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by DownOnMyLuck on February 22nd, 2007

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My parents smoke. They said they quit, but they can't fool me. I smell smoke all downstairs, and they think I don't know. Worse yet, they said they'd kick me out of the house if they caught me smoking weed. What should I do about this hypocrisy?

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  • by Metaphiz on February 22nd, 2007

    Metaphiz

    Your parents are flawed humans that love you. Remember that. Granted, they're not doing right by you to do one thing and say another, but that doesn't mean they don't love you.

    They have a conflict within themselves that is not easily concored. On one hand, they have an addiction, on the other, they have a child they care about, and don't want you to make the same mistakes. So, what do you do as a parent? Do you sacrifice the effort to keep you from such vices, just to justify their addictions? Do they try to juggle the two, addiction and their responsability to you? Or do they quit smoking, and bring you into the process to help them? I would recommend the third option to them, but it's also important that you understand where their coming from, as well.

    Which brings me to what you should do. Let them know that you know that they are still struggling, and, because you love them, you want to help them any way you can. Don't be a smartass about, just do it as someone that loves them.

    If that isn't something they are willing to do, for whatever reason, then all you can ever do is make sure that what you do is right. It's part of being an adult. Adults have no one to blame but themselves for the decisions they make. You cannot control what your parents do, but you can make right and healthy decisions for yourself.

    Show them the love and patients you want them to show you, and you will be amazed at the impact it'll have on how they treat you in return. If they can't SHOW you how to do the right thing, show them.

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  • by Banned from Yahoo on June 23rd, 2009

    Banned from Yahoo

    Move out and get your own place.

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  • by mommaskye on February 22nd, 2007

    mommaskye

    as parents we always want better for our kids then we have ourselves..I quit smoking a 2 packs a day ...but I still sneak one late at night..I just cannot get past that before bed ciggerettte it is hard as hell to quit...but they should not lie to you..I would never lie to my kids...I am human I am trying..but I do NOT want them smoking..it is too unhealthy for them and it is addictive..have you sat down and said "I know you still smoke once in a while and feel betrayed that you cannot be straight with me..because you want me to be straight with you"

    weed is illegal ..trust me i smoked it as a kid it doesn't do anything for you ..except make you act stupid and mess your reflexes up..your parents could lose their home if you have weed in there the state can seize their property..so yeah I cxan understand the point they are trying to make BUT they are handling it wrong if you were my kid I would tell you straight if I caught it in my house I would beat you like the adult you think you are ( and of course I would not carry through with it because I never do) but I could not condone it either

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  • by Jenniferocious on February 22nd, 2007

    Jenniferocious

    Deal with it until you get old enough to move out on your own. Yes, it sucks that they're lying to you. There are a lot of people who believe that there is a HUGE difference between smoking cigarettes, and smoking pot. The cigs are legal, pot is not, and they have every right to encourage you not to smoke pot. They shouldn't be lying to you, but it's not something you can do anything about.

    My suggestion, since you obviously aren't happy living at home, is to get a job, save up money, and move yourself out as soon as it's feasible. You can tell your parents that you know they're lying about smoking, but you need to decide if it's worth the fight. Don't smoke weed (or at least, don't get caught - who am I to tell you what not to do), and just live under your parents rules until your an adult and can live on your own.

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  • by Shan is Purrrrrfectly Happy on June 23rd, 2009

    Shan is Purrrrrfectly Happy

    its your parents house. they make the rules. you should respect them enough to follow them. if you dont like the rules, you can do your own thing after you move out.

    you didnt say if your parents smoke cigarettes or weed. theres a major distinction between the two. cigarettes are legal. pot is not. it is within their rights to smoke cigarettes if that is their choice. they are also totally within their rights to say no to illegal activity in their house. im sure they also dont want to see you get hurt. but either way, i would encourage you to support your parents quitting bad habits. tell them to stop lying to you, because you can smell their lies. but their behavior shouldnt have any bearing on your own, regardless of whether or not it is hypocritical. two wrongs dont make a right. you shouldnt be harming yourself either.

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  • by Lady Alathia of Vulcan on June 23rd, 2009

    Lady Alathia of Vulcan

    They are adults doing something they are legally allowed to do.

    You are a minor, doing illegal things in their house.

    BIG DIFFERENCE.

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  • by D.J. on June 23rd, 2009

    D.J.

    Their house, their rules. Grow-up, and support yourself, then you can male a lot more of your own rules.

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  • by Cheery Cherry on June 17th, 2009

    Cheery Cherry

    Nothing. You live in your "parents'" home. They can do just about anything they want, unless you help pay the rent, pay for food, do your own laundry and pay for other expenses to run a home.

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  • by kat on June 23rd, 2009

    kat

    They need to stop smoking.If they are trying to hide it matbe they will smoke less and eventually stop...They don`t want you to smoke because they love you and want to protect you...Think about it please.Peace.

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  • by Anonymous on June 17th, 2009

    Anonymous

    nothing wrong with smoking weed but everyone is brain washed into thinking there is. my dad is the nicest, honest, most hardworking person i've ever meet and he smokes weed everyday. My dad knows me and my brother smoke weed. The day he caught me i just finished taking a walk and smoking a joint and when i got back my dad was in the garage and my eyes were completely blood shot and i was tripping everywhere falling down n what not. i could tell he knew wat was up. he just smiled and laughed. he thought it was funny. he said someday we can all smoke together. whatta dad. i think my mom knows cuz she found all my gravity bongs in my room under my bed and she didn't say anything.

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  • by Isaac on June 23rd, 2009

    Isaac

    Hide their cigerettes, if they ask you about it, deny knowledge that you knew they existed. They'd have to admit that they've been smoking to do anything.

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  • by Go know thyself is THE RED QUEEN on June 23rd, 2009

    Go know thyself is THE RED QUEEN

    Weed and homeless or home... weedand homeless or home?


    My choice would be HOME!


    I need a place to live. Although some homeless pot heads do not!

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  • by philosopher-saint on June 23rd, 2009

    philosopher-saint

    The world is filled with hypocrisies, dude. Your parents are only human. They wanna do what they want and also want the best for you too. Contrary to popular belief, doobage *does* have it's costs. And these are greatly magnified for youthful users.
    So 'connect the dots' from there!
    ;-)

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  • by Nod.Coltsfan on June 23rd, 2009

    Nod.Coltsfan

    They are involved in a stupid habit that is LEGAL, while your stupid habit is Illegal. That alone makes it not hypocritical. With that said, its there house and you should do what they desire, because they are only trying to help you get rid of a poor habit.

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  • by yogibliss on January 13th, 2010

    yogibliss

    Smoking cigarettes is still legal and smoking weed is not. And parents are not hypocritical if they want their kids to do better than themselves. And smoking is very addictive and a good stress reliever for the hard job of parenting kids that don't respect you. What you should do therefore is love them back, don't contribute to their stress, and remember who pays the mortgage gets to choose the rules.

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