ANSWERS: 32
  • If you are sincere and truthful when you say that you "really love him" then YES, you should take him back. But before you make that decision, ask yourself do you really love him? Or are you just telling yourself that, it is so cliche to say "I really love..." but most people do not, in my opinion, really mean it when they say it. Real love, means that you truly want the best for the person you love - even if being with you is not the best for them. If you really love him, then you will love him for the rest of your life wheather you are with him or not - real love is a very strong and enduring thing. Keep in mind that he might not really love you (and he might be incapable of the kind of commitment real love requires). He might really love you, but just can't or won't control his desire for other women, as wrong as it sounds, this very characteristic in his personality that caused his infidelity may be something you love about him. When he cheated on you, he may have seemed cruel and uncaring about your feelings, capricious and somewhat immature. At other times, this same aspect of his personality may make him seem very resolute, ambitious and aggressive or passionate to you. So, if you do in fact "really love him" then go ahead and be with him - since your heart will be with him your body may as well be next to him. Now if you are going to take him back, both of you will have to come to terms with this cheating business, it happened once and will probably happen with one or both of you again. Both of you should decide how you will deal with it if it happens again.
  • As a general comment: it doesn't really matter how one loses their virginity. Don't let emotion about a minor biological event cloud your thinking process. The person you first have intercourse with is simply the first. Look at the personal relationship and make your decision based on that.
  • it is up to you and how you feel i thnk that everyone in the whole world deserves a second chance but sometimes you have to listen to your heart and your mind at the same time
  • no way - he's a loser! My boyfriend from school who i lost my virginity too, ended up cheating on me - we had been together 3 years mind you! We got back togetheher after a year, and things seemed fine. One afternoon he came around to my place to tell me it was over and he was already dating soemoene else! He ended up engaged to her and he cheated on he, dumped her and found another girlfriend! So, the cycle goes on, don't ever think because he says he's sorry it won't happen again, that shit only exists in fairy tales i'm sorry to say!!!
  • No you shouldn't take him back, lads never change no matter what they say, was speaking to a mate of mine who cheated on his girl of two years and said would you do it again, his answer? of course he would. Now I went out with this girl who used to be with a lad who cheated on her constantly and treated her like shit, exact same as you, first ever love and first sexual partner, together three years, but she fucked him off for good last year, we were together for 5 months and she told me that she loved me more than she ever loved him and how i was the best thing in her life, now we broke up a few weeks back and i'm totally broken up about it, the reason? because she saw her ex and hes weaseled his way back into her head and our relationship I feel has broken apart because of it. now there are a lot of other reasons why but no major ones, now i'd been doing all the right things, treating her right, showering her with affection, taking her away for romantic weekends, always telling her i loved her. But after the break-up she changed towwards me and said she had no feelings for me anymore, now no-one changes how they feel for someone in the space of a week, i've just realised i've been doing everything wrong since then, telling her i wanna meet and that i love her and miss her which her family have also got involved in which made her feel as though i was trying to get them on my side, so now i'm just gonna not bother trying to get her back and make her realise just how good what we had was, thing is she is my first love and first sexual partner as well so it's hit me really hard, but now i'm just gonna have to let her realise what we had. Do not get back with your ex, cos he won't change, he'll probablyjust do it again cos he knows that cos you got back with him, you can't get over him and he can do practically whatever he wants in the relationship because you let him back in.
  • If he fooled you once, shame on him...but if you let him fool you twice, shame on YOU.
  • love is blind.....and no one's perfect....only you can make that decision.....and if you don't take him back, would you regret it in the future...or do you think your life would be better without him.
  • MmM Im going through same patch. My ex i was with for just over 3 years, he lost his virginty to me i never with him, but he was always such a lovely lad and every1 new he wudnt cheat. But it took my mate to catch him and ring me and tell me, When then split, and he now keeps ringing me everyday asking for me back saying he has made a mistake only problem is he came to mine the other day crying i later on found out off his friend that he had been with 2 girls previously before he came to mine. So im so stuck on what to do aswel. I do love him but i dont know if i could trust him anymore
  • if he really cared about your feelings, he wouldn't have sampled other women while he was in a relationship with you. these other girls must have found out what a selfish ass he was and dumped him. sometimes we make mistakes and have to live with the consequences. i would not encourage you to take him back.
  • Don't do it! If he reaaly loved you he wouldn't have left you for a temporary fling; he wouldn't risked losing you. Do you think he would forgive you..if tables were turned?) only you know what's best for you. If you're questioning it.. that's telling you something, there's a doubt. You deserve 100% and you'll know if he really wants to be with you. IF HE CAN'T LIVE WITHOUT YOU... THEN CONSIDER TAKING HIM BACK. lET HIM CHASE YOU HEEL OVER HEELS.. HAVE FUN AND DATE WHILE HE WAITS
  • never ever no move on get over it. Move forward NOT backwards. The best has yet to come and he lost the priviledge of your love and affections. If you take him back IT WILL HAPPEN OVER AND OVER AND OVER AGAIN. he will have the green light to sleep with whomever and will know a little begging is all that is required to get back in your good graces. are you that easy?
  • NO. Are you stupid?! You know the saying.. "Fool me once, fuck you."
  • wow.. sounds like i went through that... i started dating my ex when he hadnt completly broken it off with his then gf of 4 years. i really liked him and his gf lived in another continent so i didnt minds when he told me it wasnt officialy over. i fell completly in love with him, he said he had never felt this kind of love eve though he had been in love many times, i lost my virginity to him, we were planning on getting married, and then one day he tells me he cheated on me. i was so in love i told him it was ok and we would work things out, that i knew our love was stronger and he said he couldnt be with me knowing what he did. a week later he was in an official relationship with another girl and completly falling for her. i started finding out he had cheated on me many times before and after a few months he told one of my best friends that his current gf was the first one of his colletion of girlfriends that he hadnt cheated on... which shows... he always cheats! at the moment i would have taken him back immediatly, but now, after all i know i feel like an idiot for even loving him. guys who are players will always be players.....
  • I just been to the same situation. I had been with a woman that i lost my virginity too for 2 1/2 years. I ended up finding out after we broke up that she slept with a friend of hers. Now she is with another guy about a day after we broke up. Coinsidence? No. but im not being Biased. Either sex makes the choice to cheat. But There are some that are willing not to go that path. They are hard to find but they are out there. Im still searching for mine. Don't consider your first love or the first person you lose you virginity to as the person you were meant to be with. That typically never happens. You lost your virginity to him or her and that is basically it and you will never forget. Keep your head up.
  • let me tell you in my own exprerience cheating can be forgiven and you can move on from it and the cheater may not cheat again. im not saying you should take him back im just saying not everything is black and white some situations can be forgiven and even understood. how long have you been together whats your relationship like with him? this is what youve got think about not your virginity
  • No me and my boyfriend been dating almost four years,and i lost my virginity to him. We now have two beautiful girls together.He cheated on me more than i can count on my hand and toes.He kept making promises that he would change. He would change for about a week or two to get on my good side, but he was back to his old ways. Now we have broken up,and me my kids have left state. Now he regret doing it and want to get back together. It took me leaving to make him realize that i love him but i had enough,and that he really had something good. So i thought you should take him back because his going to keep doing it. Take it from me and my experience wants a cheater always a cheater.
  • Wow! Absolutely, he left you for someone else, it didn't work out, she dumped him and now he's back saying it's a mistake. The virginity thing is big!
  • hmm thats a tough one. relationships are always about trust and obviously you trusted him enough to loose your virginity to him. i say go for it, everyone deserves a second chance,
  • you can give it a try if you really love him...but you have to be very careful...make sure you think it throught before saying yes..
  • naaa he sounds kinda like a jerk
  • Only if he says he will never do it again and means it. I doubt you could ever really trust him again. It would also have to depend on the circumstances of the cheating ie. was it a moment of weakness or had he been seeing the other woman over a period of time?
  • well i think it depends on how long yall have been toghether, if he loved u he wouldnt hve cheated on u, but then again maybe giving him a 2nd chance will prove whether it was a mistake or not, but i highly doubt it
  • I'd say no, but it really depends on the situation. How long have you been dating? In what context did he cheat (who, where, when, etc)
  • I am 56 years old and I can tell you now that once a cheater always a cheater. If you take him back after he cheated he will do it again as he thinks you will take him back again. He showed you that he had no respect or feelings about how you feel at all by cheating in the first place. Kick him to the curve and find a guy that will respect you and be honest to you. If you stay he will cheat again and not treat you right. Do yourself a favor and respect yourself more than to get stuck with a guy like that.
  • It took me many years and a few failed relationships to learn about true commitment and true love. Having a relationship that grows stronger must be based on more than physical attraction and more than what seems right for the moment. I would wait a while before even considering taking him back. Passing of Time has a way of helping, and/or healing, and/or working things out. If you rush back into the relationship, you'll probably be right back where you left off. And be clear in your own mind what real relationship is.
  • take him back, if you really love him it might workout if not shit on him like he did to you
  • I'll tell you what my best friend told me once: "Honey, it's your life." If you are willing to compromise your own principles... If you think so little of yourself that you are willing to elevate your ex-boyfriend to a higher position... If you think of sex as a form of communication... If you plan to live in a marriage of convenience... If you don't mind that the person closest to you in life is someone you can't trust... If relationships to you are meaningless... If you don't mind a dark cloud hanging over you years from now... If you're prepared to be the one who's snubbed the next time that your boyfriend meets someone... Or if you are crazy enough to think that it won't happen again... Yes. But if you want someone who thinks like you and will always treat you with respect... who will set a good example for your children and will give you happiness, peace and serenity throughout your life, the answer is No! Just the fact that you've asked the question means that you are hesitating and take it from someone who's been around the block: once a cheat, always a cheat. It will get worse; not better. He obviously wasn't all that thrilled with you the first time; don't think that it's changed because the only place it's changed is in your mind. Not that this applies to you but I'm tired of hearing from bisexuals who insist it doesn't count if the person they engage in sex is a member of the same sex. These are the people who are so adamantly opposed to same-sex marriage. Cheating is immoral behavior inside and outside of marriage for heterosexuals. Cheating is cheating, whether it's with a member of the same sex or opposite sex. This is precisely why those people who oppose same sex marriage are IMMORAL, because they are promoting promiscuity and anonymous sex that lead us to multiple moral codes.
  • the answer is no no no!!!!Ive been with this guy (tim) right my first love I lost my virginity with him after a year of going out he breaks up with me telling me he cheated, 2 months later he comes back to me telling me he loves me and that he regret what his done that that was a huge mistake hell never do it again blablabla ok I got back with him (stupid me!!!)we had a fantastic 2 years after that he was my life I did everything for him we moved in together and life was great!yea.....up until 2 months ago when he told me out of nowea that it was over and that he was moving out, the day after he broke I met with one of his friend (kevin)kevin told me that Tim was already with an other girl and that he started dating her 2 weeks before he broke up with me, but when I asked Tim wat did he say?ofcourse not!!!and I believed him since about a month ago me and Tim are sleeping with each other again...I know dumb...and last week guess what I met his grlfriend ofcourse she didnt know I was his ex...and she told me theyve been together for more than 2 months haha so he cheated on me with her and now he is cheating on her with me!!!anyway what Im trying to say here is that once a cheater always a cheater and that what comes around goes around....have some dignity and pride for yourself if you take him back he is gna think wow well I can get this girl back no matter what and what does that mean?that he will do it again....and again...and again...I know its hard and he is probably gna try hard out getting back with u bust trust me your just gna end up hurt again!!!!Voila...
  • You haven't provided enough information. However, based on the information you've provided, I'm going with "No, you shouldn't take him back."
  • What does loosing your virginity have to do with him cheating on you? What you have to ask yourself is "If he did it once.. WHY? And will he do it again?" in the end you can justify ANYTHING. With enough lieing to yourself and ignoring facts, you can believe whatever you want. Its a matter of trust, bottom line.
  • that was stupid now im confused thatnks...
  • I wouldn't.

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