Do "soul mates" really exist?

i do believe in soul mates, and when people are in their 80's, 90's and 100's and their lover (soul mate) dies, it's quite often the partner dies soon after. for those who lose their soul mate early in life, they fall in love again but never to the extent of the one they were meant to be with.

but that's the really uppity romantic point of view.

if you don't believe in soul mates, nothing happens when they die. it sucks for a long time, but becomes a memory eventually.

If you mean: Does the Creator arrange the universe so that there are sets of two specific humans that uniquely complete each other in some kind of magical, perfect union? I seriously doubt it.

I do believe that there are many life-long marriages that essentially satisfy the general underatanding of the "soul mate" concept - but I believe these relationships exist because the partners work at it and choose to submit and defer to each other to make the marriage work - it isn't just easy wonderful perfection without effort.

I also recognize that there are many life-long friendships (best friends, siblings, etc.) that have similar characteristics, but I don't know if this is what you had in mind. Lifelong friendships also depend on effort and forgiveness to succeed.

I also believe that even "soul mates," if they give in to selfishness, pettiness and the like, can ruin and destroy what could have been life-long joy. The Bible teaches that we are all sinners - we all make mistakes and we all intentionally do things that hurt relationships. The key to life-long, satisfying, committed relationships is life-long commitment to make the relationship work even when that requires "sacrifices" on both sides.

I do believe in soul mates and i believe im marrying mine in December. And if he dies before me, i would not marry anyone else.

I bury her.

Soul mates are just kindred spirits, you can have more than one.

I think it is possible for you to have more than one soul mate. I loved my ex-wife deeply, but over time we changed and grew apart. It happens. I wasn't sure I'd ever find true love again, but then I met my current wife and I love her with all of my heart and feel we are soul mates. So, I honestly think it is possible for you to be so compatible with more than one person (not necessarily at the same time).

My right and left shoe are sole mates.

I believe it is possible to love more than one person so deeply that you feel like you have known that person for like forever not at the same time of course but it can happen.I believe my ex wife was my soulmate too bad she didn't believe I was hers. The there is the swet beautiful kid caring woman I met 5 years ago in a training class for a new job we were both starting. We instantly became best of friends and it was about a year before we took that friendship to the next level. I never knew it was possible to love someone so deeply and intently the way I loved her and she loved me. We were engaged to be married and would have been celebrating our 1st wedding anniversary in a few weeks were it not for her untimely passing almost 3 years ago. So in short yeas I believe it is possible to have more than one soulmate in this lifetime.

Yes, but it doesn't there won't be a second one show up with the same soul. The body is just a vessel.

I THINK WE TEND TO HAVE A SOULMATE, BECAUSE WHEN WE KNOW THAT PERSON WE CAN`T LET THAT PERSON GO. BUT IF THAT PERSON DIES, IF WE CAN EVENTUALLY MOVE ON, WE MIGHT FEEL THE SAME AGAIN WITH A NEW ONE. AND I THINK IT DEPNDS ON THE AGE WE HAVE AT THE MOMENT WE LOSE OUR SOUL MATE. I THINK IT DEPENDS ON HOW MUCH WE NEED TO BE IN LOVE AGAIN.

Yes but sometimes we get confused because we can feel great passion (attraction - biological, chemical) for several people in our lifetime. But that 'soul' connection is an experience deeper and somehow more 'right' - like looking inh a mirror. There seems to be a knowledge on a level outside our normal experience and inexplicable, but real. Could just be the extent of our imaginations of course! ha-ha. No-one can say for sure, can they?

I think things can change so much for a person (like their responsibilities, selves, goals, what they need, and whatever else you can think of!) that we would probably fit well in all kinds of relationships with lots of different people at different times/places. I'm not sure if I'm totally on board with the "coupling" mentality, either.

A romantic delusion. What makes life *great*, no?! ;-)

I'm afraid the 'soul mate' idea is a dangerous myth. Some people get so caught up in it, they think any little disagreement is a sign they married the wrong person.

It is best to stop being concerned with soul mates and be more concerned with strengthening the bonds of love that brought a couple together in the first place. That can sometimes take work.

I used to.

I stopped looking for my "soul-mate" and vowed to unconditionally love whoever came into my life.

It worked.

No :)

From: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Soulmate

Soulmate (or soul mate) is a term sometimes used to designate someone with whom one has a subjective, emotional feeling of deep affinity, friendship, love, strong intimacy or compatibility.

The term makes reference to the scientifically unproven concept of the soul and carries certain New Age overtones. There is a prevalent concept in some segments of the New Age movement that some souls are literally made and/or fated to be the mates of each other, or to play certain other important roles in each others' lives.

A related concept is that of the twin flame or twin soul - thought to be the ultimate soulmate, the one and only other half of one's soul, which all souls are driven to find and unite with.
(END wikipedia article excerpt)

This passage articulates, quite well, my own thoughts on whether or not soul mates exist. I believe that soul mates can exist per the first paragraph. However, I do not believe (see paragraphs 2 and 3) in fated soul mates or the concept that soulmates are driven and destined to unite with each other.

Speaking from personal experience, I had a friend once who had the uncanny ability to know exactly what I was thinking and we often communicated well without a lot of talk. We just seemed to "know" each other and were content to just enjoy each others company. This was not somebody who simply knew me well because we had been friends for a long time. We drifted in and out of each others lives regularly for about 7 years sometimes with a year or more between each meeting, but that connectedness was always there. One time I hadn't seen him for almost 2 years and was wondering about him to myself and an hour later he called out of the blue. I wish I could explain it better, but I am at a loss.

I also had a boyfriend that was so perfect for me that we seemed fated to be together. We were a perfect fit for each other. He could finish my sentences and I his. But, no matter how perfect the fit was, life got in the way and we ultimately split up. Not before or since had/have either of us found a person that defined "soulmate" for either of us. But, soulmate does not necessarily equate to 2 people absolutely, positively being "meant" for each other.

In both cases, there was a very strong feeling of being connected that existed on both sides. I think that soulmates can and do exist, but not in a hocus pocus mystical sort of way. Sorry I couldn't explain it better. The question is subjective and everybodys definition of soumate varies to complicate matters. . .hope this helps.

Depends on your definition of Soul. An adequate definition would go something like - an animating, separable, surviving entity, the vehicle of individual personal existence. So we have to believe in life after death before we can say yes, and even then we must look at what does survive death.

On another level, Soul mates do exist, they are the people who cannot bear to be separated from their mate, when together time may not matter for in each other, there is a completeness when together. These are intense life altering experiences, the pain of death or seperation can lead to the need to see that individual again even though its impossible by reality, hence "soul mates" was born.

Personally, I think one can have a soul mate, but I don't think it will be forever, individuality must come to an end eventually.

Absolutely yes I do as I found mine when I least expected it as I was not looking for one. That said I don't believe that every person will find their soul mate because in reality life just is not like that.

I actually do. I think there is someone out there for everyone. We just have to weed through the bad seeds until we find the right one.

I don't believe there is any such thing as a "soul mate"..you meet someone with whom you're compatible, have similar interests, goals, aspirations and dreams...

and from there you build a deep friendship based on mutual respect, love and trust..

I'm beginning to think so

My God YESSSSSSS....and they are always in my dreams....

I was seven, she was 5 years old. my grandmother lived on one side of the street, my now wife lived on the other side. i visited my grandmother one day and went across the street to play with the kids in a dirt pile. little did i know, at that age, that i was actually playing with my soulmate for life.

Time passed, as we both grew up, still never meeting until i was 21 and she was 18. our lives again came into contact with each other. we both worked at different department stores. while meeting my friend for a luncheon date, there she was. the most beautiful woman i had ever seen in my life. she glowed. my friend introduced me to her. its was love at first sight. our eyes met and they are still glued together. the two trains did hit each other head on. its been there for 43 years.

We kissed one time. what a kiss. we looked into each others eyes and both saw the window to our souls.

Soon after our marriage, we were looking through some old family photgraphs in black and white. we came across a picture of my wife playing in a pile of dirt. boy, did this hit home. after a few questions and answers to each other, we discovered that when she was 5 and i was 7, we played in that same dirt pile together.

If there ever was a case of destiney, this was it.

I know look at my wife and i see me in her and vice versa.

The heat was so high in our twin flame soulmate attraction......that it sometimes scares me.

I believe in soul mates :)

No. I believe that two people can be perfect for each other but I don't believe that anything is predestined by a god or gods.

I don't believe in souls so no.

Maybe some people do have soul mates.

Twin flame soulmates? Now, we've gone beyond soulmates and the realm of twin flame...~sigh~

yes I do believe in soul mates, but sometimes I have doubts. He's dead.

Not in the context people usually associate that phrase with, but I have found the man that is perfect for me in every way. He was a blind date and we were just meant to meet.

Yes I believe you can love a person enough that you connect spiritually.

Sam, there is real, true love. It is real. However there is no perfect woman to meet this, so both of you will need to get honest with first yourselves and then each other. The unconditional love comes only from God.
So it's you first admitting there is God, and likewise with her. Then you follow His rules and not your own. This way both of you are able to enjoy the wonderful benefits of a loving relationship without having to force " I want it my way" on each other. The part you may not like is that it requires each of you to tuck tail.

Yeh i believe in sould mate's and believe that their is that one person but im yet to find one. I Dont know how you will knw but i believe it will be the Cant eat, sleep or think dilema, Butterflies everytime you see that person and your sad when you dont see that person.

I believe in multiple soulmates, I do

this question reminds me of a quote i heard somewhere: "soulmates are not always just the people that we fall in love with and end up with, but rather, the ones that our soul becomes attracted to"
so yes, i do believe that there are more than one soul mates out there for everyone...but only one "true love"

Not at the same time. When you find someone that with the two of you just makes it complete, there is no room for anyone else. That's a soulmate. But it didn't happen overnight or instantly, it's more like a growing and melding together until you fit perfectly. So if something happens to one of you, it is possible to do that with someone else, and maybe in a totally different way.

Yes. But I believe that soul mates play different roles. Some may be brothers, sisters, fathers, mothers, lovers, friends, etc.

I think we have many, many soul mates, which are our friends in Heaven.

sure I believe that there is one really great match out there for everyone... but this may be said for friends as well as lovers... and I do belive that there are more than one person that someone could fall in love with

i think you make someone your soulmate
and sometimes its easier than most
sometimes you just find that one person that just fits you so perfect but i dont think its something pre determined or destined or anything

soul mate or bed mate. you could probably live with and love several different people.

Maybe one that is the best overall. There is I think several that are probably suitable for every person in the world. The challenge is to find them. I think we all have more than one acceptable choice. No person is completely perfect for anyone. We are too complex for that kind of total compatibility.

I believe that with all my heart. I think you will know when you find them cause you will want to be around them all the time for the rest of your lives. I know my wife is mine, she has been the best thing that has ever happened to me! Some people may never really find their soul mate, but they find that person that is closest to being their soul mate. Thats what I think anyway.

Of course they exist. You will know when it happens to you. The thing with soulmate/twin flame is that it is spiritual. This person has a profound effect on you. It's a feeling like this person should be in your life. Soulmates can inflict great pain or great joy in you. The joy comes from being able to share a relationship with them. The pain comes from being apart from them or when they choose to not reciprocate your feelings. I have had this experience two times. The first encounter was very dissappointing and the second one was quite joyful. You can have more than one soulmate. When it comes to the soulmate/twin flame situation, you'll be really attracted to this person and drawn to them magnetically. Your feelings for them will naturally grow stronger and very intense. When you realize you have met a soulmate or twin flame, it can be a traumatic experience. This person will have such a profound effect on you that you can't shake off. Even being apart or separated from them can cause emptiness in your soul.

I remember that I liked this guy a whole lot and he completely became emotionally withdrawn from me. Despite my attempts and efforts I realized that this guy had no desire or motivation to be with me. I spent many years dwelling on this and it has caused me heart-wrenching pain. I have suffered a great depression and anger because of this. The loneliness I feel sometimes is so horrible. When you meet a soulmate it can be for the better or worse. I don't wish this pain on anybody.

I'm not sure. Would there be only one? If so, then what are the chances that my soul mate would ever meet? Out of all the people in the world, and all of the places...what if she lived on the other side of the planet. I would never find her. So I'm not sure. But if I find her I'll let you know.

Never go searching for a soul mate, they will find you. As for knowing that they are the one. You just know. Its a hard concept 2 grasp. You feel the bond strong as steel. You just know.

You gotta kiss a hell ova lot of frogs b4 u find the one =]

yes I believe in soulmates but I don't believe we should try to make or think our significant others are our soulmates because we have alot in common. Soulmates are people who truly love each other with the highest respect and cannot see themselves without this person and unselfessly puts their partners well being and happiness first nomatter what I don't think soulmates have this love hate relationship so many people have today they keep it real and hinest always with understanding just because

I believe that there are many people you are compatible with but there's only one true soul mate.

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