My husband has had a lower sex drive than me since our son (This is unusual) Do you think he is less attracted to me b/c of the 'baby scars'?
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Hmm. You MIGHT just be assuming. It could be many other things, and of course you could also be imagining that he has lower "drive".
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No. Wouldn't it be nice if we had the same sex drive as our spouses all of the time? Through married life there are times when his will be lower and sometimes when yours will be. I doubt very much he would find you less attractive because of baby scars.
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I honestly and truly am almost positive that can't be right. You are such an awesome and beautiful girl. I have heard that the men feel like your body isn't really "his" anymore after you have a baby. Have you tried just giving him lots of attention and making sure he knows that you still have a desire for him? The 4 years that I have been married haven't always been completely balanced when it comes to sex drive. We go in phases I think. Right now we are on a every other day phase, but both of us have kind of a libido dry spell here and there. It's all about communication, love. Just let him know exactly how you feel and please don't think it's your body that is the problem.
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With the lights out, who would know! No, I think that he is suffering from sympathetic postpartum depression. Or maybe he is worried about finances or something
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Since I can't read minds, I don't know. But some men experience less attraction to their wives after birth because they see her as a mother and not as a wife, so they feel as if it's somehow wrong to sleep with her. This may be your husband's problem, particularly if he is a mama's boy. On a more positive note, maybe he's backed off because he is not sure that you have enough energy for sex and he's giving you space. Try initiating sex with him and see how he responds.
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no i don't think its you and i wouldn't blame myself if i were you. there are so many reasons why. finances, your a mother now not just a wife, the changes the baby made in your family. just too many reasons. but don't blame yourself. have you asked him or talked to him about it?
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If that's the case, he's being a real ding-dong. More likely the addition of the child to the relationship is having that effect. It's not just you and him anymore.
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My wife is 6 months younger than I, in the 30 years we have been married on my best day I could never keep up with her. She wants sex almost every day. Between 12 hour work days and her sexual appetite, it was killing me. That is why we share with our friends every once in a while. It started one evening when we were on vacation together, we starts to talk about sexual stamina and how strong of a sex drive we had. My friend’s wife and I said that we did not have much stamina in bed, while my wife and my friend said that they could go on for hours. His wife and I then jokingly said that they should see who could last the longest, a while later they went into one of the bedrooms. His wife and I sat and talked for a few minutes, laughing about what our spouses were doing. Later we went to see for ourselves what they were really doing, when we opened the door we couldn’t believe our eyes. They were so busy that they didn’t notice that we were watching them. His wife and I were turned-on by watch we saw and went to the other bedroom, the rest is history.
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i think maybe you should have him try viagra inviting someone else into the bedroom is asking for trouble sooner or later. maybe you should consult a doctor before taking advise to cheat on your husband.
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