If a guy says he can't afford to buy a girl the ring she wants (it's $600) and offers to buy a $100 one instead, then later on he announces plans to buy a GPS and a new car stereo, does the girl have a right to be angry?
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lonelydragon
ANSWERS: 36
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oh, try to enjoy the GPS and the stereo to the fullest cos you so not gonna get laid! +2
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Hell Yeah you have a right to be angry, I know i would be pissed that means he is taking the other 500.00 to buy his gps and his car radio, Talk about being selfish shame on him
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if she's an imbeisile she does.
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I can only answer for myself. I would be very angry. I think this sounds like a sign that these two people need some serious discussion about finances.
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Lonely if the guy can't afford $600 you should probably leave him anyways. He's probably not going anywhere, and his spending on top of that? I'd think you deserved better.
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I'm a guy but I feel comfortable saying that in that situation, I'd be pissed. Not because my ring cost $100 (I wouldn't care if he got it from a pawn shop for $20) but because he was playing games with me.
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Depends on how later but yeah, she has a right to be pissed. . Wait. What kind of ring? If this is an engagement ring, yes. If it's a ring-ring then no, not really.
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No. That was then, this is now. He didn't have the money then. So, he bought what he could afford at the time. It's supposed to be about love, not material things. What if you offer to buy the GPS and car stereo?
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No point in getting angry. But consider his priorities before saying 'yes'. You may want to reconsider the entire relationship.
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well yeah i guess she could be a little angry but i bet he is going to suprise her hang in there ok cause u never know what men are thinking!!!!!!
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Honey I'm not saying this because I'm a guy. This is because this is how I feel about the situation. I assume by ring you are speaking either of a promise ring or an engagement ring. The cost of it should not be as important as is what the ring stands for. It's a symbol of his love for you and his promise and comittment to be yours and yours alone for the rest of your lives. Are you that petty that you're gonna moan and cry about how much he spent on the ring? If this is a one time thing then just let it go and be happy with what you have. If he continually tells you he can't afford this or that when it comes to you but then goes and blows lots of cash on himself then it tells you he's an insensitive ass who only cares about his own needs and you'd be better off not marrying someone like that.
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I'd say y'all got bigger problems than a ring
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No, get your priorities straight...........
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As others have said, the point isn't the cost of the ring but his priorities and ability to be honest. This would certainly be a red flag moment for me. He might be giving you a very telling look into your future;)
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I felt the same way back in my first marriage, when I was horribly sick (you don't want details). My ex was on his way to the store anyway, and I asked him to pick up some medicine for me while he was out. He said sorry, he didn't have the extra money for medicine. Then he came home with some record albums he'd bought, after telling me he couldn't afford the medicine I needed. That burned me. Yeah, if he tells her he can't afford to buy something for her, then later spends even more on something for himself, I think she has the right to be miffed.
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Well...for one NOBODY needs a GPS. It's not hard to find your way somewhere, it boggles my mind the idiots that rely on that now. You shouldn't be angry though, I mean should he be angry that you want a $600 ring? Should he be angry that he doesn't get to spend HIS (I'm assuming) money on something that maybe he's been saving up for? You guys both sound greedy, and also sound like a couple of chumps who aren't ready to make that step where rings are involved yet.
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I guess I come from a different place and time. When my boyfriend and I went out to get a ring, I wanted the most economical one possible (i am frugal) and we put it on my credit card and he paid me back for the ring. The ring was just a way of showing that I was "off the market" for other guys. I don't think $600 is a lot of money for a ring and I don't think you are a gold-digger. Maybe this guy should wait till he has more money to get you the ring you want before he gets these other toys.
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In all honesty I think you should be a little upset, what does this say about your relationship later on? He sounds selfish and it seems hes not really buying the ring for you, but just to take you off the market. If the ring had truley been for you, he would have made sure it was one you liked. When my husband took me to pick out a ring, he told me there was no price too high for his heart. I picked out something fairly reasonable and he paid every week until it was paid for.
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The reason he could not afford the $600 ring is because he was already planning to buy a GPS and a new car stereo! Duh!
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Not only should she be angry, but she should see this as an indicator of where his priorities are and where she stands. Now, I can understand that if the guy is totally lacking a sense of direction, that a GPS would be cost effective, with the price of gasoline being what it is. However, I think that he should postpone the car stereo and listen to good old AM, if need be. It would show that he is willing to make a sacrifice for his woman. Well, that is what I would do.
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I would be hurt and angry myself. It tells me that he is putting himself before your relationship (the ring is a symbol of your relationship). Maybe it was immaturity and stupidity on his part this one time, but if he has a pattern of doing things like this alot, I would be seriously concerned. It will only get worse after you are married.
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I'm not sure if I have the right to decide what feelings she has a right to. Personally, I would be annoyed/angry at him for lying -- I can certainly understand not wanting to spend money on something, as I am poor (also, I don't have much in the ways of marriage values, so I can't fairly say /exactly/ how I would feel about the ring itself), but I would be irritated about him lying rather than saying outright that he doesn't WANT to spend that much money on the ring. That way, we could either agree (together!) to buy a less expensive ring, or we could split the cost.
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Honestly it sounds like you shouldn't even be thinking about getting engaged. Your worried about the price of the ring... and he's worried about getting a gps and car stareo. That ring is supposed to symbolize your love for eachother. It doesn't matter how much he spent on the damn thing. What matters is your wearing it for the right reasons. I didn't get to pick my engagement ring... I don't know how expensive it was... and I don't care... because I love the man I'm with. Neither of you have your heads on straight.
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It sound like he doesn't realize the importance you're putting on the ring. If you just doesn't know that the ring is important he could be thinking that the GPS and stereo are more sound investments (which they're not). Truthfully, it doesn't seem like he's fully committed in the relationship but he has the right to protest against a more expensive ring. But to the point, he disregarded your ideals and you have the right to be angry.
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I wouldn't be expecting an expensive ring in the first place. If you're going to be that demanding, you kind of, well, you know, deserve it.
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it depends, was this an engagement ring, or just a gift? are the two of you planning on a future together, so it best to not "waste" money, on (lets be realistic) trinkets, but rather useful tools? (my husband spends probably 70% of hos day in the car for his job, and a gps and stereo, would actually take precedence, to a ring. you seem torn about this, and like you really dont want to be angry. when my husband proposed, he was broke, i got a $10 ring off the street marketers of Peru, he later had that ring set in to my platinum band he offered me on our wedding day, it was gorgeous, but it was the $10 ring that started it off..dont chalk this guy up to be a chump, just yet..there are way more important things to be angry over.
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Rings can be put on layaway. So, technically he could afford the ring you desire. But the real issue here is that what he wants, is more important than what you want. If he's not willing to put off his own desires to take care of yours he just isn't a considerate person. And he's probably never going to be. Whatever mildly annoys you now about him, over time will become a bigger issue. Do you want to deal with this one? The other thing I would think is that he's not ready to commit to you. I wouldn't be angry, but I would take this as a "heads up" to pay attention to the person he is and not who you want him to be.
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Is it an engagement ring? If yes, I think the guy is being cheap and distasteful. Otherwise, no, I don't think the girl has a right to be angry. Its his money, he made it, he can spend it how he wants to. If she wants a piece of jewelry that doesn't do anything, why doesn't she buy it herself? At least GPS is helpful, and a stereo is entertaining. What does a ring do? pointless.
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Yes, It would the girl feel that the guy was more Interested In buying something for his car... The best thing the guy could do Is to try to save-up more money and to buy that girl the ring =)
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HELL YEAAA!!!!!! FUCK YEA!!! DAMN YEA!!!!!! DEFINATELY YEA!!!!!!!!!!! ABSOLUTILY YESS!!!!!!
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Yeah i'd be pissed. First because he's in a way lying to you i guess or not being completly honest. He's putting his wants before your relationship. Rings can go on laybuys in most places anyway. So he could have got you the ring you desire if he really wanted too. And i don't think $600 is too much to ask anyway!
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Spending $600 on a ring is hardly worth anything, not because the guy is cheap, but because diamonds are so expensive. That being said, the guy doesn't seem to "get" the emotional value or the investment value of a decent stone. He's still busy playing with toys. Without saying a word, he let her know exactly where his own values lie. What's more important - spending the money on a girl you are planning on spending the rest of your life with, or buying toys? That would easily piss me off. +5
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Why does ANYONE need a GPS... unless they're going out to sea?
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I'm not sure this guy is ready for a commitment, he's too into himself. I once had a date who said that if he didn't spend all his money shopping for himself, that he would take me out that night. Guess who accepted another date? He didn't catch on and later asked me why I didn't wait for him. LOSER
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Don't be angry. He likes you...but just likes Garmin and Bose a bit more. Maybe you should postone the date a settle things first :)
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only if he doesnt splurge on the double wide
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