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  • How often does he do it? Once in a while is fine. I know if my husband went out drinking regularly, I'd be pretty pissed (and vice versa).
  • Why don't you go WITH him? +5
  • I can see why you're upset. Maybe you're jealous of the time he could be spending with you. Why don't you tell him that you'd like to go out with him, too? If he continues to go out drinking a lot, you should find your own group of friends to go out with. There is no need for you to sit home playin Penelope when he's out carousing.
  • You should go out without him and make sure you come home after him...Thats what I will do, if he has to go out drinking 1-3 he i with other woman or looking for action...
  • WOW I THINK THAT U HAVE A REASON TO BE ANGRY AND UPSET I HES COMING HOME THAT LATE! TRY TO SET A TIME TO WHEN HE CAN COME HOME.... LIKE AT 12.... WUT DOES HE SAY ABOUT IT? HOW MANY TIMES DOES HE GO OUT A WEEK? LET HIM KNOW HOW YOU FEEL....
  • You need to get a life. By that I mean do not be so dependent on him that when he goes out, you sit around feeling sorry for yourself. Get an interest of your own, develop a hobby, go out someplace by yourself. Partners are not supposed to become joined at the hip. You should not 'need' him to 'make' you happy. A partnership is supposed be two people sharing their life, not living it.
  • Several solutions are to be thought of.. 1. Leave or threaten to leave and don't make idle threats.. 2. Go with him. 3. Tell him to stop or number 1. Alcohol make life to easy to do these things and i did it for years. I never once cheated on my partner, but I was an alcoholic and liked hanging out with friends at the bar. Non-the-less you have to set down your own expectations and not let people walk on you or they will. it's that simple really. If he doesn't want to live with your rules or expectations then find someone who will. You don't have to put up with this like my ex did for so many years. I DID finally quit drinking and it's not why we broke up..actually i think it was because i did quit, but I'm not sure. ;) She still drinks very heavily. :/ If that picture is of you you shouldn't have ANY problems finding someone who will stay home with you. I know i sure would, but then again, I'm an old man now. LOL
  • I suspect you get angry and upset because you hope he will be home by a certain time and he disappoints you. In fact he can disappoint you several times a night if you look at the clock and think, 'I can't believe he's not home yet!' . There is clearly a double standard here and it is not fair to you. . I recommend open honest dialogue. Failing that, you need to start going out and coming in after he does now and again. THEN have the open and honest dialogue. . And, perhaps most importantly: what does 'sooky' mean?
  • I don't think he is considering your feelings at all when he does this. I don't think i could be even close to loving when he came home if this was a regular thing. I do not think going out with your girlfriends more would help because where is your mind going to be the entire time? On HIM! Your more patient than i am i guess because like i said if this was regular fireworks would have blown the roof off our house. Lol. Like it or not your going to have to find a way to approach him & tell him how you feel. His reaction should be a good indicator of his feelings. Good luck.
  • Honestly I've been in your situation and it sucks. I'm sure you've tried talking time and time again to your bf, and nothing seems to get through, he wants to go out with his friends, but you can't go out with yours - you have to stay home and wait til he gets home, no matter what time that is, 1, 2, 3am. I could be wrong, I'm just taking a guess. That's how it was for me. I was miserable, and for my own reasons I ended up leaving (after a while for many reasons) my bf. But I suggest that you have a long talk to him and explain to him how you feel, what tends to work for me is when I keep it on myself, saying that 'I feel....' not 'You....' and just tell him that you're not going to put up with that behaviour anymore, and stick to it. I really wish you the best.
  • I would feel upset too. It's like saying he would rather spend his time there than with you. That's a crappy priority. Good for you for trying to be all complacient and not get upset, but I think you are justified here. His drinking is hurtful and unhealthy for your relationship.
  • I have been married for 20 years. My wife and I have found a balance between time together and time with friends. Sounds like he can, you can't. Not an equal divsion. If he can, you should be able to. If he has a problem with you going with friends, he should see that he's doing it and why can't you???
  • I suspect it is because he has cheated on you in the past, you know he's cheated on an x, or you know his friends are cheaters. It could be insecurity in yourself or in the relationship too. You DO NOT trust him, and why is that? I'm sure there's a specific reason, and it's nothing you've done. Why would he want to go out with his friends without you anyways? That's not love. That's not a relationship. He sounds young.

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