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  • Well, you could blame Satan, or you could realize that it was just an accident and that probably no one else thinks about it anymore. Accidents happen, just move on and live.
  • I had a head-on collision last September and it was my fault - I had drifted into the other lane. Fortunately the girl in the other car was not hurt, and neither was I, but her car went up the verge and turned over and she was four months pregnant, so we were both very lucky. I've had a lot of trouble coming to terms with it because I know it was my fault. I was tired, coming home from work on a friday night after 7 solid days at work and I think I started to fall asleep. Both cars were a complete write-off. I have tried to block it out, I still struggle with it to be honest. I have to try and accept that these things happen and that I am fortunate it was not worse. In your case, though people were injured, no one was killed. I have to live with the guilt and move on, and say I have maybe learned a lesson and am older and wiser. I thought I would never drive again after the accident. I had nightmares about it, and the scenes were always surfacing in my brain and made my stomach turn over. I felt such guilt I thought I didn't deserve to ever drive a car again, that I would never drive again. My boyfriend drove me to and from work in the months since then. We used the same route, and I had to close my eyes as we went through the street where the accident took place. I still take a detour of several miles rather than drive that way again, the guilt makes me feel like I am being stabbed in the chest. A month ago I bought myself a car. At first driving terrified me. I didn't feel I was good enough to be in charge of a car. But I am getting used to it, and I try to tell myself that I had been driving for 6 years before I had the accident, that everyone makes errors of judgement or is careless or makes an error because they are too tired. I have to make a conscious decision to bury the thoughts about the accident and move on. When it happened I thought about going round and apologising, but what would I say? She had her insurance payout and made a large compensation claim against my insurers, and I figured that she would rather forget me than be faced with me. You just have to try and move on, and accept that a one-time error, no matter what the consequences, does not define you. The other people in the accident will have healed and moved on with their lives. No-one died, and you can't even afford to speculate about what could have happened. You need to allow yourself to move on.
  • I had the same situation, and I couldn't stop thinking about it until the settlement came, the lawyers for the insurance companies arguing and getting copies of the memo's really made it worse. The settlement didn't come until 2 years 7 months later. But the guilt gave me high blood pressure which snowballed into other stressful situations and now I'm pretty much been on meds for 14yrs. I guess just accept you are truly sorry, even if it doesn't offer the others any peace of mind. They can't all be good days.

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