After an extremely violent marraige I find myself unable to socialise "normal". Any ideas on how to overcome this?
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Associate with 'normal' people (whatever that is). Join a club, go to classes at your local college, see a psychological counselor. In time, the feelings will get less and less noticable.
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Keep socializing and you will get better.
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Start going out with relatives. Then with your close friends. You can also start going to school to help you get back into the swing of things. Make sure you keep yourself busy, eat right and start exercising. Find a job you enjoy and start being independent. I would recommend taking martial arts. I am glad you got out. If he hits you again, go to the police.
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I ended an extremely emotionally abusive relationship and went through the same thing. It takes time but eventually it gets easier. Just relax as much as you can and try to roll with things. If it gets to be to much, make your excuses and leave.
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You have to learn to accept that you are worth getting to know. Violent (abusive) marriages tend to make one spouse (usually the woman) lose all of her self-worth, self-respect, and self-esteem. The violent spouse (usually the husband) continually tells the other that they are worthless, no one (but he) will want them, etc. After hearing this enough, and being beaten, the beaten spouse begins to believe this. Sounds like you are there. You may need some counseling (psychological) if you can't get yourself out of the "I'm not worthy" mode. If you can, join a support group of others who have been in violent marriages. They've been through pretty much the same things, so there will be something you have in common to talk about. As your confidence builds, then you can and should start venturing out and meeting new people. Sounds like you can gauge your socialization skills, so you should be able to tell how you're doing. Good luck. ;-)
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You will be just fine Congratz on getting out of that situation, very proud of you Just keep going,take your time and your confidence will soon come back
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