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by spongebob on March 9th, 2007

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Whats the best position to use when having sex with a virgin for the first time?

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  • by Anonymous on April 4th, 2007

    Anonymous

    Your head between her legs for a start. She needs to be aroused and thus lubricated, because the penetration of the vagina for the first time can be painful - anything slippery helps. I would suggest the Spoon position, because that way she can feel like she has some control over the penetration, rather than panicking because you're on top of her. You can also directly stimulate her clitoris in this position (with your fingers), whereas in the missionary position the clitoris is indirectly stimulated by the man's pubic bone.

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  • by gamergirl on March 9th, 2007

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    missionary...it works VERY well for both people involved...its the most comfortable and if you really love eachother you can share that moment together...

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  • by Ram on March 24th, 2008

    Ram

    Missionary position is the best position. Start by making her very wet and then put the head of your penis in first slowly and gently leave it there for a little bit,then advance in slowly ,very slowly. You are kinda dilating her vagina and slowly breaking the hymen. Do that until you are all the way in then go in and out slowly and gently. All this time you are holding her hands and telling her that you love her and asking her if she is ok and if it feels good. Believe me that is the best feeling both of you will have and it will be a memorable event in her life and yours too if you are virgin also. Make sure you have some towels to clean her(some traces of blood)afterwards because that will show her you love and care for her and that it wasn't just some macho goal that you wanted to accomplish. Believe me because I've had sex with two virgins. My first virgin was 14 yrs and the second was 15 yrs old. I was much older but, for that reason I was experienced enough to know what to do. I know these girls (ladies now) remember me for wonderful experience in their past. Good luck :) A.R.

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  • by --angel_fire-- on March 22nd, 2007

    --angel_fire--

    Very carefully, and very gently. Sex for a female isnt always comfortable the first time

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  • by ChicChick on March 27th, 2008

    ChicChick

    Personally speaking, I think Missionary.
    It allows you to have that personal connection with your partner. Considering that it is the first time, being able to look into the eyes of the person you're with would seem to be a great thing. Plus, it also allows the guy to gauge how painful it is for the girl. If she is wincing in pain, he can ease up.

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  • by elizabeth on April 6th, 2007

    elizabeth

    (Your head between her legs for a start. She needs to be aroused and thus lubricated, because the penetration of the vagina for the first time can be painful -) any type of lubricant.... and missionary position.... the two of you looking each other in the eyes will get your nerves to calm quite a bit

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  • by EyePod on March 23rd, 2007

    EyePod

    every one you can think of including strapping her legs over her head.only joking

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  • by Crazy is looking 4 Imperfections. on September 27th, 2007

    Crazy is looking 4 Imperfections.

    Doggy she'll cum back for more

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  • by venessa on May 28th, 2007

    venessa

    her on top. partly so she doesnt feel controlled. but also i dont think the pussy is as tight in this position
    when i lost my Vs it was painful underneath, felt much better on top.
    but not sitting up! cos i felt too exposed. girl on top, leaning forward so u can kiss and do all that romantic ladida

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  • by garnorche on May 3rd, 2007

    garnorche

    Have her ontop to work at her pace.

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  • by Anonymous on March 23rd, 2007

    Anonymous

    If she's a virgin, I'd try anal first.

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  • by American idle on March 23rd, 2007

    American idle

    RELAX...mentally as well as physically-in any position.

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  • by Anonymous on May 17th, 2009

    Anonymous

    I had an intact hymen and was worried that having sex with a man for the first time would hurt. However, on the advice of a female friend who had previously had the same issue, over a period of several months I gradually stretched my own vaginal opening through masturbation before I ever had sex with a man. After my boyfriend and I decided that we wanted to have sex, we didn't try to have intercourse the first time that we got naked together, but rather, we gradually got more physical over a period of another several months. Because we went very gradually, the masturbation and the later sex were painless. Although the quick and painful way might have been simpler, the way we did it was well worth the time, especially because of the care and intimacy that we developed in the process.

    A woman can do the following either alone and/or with her partner. The two partners need to have a caring, trusting relationship established in order to do this. Ladies, someone who truly loves you will have the patience to go slowly with you if that is what you want. Try foreplay for a few months, gradually working up to the point where her hymen has been stretched enough that she can have intercourse without pain. Start with lots of talking, kissing, hugging, fondling, a full body massage, a bubble bath, or what ever makes you both feel cared about and turned on. The first few times, just finger the outside of the woman's genital area. Stop as soon she asks you to, and wait until next time to get more physical.

    After, she's comfortable with this first step, try putting the very tip of your little finger a little bit inside her <a href="http://www.livestrong.com/article/12495-the-vagina/" title="vagina" style="", class="stronglinks" target="_blank" />vagina</a> (and be sure your fingernails are clipped short and filed smooth). Do this when she is secreting lots of her natural lubricant, and also add an additional store bought lubricant. Go only as far as she is able to go without discomfort. If this is uncomfortable for her, stop and wait until next time. If she is not feeling any pain or discomfort, ask her if you can put your little finger further into her vagina. Most women have small holes in their hymens, so you can put a finger through one of the holes, and gradually (over months) stretch the hole until it becomes larger. If comfortable for the woman, leave the finger there for half an hour or more, in order to stretch the hymen and vaginal walls. Do this on several different occasions.

    After she's comfortable with the steps above, try your index or middle finger, using the same gradual process. After a few months, she might be comfortable having two fingers inside her vagina at once. A little bit later, try an object, such as a small dildo. You can work up to larger dildos. Always stop as soon as she gets uncomfortable.

    After she can go this far without any pain, put the very tip of your penis inside the opening of her vagina, without any thrusting. As the weeks or months go by, she may gradually become more comfortable allowing you to put your penis deeper into her vagina, still without any thrusting. Remember to use lots of lubricant, and only do this when she is aroused. Keep the lines of communication open throughout the whole process. Repeat this until she is comfortable having your penis completely inside her vagina.

    When she's ready, start with some very slow, gentle thrusting. She may want to be on top, so that she can control the pace and depth of the thrusting. The two of you can go faster and deeper as this becomes comfortable.

    Have patience, and adjust this advice to what feels right for the two of you.

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  • by Chaysgirl24 on September 27th, 2007

    Chaysgirl24

    I'd have to say missionary with the guy on top!

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  • by TIGAKAT on March 21st, 2007

    TIGAKAT

    i wouldnt say there's a "best position" it's what makes you both comfortable,being the "first" time then it should be special!!! and only you too are the ones to make it a rememberable moment!!

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  • by parrib1 on April 17th, 2009

    parrib1

    Well I have to guess there isn't good position to have sex with a virgin for the second time.

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  • by Crazy is looking 4 Imperfections. on September 27th, 2007

    Crazy is looking 4 Imperfections.

    Doggy she'll cum back for more

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  • by ChicChick on September 24th, 2007

    ChicChick

    When I had my first sexual experience, the guy was on top, in the missionary. He was really patient and stopped at the first sign of discomfort, but I'm not sure if that is the best for everyone. If the guy is patient and willing to take his time, then maybe. Otherwise, I would say having the girl on top would allow her to do it at her own pace.

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  • by SG QOTABD RIP SHELLA DARLING on March 23rd, 2007

    SG QOTABD RIP SHELLA DARLING

    humm you should go slow and gental , with her under you , and make it romantic too. candel light dinner , sappy love songs being played in the background , and a nice fire in the fireplace if you got one .

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  • by mooseica on September 20th, 2009

    mooseica

    i have to say the missionary position. i haved sex twice, my first time was when i was 15 and my guy almost stopped because he said he saw a lot of pain in my face but i told him to keep going becaus i wanted that moment to last forever the second time was easier because i didnt feel any of the pain i did the frist time but the millitary position was great for me because i got to see my lovers face and the feeling he had for me were written all over it!

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  • by Agent 88 on August 1st, 2009

    Agent 88

    The male sitting up (prefrably on a bed) and the female kneeling on top of his lap. This way they will face each other directly face to face and she can go at her own pace and there is also there is the ability to stimulate the citerus while engaginging in sex

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  • by Indyla on January 15th, 2009

    Indyla

    Missionary, man on top. Not only for virgins. It's been my favourite position everytime for years. I find sex much more fulfilling this way.

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  • by bianca.esteban on September 2nd, 2010

    bianca.esteban

    First of all, though this isn't related to logistics, EVERYONE should understand this before they begin - beware of the power of sex. It's intense. It's the best you'll ever feel and because of that it can mess up your head and your heart. Sex does not equal love, I'm afraid. Most of the time, sex is an extremely enjoyable PHYSICAL feeling. Love does come into it, but it takes a long time (at least a decade) to even understand what you want 'love' to be - during that time, you'll make all kinds of mistakes, decide what you like and don't like. Both 'love' and 'sex' will be much easier and less traumatic if you understand that they are different things and it's possible to enjoy them both separately as well as together. Young girls (and guys too) often think that because someone is enjoying having sex with them, it also means they're in love. Wow, sooooo not the case most of the time. Young girls also think that if they're having sex and they're NOT in love, it makes them a slut. That is also soooooo not true. Girls can learn about sex just as much as guys can without messing up their heads and their hearts and they should NOT be labelled as sluts. That's a double standard that men enjoy the privileges of and women pay the price. GIRLS: Enjoy sex for what it is, enjoy a guy purely because he's got a hot body, or a big cock or a cute face or whatever, and then move on if nothing more about him interests you. GUYS: Quit hogging the playing field. Call a girl a slut and you can pretty much count on her (and ALL of her friends) NEVER having sex with you again. Pickings get very slim when word gets around that you're a disrespectful dumbass prick. Do it too often and there'll be no one left who doesn't think you're a complete asshole. The trick is to decide what you want to get out of sex before you start having it. If what you want is a loving, devoted relationship, sex alone is not going to give you that. I slept with many men for a long time because I thought they would grow to love me. I ended up damaging my own self esteem a great deal. Now I have a much more liberated approach. If I want someone, I work out what it is about them I want. I absolutely DON'T spin a fantasy of true love around it, then I'm open and honest about what I want from him. If both sides are totally honest with themselves and each other, no one can be hurt. Be confident about your sexuality, if you like something devious, well, hell, who doesn't? Try new things (But be damn safe if you do) you never know what you might like until you try it. Same goes for guys too. Just because you're attracted to another guy as well as another girl, that doesn't make you LESS of a man. Personally, I think it makes you MORE of one because you're not insecure about being a man. Plenty of girls would rather have a confident, sexy, liberated guy who swings both ways than an insecure homophobic 'macho' guy. Same goes for girls. Stop obsessing about appearing to be one thing so people will 'accept' you, just be yourself and be damn good at being yourself and you'll end up having lots more fun. Just remember - the power of sex over your life/your heart/your head is much more than most people realise. It's ok (in fact it's smart) to simply enjoy it for what it is as long as you are not hurting anyone, as long as you are safe, safe, safe and as long as your are totally honest. If you think someone isn't being honest with you, play it safe and don't go there with them. It's never worth it in the end. Remember, sex doesn't equal love, the person you're with won't be the last person you ever have sex with so don't put pressure on yourself or on them to be 'truly in 'love'' when all both of you want to do is have some fun. It's totally fine to experiment and have fun for fun's sake, just be discreet and respectful, be safe, be honest, don't kiss and tell and be grateful for the wonderful gift of their body and the pleasure you felt. If you break guidelines like these, if you have terrible sexual etiquette, chances are you'll just end up with no one wanting to sleep with you. Then it's GAME OVER :)

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  • by ShhSecret on January 7th, 2011

    ShhSecret

    Well, my first time was great. Not because of the feeling but because I was with the guy i was in love with (and am still with him to this day). =) Communication is KEY. He asked if I was okay like every 10 seconds. We did missionary so that we could talk each other through it (it was his first time, too, so that just made it completely amazing). It hurt ALOT even though we had hours of foreplay but as soon as he saw I was in pain (and even though I said keep going), he stopped. We rested for a while and tried it again. We went slower and it worked the second time. You just need to listen to her. Some guys just dont understand how special a moment that is for us girls. I just got lucky enough to find one guy that does. And now we're engaged. So take it easy; you might end up with your soulmate.

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  • by Doğu_A on May 2nd, 2011

    Doğu_A

    no matter the position.. all are good.. just ry to satisfy the girl and be a bit tender.. and do it professionally.. not awkwardly.. and push till the end into it.. this is the main chance for a man to hurt the girl.. because probably after this sex she will not look at you and will have herself fucked by many others.. do it harshly... and get orgasm on her breasts... she will never forget the first fuck you did..:)

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  • by Diamondlove on July 26th, 2010

    Diamondlove

    The best way is to lay the girl on her back so that her stomach is flat then insert slowly that way the penis won't be forced back out like if u tried it doggie or in riding postiton.

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  • by abbey712 on June 30th, 2010

    abbey712

    Start off with some loving tell her everythings going to be fine, then gradually rub her cliterous until soaking wet, then its time to go down and get messy at this stage her pussy will be drenched. Whilst doing this turn her over her onto her back and stick your cock in fast an hard dont take no for an answer, the next stage is the ripping of the anal.

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  • by RebeccaJean on February 21st, 2010

    RebeccaJean

    Missionary.

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  • by RebeccaJean on March 13th, 2010

    RebeccaJean

    Missionary.

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  • by jazzer654321 on June 9th, 2010

    jazzer654321

    Answer to a young guy with a big cock who doesn't want to hurt his g/f...You are right to ask this question, as whilst most girls enjoy looking at and playing with a really big cock, it could be frightening for her especially if she is young and has not had a boy's cock up her before. Has she played with it and realised how big it is and is she really ready for intercourse, cos there are lots of other things to enjoy including oral that you can do togerther. If you really both want to fuck, however ( and I'm sure you both will) then take it really slowly, use plenty of lube - especially if you are circumcised as uncircumcised cocks tend to be moist and that helps. Start by giving her oral and bring her to a climax before you start - that will get her loosened up and ready to be penetrated.Use a condom unless she is on the pill, and make sure her vagina is tilted up to line up with your cock - use a pillow or have her squat over you and slowly lower herself at her own pace. Use either slow pressure as you get your head inside her lips, then try making tiny little thrusts until you get it all the way into her. then STOP and wait for her to get used to the feeling of being stretched wide before you start to fuck her. when she is ready start to thrust in and out up and down, try to keep the knob inside her then strt going faster and faster until you are really fucking her hard. Be patient and don't hurt her but when she is ready she will love it. To get it all in grip her buttocks and pull her towards you as you thrust into her.
    good luck!

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  • by RebeccaJean on May 23rd, 2012

    RebeccaJean

    Missionary. That's what my xbf and I used when I lost mine. It's still my favourite.

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  • by TravNasty on May 21st, 2009

    TravNasty

    Rough, angry anal

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  • by DrDrew on January 15th, 2009

    DrDrew

    Missionary. First start off with your head between her legs to get her warmed up. You have to be face to face for that intimate moment. Use lube and rub your head on her clitoris before penetrating. Ease in to her and tell her you love her. Then go to town! Flip her over and throw her around. Try anything, try anal, just get that nut!

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  • by dr do me on January 15th, 2009

    dr do me

    good point drDrew. if that doesn't work, try doing a dude. its extreme.

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  • by RebeccaJean on February 18th, 2010

    RebeccaJean

    Missionary -- guy on top.

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  • by funlvncwby on July 28th, 2008

    funlvncwby

    My exgirlfriend showed me a position that is great with a virgin. Since penetrating a virgin is usually painful for her, you have to give her the freedom to pull away if you are inserting too quickly. It will be painful if her hymen is still intact before you insert. Lubrication is the very most important key as far as the physical aspect. If she does not get wet enough on her own then you will need lubrication. Make sure you use something water based or it will get very sticky and make matters worse. While the female is laying on her back, have her raise one leg. the male now slides down so that her unraised leg is between his legs. The female can now lower her leg. it basically looks like an upside down "T". this will allow each to have plenty of eye contact and communication. Sometimes a virgin will wince if something hurts because she will be too scared to say anything in fear that she will hurt the guys feelings. The male can also stimulate her breasts or clitoris if it excites her in this position. this position takes all the weight of the man off the female but still keeps the stimulation of the missionary position.

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  • by roger on January 31st, 2008

    roger

    jus be gentle and slow and bear in mind it's the brain that controls everything, mentally and phisically.if you make no rush and show respect, who's on top is no problem. DON'T GOBBLE.

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  • by #1babe on September 7th, 2007

    #1babe

    i started out missionary. I told him that i was scared. So he took it easy on me. He told me he would warm me up first and let me deside if i wanted me. U need to have good communication with your partner. This will help you to loosen up and not be so tense. You want your first time to be pleasure and fun. Once u start and get into it u will no ur limit and the man needs to respect that. Sex is fun and should be enjoyed.

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  • by Wanderer on October 21st, 2007

    Wanderer

    spoons, it allows her to have good penetration but still be able to move clear if she gets uncomfortable as well as not having to worry about the guy grunting and heaving on top of her or trying to cope with rising and falling if she is on top.... also possibly less embarrasing as she won't have the guy looking directly int her face and she can compose herself.... well that's what I think as a guy - probably got it all wrong ... ho hum!!

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  • by Anonymous on April 14th, 2009

    Anonymous

    I would suggest the the frontier position, or maybe even the rabbit position.

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