Does being a bad loser, arrogant and determined to persuade people that they are right even if they are not, stem from insecurity and a fear of failure and what sort of up-bringing do you think that person had?
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"Does being a bad loser, arrogant and determined to persuade people that they are right even if they are not, stem from insecurity and a fear of failure?" Yes, definitly. "what sort of up-bringing do you think that person had?" A childhood where parents only praised success, andwhere failure was not ok, even it you did your best. I kind of had a childhood like that. +4
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Absolutely, they are insecure. I am not sure if the upbringing is the problem, I see people like this come from normal parents. I think that they are not very intelligent, but try to show everyone they are, which in turn makes them look really stupid. -
Sad person.Feel sorry for them,but don't let them step on your toes.*
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It could simply be effective brainwashing. If the parents keep telling the kid over and over and over and over and over that he/she is perfect, smart, better than everyone else and keep teling the kid that the family's beliefs are the only "one true right righteous way"..whether it be religion or politics or whatever..well, the kid has no chance to grow up being able to think, investigate, compare, discuss, decide. The kid is fed the family pablum from the get-go..so it could simply be the effective, long-term results of brainwashing! :)
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And, have you proven the person wrong or is that just your opinion?
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Just spoilt I think.
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If you're absolutely certain that they are wrong and you can prove to them infallibly that they are wrong then, stubborn or stupid, I guess. But, if that's the case, how did they ever get out of grammar school or get a job? It just takes a lot to convince some people that they are wrong. Look how many religions there are in the world and how many wars have been fought over it; look at how many divorces there are over irreconcilable differences. Live and let live, I'm OK-You're OK, are nice expressions but how many people really live that way? Right here on AB we've had verbal wars that if they were face to face I'm sure would have ended in physicalality. (is that a word?) I know that I'm very stubborn in my beliefs and hard to convince. Some things just have to be "agree to disagree."
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Let's take one such loser, for example: Dick Cheney. He exibits all of the traits that you mentioned and then some
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Mostly, people act like that because that's how their parents acted. There's kid down the street that has started acting like that and sure enough, he comes from a family where being right is a big deal. Some people overcome this, but others don't handle it as well.
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I was walking on our street when a depressed lady picked up a knife in front of her home and was swishing the knife towards me, I didn't mind her, but I was alarmed deep inside. when I got back home I told my (arrogant) cousin about it and he said, No Margaux, don't mind her, she is just showing off but she can never have the nerve of anything to hurt you, she's just a show off. thinking it takes one to know one, then I knew. that person felt inferior ever since childhood and the only things that makes him/her strong is their money or other material things he can show off. they don't know how to prove themselves more with either talents or smarts. they don't want to be looked down so they blind you with bling-blings instead. poor upbringing sad to say. may have lived on a poor or shallow community
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I think this is best said in two semi-fiction biographies. Read Ivana Trump's and read Donald's.
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I couldn't determine a person's upbringing based on these few traits. It could be that the person is just naturally stubborn. Even someone who is needy for attention could have been brought up in a normal, loving household. Not everything is a result of upbringing. Does it stem from insecurity and fear of failure? Maybe.
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I used to think about it, but now I do not care and just stay clear of people like that. They are not worth my time, even to figure out what makes them such disliked people.
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We live in an age of knee-jerk defensiveness. I am more and more appalled that people's instinct for self-preservation extends to situations in which a simple apology, followed by some introspection (and subsequent personal growth), is called for by simple decency. It's just another example of "because I am a person and have rights, my way [as stupid and idiotic as it may be] is valid. So don't you dare try to point out what you think is a mistake on my part." I think all of the things you mentioned might play a part but it's also on all of us. We all do it to some degree and some how it's become a social necessity to never admit you're wrong. Evah. I think examples from the very top can help reverse the trend though. I can think of some recent leaders who posessed arrogance, bad tempers and a complete lack of empathy that may have contributed to our new national pass time of being utter asshats.
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The person needs evaluation from others. Their opinions are what counts, but since the person is a control freak, they hate the fact that they are dependant. Rage boils up. That person is stuck. You are getting the same vibes and taking them to heart. Move on and be an example for him if you can.
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