If they truly are a friend, then you would take them. You friend is the one getting an abortion, not you, so you shouldnt let it worry you. This questions seems to be to be like "If I dont believe in something, but my friend does, what should I do?" Your friend is allowed to have different opinions, and you should be supportive to her. Don't disrespect her opinion, and don't let her disrespect yours.

G'day Janacide, Thank you for your question. Firstly, it depends on whether she was going for an abortion. She could be seeking contraceptive advice. Secondly, it depends on whether I am the father in which case I would try to speak rationally to her about it. If I wasn't, I would be supportive of her as a friend and drive her there even though I don't support abortion. Regards

Good question Janacide Ask why...for birth control? For STD testing? For an abortion? Game for a ride to check out the new Birth control and check to make sure those sores aren't herpes from unprotected sex....She'll need the moral support! If for the Abortion well then.... I know I won't be popular for saying this but I must. As a friend I would have a very difficult time driving her to end a pregnancy, I do not believe in abortion. I would try to get her all the info I could about options. There are so many childless couples in this world that would just love that child. It would be so difficult. I would stick with her and love her even if she decided she was doing it. I know she would really need a shoulder. But I would not lie about my convictions.

Call her a cab.

I couldn't do it any more than I could give a friend a ride to a mugging. I'd feel like an accomplice. But She would be more than welcome to stay with me as she recovered. That is friendship too. Addition: Due to some confusion, let me add. I would be glad to give a friend a ride for informational purposes. Accompanying her to an abortion is a different matter.

Well, I'd be thrilled to take her, since Planned Parenthood provides contraception options, which may prevent her from having an unwanted pregnancy, and potentially eliminate her having to even make the choice of whether to carry that pregnancy to term. This would definitely further my goal, wouldn't it? OK... I didn't assume she was going for an abortion. Most of my friends went to Planned Parenthood in high school for pill prescriptions, etc. To me, it's a reproductive health clinic. But if the friend were going for an abortion, I would not only drive her but plan to spend some time with her afterwards if she wanted me to. It's not an easy thing to go through. I would be there to talk, or just sit with her quietly, or watch movies and get her mind off it, or whatever she felt she needed. Friendship is not about holding someone to your standards; it's about supporting each other and helping each other through life's difficult times. If it's not, then I would question whether it was really a friendship at all, or simply a fair-weather acquaintanceship. Whether or not I would make the same choice is irrelevant. If I were leaving a bad marriage and my friend refused to help me move because she didn't personally believe in divorce, she'd no longer be my friend. So why hold myself to lower standards of loyalty and support?

I won't be popular for this either, but I have to write it. I HAD a friend come to me with this question. I immediately sat her down and talked to her. It became clear that her main worry was that her husband had a gambling problem and money was in short supply. I knew she had strong Catholic faith. I asked her about that. She then admitted she really didn't want the abortion, but felt that there was no other way out. I told her there was, even offered to adopt the child myself. She said she knew that if she saw the child, she would never be able to give it away, so I asked her what was the difference? Was it because she could not see it? Or didn't want to see it? The upshot is that she had the child, and about 5 years later, while we watched our children playing together, she turned to me with tears in her eyes and said : and to think i was going to kill her.... (The marriage ultimately failed, but she agreed with me that at least she didn't have to live with the guilt of having taken her child's life) So no, I would not take my friend to the clinic. I would think she probably asked me because she wanted to be talked out of it...I was, and am still prepared to take charge of any child whose mum has financial problems.

I would give her a ride. I'd rather see her do what she thinks is right than be forced into doing something she might regret..

I would give my friend a ride and be supportive. It's clearly a situation that is not about me or what I believe.

Considering that we appear to be considering both sides of abortion in discussing this question, it's important to keep in mind that despite our opinions whether we are for or against it's the person who is seeking the abortion who will be ultimately affected. An unplanned pregnancy can be traumatic for the mother but being guilted into having a child that they're not prepared to give birth to and then having to care for that child due to further guilt can make for a traumatised mother and child. And will those who waved placards outside clinics condemning those who choose abortion as their option support the mother through the many challenges of parenthood? Similarly, will those people support the previously mother-to-be through the emotional devastation of an abortion? Clearly these are good reasons to really think about things like contraception, but still, accidents happen, rapes happen and pressured pregnancies occur. I believe in choices. I used to be pro-abortion but as I am approaching an age where I want to be a parent, I have to say it would be dificult for me and I have in fact told my husband that if he's not ready to be a parent when I am that I am prepared to be a single parent and not hold him to paternity obligations such as child-support. However, despite that, I do understand that choosing abortion is a personal decision and not one I can even hope to have influence over in another. More than that I wouldn't want to - I don't want to be blamed by friends or loved ones for a decision like that affecting their lives.

Well me and most of my friends are Pro-Life and we're all 18. I've had that conversation with my best friend and although I would never have one, we both agreed that we would be there for each other. Now if it wasn't my best friend, then I wouldn't go with them.

If she was my friend and knew of my views and still asked me to take her, I would consider looking for a new friend.

I had this situation actually happen to me in 1983, there was a very different world viewpoint back then. My younger girlfriend was pregnant and she was 17. I was 24, and when she came to me for help I was shocked. Not because she ask me to take her for the abortion and too help her pay for it, but because she knew that I wanted a baby and had tried desperately to have one (even fertility doctors). I didn't know how to feel, could I deal with her problem and my outlook on it? I convinced her to tell her boyfriend and advised them both that they needed to go to Plan Parenthood before making a decision. Finally they did go to PPH and made "their" decision. I made mine to be a good friend and help them and respect them (even if I disagreed with them). I ended up helping her pay for it, even offered to take her but her boyfriend took her. She made a point by paying me back the money (even though I didn't want it). After all these years, I wished things could have been different.(Why?) Later my friend was murdered over Lockerbie, Scotland; she was at the beginning of her life. Her parents were devastated, I thought to myself (they could've had a grandchild, a part of her and that didn't happen). I realized that they made the "right decision" for themselves then, but no matter what I wish things could've been different. I would still help her, even now. It was their decision and my decision was to be their friend, and I was.

She could take a bus or a taxi in this case.

gee that is a tough question, i would have to say i would take her but try and talk her out of doing it while i am driving her there. but if she has made a choice no amount of talking or cajoling is going to help, I am there to support her no matter what she does. she is my friend.

Of course, I would be happy to tke her.

Well if you want to be a good friend, you take them. You respect their decision and let them run their own life. But I would also let your friend know that you don't think abortion is right, but don't make them feel bad about going somewhere that would support it. They might not even ask you to take them if they realize you don't approve.

No, I couldn't do it because it would violate not only my personal moral beliefs but also my religious. "Do what ye will so long as you do no harm." means that you take part in nothing that would harm someone no matter what. And taking a friend to an abortion would harm not only harm her, but the baby. And to me abortion is just plain wrong. But if she needed to go to get her prescription filled for contaceptives or treatment for an STD you'd better belive it. And if it was for an STD I'd then go kick the butt of the jerk that gave it to her. (That's not harm, that's justice.)

take her. it's her choice, not mine.

This is a stretch for a couple of reasons. If we suspend disbelief long enough to suppose that I didn't believe in abortion then there is little slack left to stretch further to believe that I would have a friend that I would morally differ from that drastically, at least enough to overlook my friendship and not give them a ride. In other words, I would give them a ride. Besides, Planned Parenthood offers many other services. For instance birth control; the BEST way to prevent abortion short of resequencing the human genome and removing any urge to reproduce thus guarantee the extinction of our species. Or adoption. Hell, my wife sometimes pops in for non-pregnancy issues. Low-cost ob-gyn care is a good thing.

If you are their friend, you take them. It is their decision, not yours. If they are asking you, they trust in you enough to lean on you, they need you...If you are their friend you'll be there for them..now, during, and after.

if i do not believe in it(which i dont), then why would I do something that i do not believe in? that would be called hypocrisy...i wouldn't, lol...

Reluctantly give it. Even if I don't believe in it myself, the only person I have authority to impose that over is myself, it's her choice, and if you're a true friend to someone then you should respect their choices. I would make it clear that I don't approve of it, and perhaps suggest alternatives to them before simply doing it, but if what they feel is their only option, then judging them on it does no good for anyone. I might also offer them a place to stay and/or someone to talk to after if they need it. But it's their choice, and I'd have no right to stop them.

Just because she is going to planned parenthood does not mean she is getting an abortion, so sure I would.

I'd give her a ride. If she wants to do it, I'll let her, regardless of whether or not I agree with it. And even if a hypothetical situation, it's hard for me to pretend to be pro-life.

unless she needs a ride in order to have an abortion, then your beliefs should not have any impact. Planned Parenthood is exactly what the name says..*planned* parenthood..meaning reproductive health checkups, medications, STD testing, Pregnancy testing, BCP, Information on gynocologist and OB's and social service information help for pregnant women...it is not just an *abortion provider* and most Planned Parenthoods do not even have those facilities at their offices..they give the info and a list of facilities where the girl/woman can get an abortion if she choses. If you don't believe in abortion and the trip isn't for an abortion I would think you would be very happy to take her in order to prevent a pregnancy that might end in abortion.

A tough decision. You will need to weigh your value of their friendship against your value against abortion. But I can say this much. Two people will be upset if you don't provide the ride (you will be upset that the friend is upset). Only one person will be upset if you provide the ride, however, you will need to live with that one person for the rest of your life. A tough decision.

Give her a ride and be supportive, it's a more difficult decision for her to make than it is for me to decide whether or not to give her a ride.