Perhaps the ultimate reconciliation occurs beyond this plane..somewhere above and beyond. You die when it is your time. Being reconciled or not doesn't make any difference. You are wherever you are on the path and if it is your time to go you go. :)

It's best if you are on good terms with all people before you die, but sometimes death comes suddenly and without warning. Kinda makes a good argument for staying on good terms with everyone, yes? : )

We are fundamentally all interconnected - on this 3d, 5 sense plane and beyond to infinity. There is no seperation between ourselves and those who have departed, and the connection between is formulated through our collective and individual memory. Reconcilliation is a process of interfacing authentically, sincerely, and honestly with that memory through to the dearly departed (or those left behind) and communing with them. It does not require a medium or priest to allow you to do this as we are all blessed with this gift. Whether you are dead or alive our connection to each other is eternal, and unconditional love is the effulgent nectar that vascillates through one and all. Find that place inside of what ever or who ever you are, dissolve the temporary corporeal illusion of seperation, and send your healing love not only to those you are dreaming of but into the stars and cosmos beyond, helping others looking for reconcilliation to do the same. Imagine a myriad network of delicate threads of light communicating like an awesome internet switchboard for the divine cosmos connecting all consciousness together. We all suffer in Maya, and rejoice in being found again. Namaste