I also want to clarify in over 200 charachters, that, our relationship is solid and amazing; I find myself thinking, 'we deserve each other,' in the most positive of respects. I feel we want the same things from life, as far as values and family; he has the upmost respect for women and family; I haven't been with him that long (under 1 yr), but I really love him. All the complications that exist in our relationship are external to him and I. The problem: he married young and foolishly; he was completely in love, but the wife just wants money from him (which he doesn't have) and is contesting the divorce; it could be up to a year and a half before he is given a divorce, then he wouldn't be able to marry for another year after. Then, for us to get him into the U.S. legally, well ... it's not as simple as hopping on the marriage train (I've done a lot of research), and if something went wrong he could be forced out of the U.S. for a period of 3 - 10 yrs. etc. etc. I feel lucky to know him and have his love and his heart in my life. I've truly never known anyone as generous and well-intentioned as him. But, the years of struggle in our (potential) future is terrifying.