error, or they were using faulty logic. But only when asked. I gave up "coaching" some time ago. They're past that now.
  • I would be mad at any adult that made my child cry. If they can't handle the situation better than that they should call the child's parents and let them handle it. Then the parents can make the child cry.

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