My boyfriend the other day when i asked him if he would ever leave me, said "never ever". however, i cheated on him a few days ago while i was really drunk and didnt know what i was doing. i dont know if i should tell him or not.
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get yourself off the drink and NEVER do this again. It's up to you if you tell him or not, but let me ask, just how many people could know about this episode? You may end up having to tell him, anyway, if it's likely to come from someone else. Wake up to yourselves, people out there. If you have a good person, honour them and appreciate them. Relationships will not last if you don't put some effort into them. I am sorry to say, little one, that it is likely that you will lose him. Either through someone blabbing, or your own guilt. Whatever happens, learn from your mistakes. Alcohol is a good servant, but a bad master.
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You always know what your doing no matter how drunk you get. However its a good scapegoat to blame when you do something stupid aint it. You wouldn't have cheated if you really loved him no matter how drunk you was unless you were passed out. You were trying to get reassurance for your actions by getting him to say he would never leave you. Thats because he would never leave the faithful girl however when he finds out from his friends or yours that you cheated you wont be the same girl he made that promise to. Do yourself a favor & give up the booze excuse & come clean. Maybe he will forgive you if he don't have to find out from someone else.
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you have everything to loose and hardly anything to gain. telling him will help to clear your conscience and get rid of the guilty feelings.on the other hand,if you do tell him,he may leave you. i suggest you tell him, for if someone else tells him,then that is more devastating.tell him you are very sorry and promise to be a good girl in future.unfortunately,if he leaves you,you have no one to blame but yourself. whatever the outcome,go easy on the drinking.were you sober,this may not have happened.blaming your actions on alcohol is a very lame excuse. don't worry ,your boyfriend will still love you.
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Honesty is one of the key factors in a good relationship. I think you should tell him what happened. If he truely loves you, then he would stay with you no matter what you did.
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When your boyfriend said "Never ever" He didn't know about your infidelity. You should tell him as soon as possible. This guy obviously cares fpr you a lot, and deserves to know what happened. Maybe you've learned your lesson. Also, Drunk? Lame excuse. You didn't remember? How do you remember now? When telling him, just be upfront. Don't try to blame your mistakes on alcohol. It will only make you look worse.
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Give the guy a break and tell him, then he can decide for himself whether he wants to stay in a relationship with someone who cheats on him. I wouldn't if I was him because if you've done it once, chances are you'll do it again and again.
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Personally, i STRONGLY disagree that you should tell him all this. Keep him in the dark will be a better option here from the viewpoint of a MAN. Believe me he will NEVER be the same after he knows you've cheated on him on the lousy excuse of having gotten drunk. Feeling guilty? C'mon..guys fool around with girls all the time.
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Is telling him actually going to help HIM in any way? I think not. All it's going to do is relieve YOU of your guilt (which I honestly think you ought to carry around f orever) and hurt him tremendously. Everyone makes mistakes. You live and learn from them. I wouldn't tell him, but I'd also make sure that I NEVER get intoxicated enough to do something that awful ever again.
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first of all, please ask in the form of a question. Second, i would listen to your conscience. What is it saying to you?
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Well, I think you are screwed so far, but learn from this mistakes. Here's a good thing to keep in mind later in life. DON'T GET DRUNK AROUND PEOPLE YOU DON'T TRUST.
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Drinking may subdue your inhibitions, but it does NOT turn your brain off. You DID know what you were doing (unless you had passed out and then it would be rape, but you didn't call it rape). Do the fella a favor and tell him gently. Appoligize for being an idiot and if he can forgive you, count your lucky stars and keep your legs together next time.
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well do you want him ,or someone else?If you really wanted to be with him I dont think you would have done it. is he abusive?
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it will come back and bite you.be prepared if you do.
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It's really very simple..... under no circumstances should you tell him, it will do no good whatsoever. All your going to do is hurt & upset someone, who seems from your question to love you. If you are finding it hard to deal with what you're feeling talk to someone you can trust not to tell your boyfriend. If you tell him you can be sure that "never ever" will turn out to be a suprisingly short amount of time!
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heres what you should do.1st off quit drinking. drinking is never an excuse for your actions. i dont believe you didnt know what you were doing. but i do believe that you regreted it when you sobered up. 2nd u have to tell him cause hell probably find out anyway. you did the crime now do the time.
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You knew what you were doing. Don't use alcohol as an excuse unless there was a date rape drug involved. You should tell him. He deserves to know your true character.
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If you want real relationship with someone, it has to be built on honestly. If he cheated on you, would you want him to tell you? And the worst thing that can happen is he may finds out from someone else..Keeping it quiet will make it worse..I know someone who was in the similar situation as you and it came back to haunt him and he lost everything.
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Why is that all cheaters think that being drunk is a catch all thing that explains, justifies and exonerates every single one of their actions?
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Drunk or not, you knew the guy you were with wasn't him. It's no excuse. That aside, honesty isn't -always- the best policy. Take into account his personality and his past - is he going to be able to forgive this, or will it scar him so badly that it's going to put your relationship beyond all hope? If this truly was a one time incident and you will NEVER do this again, consider not telling him. Make sure there's no other way he'll ever find out though. Sometimes ignorance is bliss, but you're still going to have to live with the guilt.
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oh where is you my Jesus Christ.usa peoples defaming bible.
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You knew what you were doing. You are obviously too immature to handle commitment and you should tell him, he doesnt deserve to be lied to and drug along while you go out and party and disrespect him. My ex did the same to me and didnt tell me for almost 6 months, and it destroyed me that the whole time i thought she was being faithful. Tell him now, save him the pain and suffering.
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drunk or not you knew what you were doing. It is going to take a long time for him to ever trust you if he decides to keep a relationship with you. We all make mistakes and this is a biggy. You should come clean, ask for forgiveness and let the cards lie where they will.
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