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  • awww im really sorry. but just remember he loves you, and he is always watching over you, and he wants you to be happy.
  • Bring a close friend or relative for support and help. Take your time and remember that those feelings are normal and you may have to make more then one trip if things get too heavy.
  • When you go, don't think of the bad and saddening things. Think of the good times you shared together, and what they meant. I know you can pull through.
  • If you can, go with a friend or relative as a support person to help you. If you have no help, take a radio or headset to listen to UP and HAPPY music you like that you can play while doing what you need to do. Remember the good times and do not dwell on the negative. You are starting a new part of your life, and it will mean putting some of the past behind, including the pain, and moving forward. With or without help, I am sure you will get through it and it will also be, if you allow it to be, a time to remember the good times and does not have to be a nightmare or extremely traumatic. If you need to cry, cry. Allow yourself to feel the feelings and let them out if you need to do so. This is all part of the grieving process and moving on process. Best of luck to you.
  • Have someone who loved him too go with you (just not his mother - that will make it even harder). Going through the stuff of a deceased loved one is tough business, so it's best to avoid doing it alone. In my opinion especially the scent in clothes can send you down memory lane. If you prefer to avoid this, then bring a friend to seal up his clothes for you (untill you are ready to sort it yourself).
  • G'day Ilovemybaby, Thank you for your question. I am sorry to hear of your loss. I would take friends and relatives with your to help you pack. They can help keep the blues at bay and can take you back to where you are living if it is too much while continuing to pack. You have my sympathy. Regards
  • I'm sorry for your loss. Its not going to be easy, but you can do it. I had to clear out my mother's house after she passed & it wasn't easy. Although I was sad, I got so much peace out of so many of the things I ran across that I'd forgotten about. There's gonna be a lot of good feelings along with the sad, so don't dread it so much. You'll feel a lot better once you've finished and have so many more "refreshed" good memories. Good luck.
  • Think of it as a celebration of his life. His things belong to you now, and although I don't for one minute think you should revere his personal stuff as a shrine, treat everything with due respect. You will get through this nomatter how hard it is.
  • Allow your Mom and sister to pack up all the non-emotional items (kitchen, bath, etc.). Save the hard work, the most sentimental rooms, for your 'alone' time. Realize it's perfectly alright to cry your eyes out. You don't have to pretend everything is okay. If happy, upbeat music helps you cope, fine. If not, letting it all out isn't a sign of weakness, it's part of the grieving process and essential. I'm so sorry you have to go through this and wish you best of luck. As much as you hate to do it, you will surely salvage some treasured memories.

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