Ok look i have been in fostercare for 4 months and really want to go back to my dad what do i do to calm my nervs so i dont do sumin crazy

You need to learn a coping mechanism. I can't for sure tell you one that will work for you because we're all different.

Have you noticed an activity that you find calming? Maybe lifting weights, going for a walk or jog, playing solitaire, reading a book, shooting hoops, writing/drawing, listening to music, or punching a plush animal?

You need a mechanism that, when you realize you're getting upset, stressed out, or feeling out of control, you can stop what you're doing and do that mechanism instead. You need "me" time, but you need something specific to fill that time with.

Meditating is the classic mechanism but for most people it can be too hard to consciously shut down their minds: most people need something to lull their minds into that state (like reading or jogging or the other examples I gave).

Ideally, you want a mechanism you can do anywhere (low maintenance), one that isn't a CNS-stimulant (like video games), and one that doesn't have addictive properties.

A second thing that will help you in the long term is to get in the habit of organizing your thoughts and emotions. It sounds like you're in a passionate time of life, and your passions can destroy you if you don't understand them and if you can't control them. There is a place for passion in everyone's life but you also need reason and logic to contain those passions otherwise you will have a very hard life.

Sit down and think it through: why are you in foster care? Why aren't you in your dad's care? Why do you want to go back to your dad? Can you achieve that goal? How? What is your secondary goal? How do you achieve that? Is there anything you're doing that is counter-productive to the things you want?

I hope I helped!!

i feel your pain dude, if you run away i agree leave note, tell someone but dont let them stop you, also find GOD, he is the one that brought you to this site and let you leave this comment, try sports find hobbies.

I AM A 21 YEAR OLD MAN, WHO GREW UP IN FOSTER CAN IN FLORIDA FROM AGE OF 1 year old, white blond hair blue eyed boy !..I personally lived in the "system" for my entire life until i ran away when i was 16 year old and never looked back, i lived in 1 really good home that help me become and man, but they where only a family with big heart, no money, nothing to give but bedroom and good principles, they took in thousand of kids only to retire because of all the bad attention and people trashing there name, but i also lived in some of the worst homes out there,homes that made you leave the house at 6am not return until 8pm when it time to go to bed, the worst parts about the system to keep this short are as follows,
1.the people who where "considering adopting" like one kid, it was total joke it was like "rent a kid" then they throw you back to the system when you don't "fit in".

2.all the BS consolers and doctors pushing drugs down your throat if you do have the right attitude towards "the system" and accept there reality.

3.having white children in black home, sound racists im sorry but it was weird being the white kid, im sure it wasnt fun for the black kids trying to explain to kids at school why they live in white home either.

3. people who use blog threads and comment sections to make 3rd party comments, and stats about how bad the system is and talk about the people who come from the system and all the problems they might have or do have, and forget that the internet is forever and there comments will be seen by people from "the system" one day.

4. turning 18 years and no ones gives shit and the system no longer cares, yea it super hard to have NO family support,then the pay check stop, and then Obama passed credit card reform bill that say you have to be 21 before your issued credit unless you have parents co sign!..(ummmm what about the people who want to go to college? what about the 3 year before we hit 21???? me personally amex,visa have been the only parents to ever give me dime, of course at 30%,but now all the young people coming into the system are screwed.)

5. knowing that your simply a stat and test dummie for government that doesnt help anyone, and your only worth $600 dollars a month, until someone decides your no longer worth that much and shift you to another home or location.

6.allowing the school system to inform all your teacher of who you are and problems they might have with you?

7. parents who come back into kids lives after years of separation and think they can do the job better than the parents caring for the child, ( look if you gave up dont come back until you got damn good solution and reason why this happen, not one foster kid need parents to come back and pretend they did it right, or can do it right, if you come back, earn it, work your ass of to make it right even if you never will.most of all dont tell the people taking care of your kids what to do cuz your not the one doing it.

I could go on and on, but reality is im not helping by doing this,every kid or person that was every in the system that i meet became my sister or brother, i have lost contact with almost all of them due the shuffling game, some where true rebels without a cause just needed direction, just needed mentor,people who don't get paid to chill with them, but want to, i got lucky, im 21 years old and i attached myself to people who didnt mind mentoring me and my ADD good people who didnt give rats ass about my past which is good cuz it something people want to stand far away from, i understand there alot of good people in the system trying very hard and i tip my hat to you and say please dont give up, but there far more people who are not good and not helping and the government is the first people to look at, again the people are good, the government has its own intention for foster kids, remember we belong to them,we government property, who knows why im not with my parents,but every random soul i did meet who did try make difference, even if they dont know it,i will always remember and so will god...also if your in the system reading this statement know that there are force bigger than this world, meaning GOD brought you to this post, he is watching, stay positive,and find your pride, its deep inside, and when you do, where it like badge of honor, your true solider who made it on your own... and start your own family.

"i am watching", "i do listen", and "i just think no one cares"

I have story that way to long for this comment box but every one person can make difference, i devote my life to this mission and helping people, i hope one day i can truly make difference in foster system, but only with more people in our community who care about the neighbors.

I have been In care for 7 and half months now so dont think your the only one if its best for you run away have sometime to yourself somewhere safe but remember to leave a note saying you want time on your own and stay for a few hours then back u go sorry bad answer:(

Sorry, that's hard. I know.

It's all about stress-relief... you should not focus too hard on what's wrong with your situation. Instead, find things to do that you enjoy... learn things, play sports, take up a hobby, make friends -- in other worlds, live your life as if this is the way it's going to be for a while, settle in.

When you let yourself get too caught up in how badly you want to go home, you'll just make yourself sick. It's no good. If there's something you can do to help that happen, do it. But don't spend all your time thinking about it and daydreaming. Life is here-and-now.

I think what would help you most is keeping a journal. Write down your feelings. I was in foster care at one point and I found that it really helped me from going crazy. I wanted to go back to my real family, to my brothers and my mom, and my cat. I didn't care what everybody else thought about them, I wanted them back. Being a stranger in a place that you were supposed to be living is a real trip.

tell them you want some time with your dad and you may have visits if you feel its right try to let them go back to him this WILL take time so do not do anything rash

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i was in foster care for a wile i went mad the first 6 moths and because of that i had another 3 moths got mad then another 3 so if you want to get out behave. i did it but i used bad mothods. i was half awake every day and doing all kids of drugs.
four moths in foster care, if you realy want out talk to your social worker and tell them u want to talk about emancipation. if you got into social services because your parent abused u. u cant go back home untill you agree and your parents agree and take classes. so if you behave your social worker should want you to go home u might just need ta take steps for me it took 2 years and my dad had to take clases for one year but i went home wile he still had other clases. so good luck study hard and be good and your social worker will help u if they dont request for another one. one that will help.

hi sweetness

know this to be true...... you will be rejoined with your father, who misses you too. sometimes these things are necessary in life only to make you tougher.

sure....how much more tougher can you be? i'm sure your infirmaries will take you to a much higher level. in reality it is only for a night.

hang tough. that is all you can really do. prayer also helps. beg if you can to abba father. he will hear. he loves his children. i know.....trust me on this.

love roxy