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by Anonymous on February 20th, 2007

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This is a first: 21 year old female lives at home. she works everyday. mother has curfew time for her to be home. mom charges her $20 for each hour she is late from a date. whats with this?

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  • by roiboysatx on November 22nd, 2009

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    i feel sorry for that girl. sounds like the mother has her brain washed and controlled. its easy to say she should move out but if she was raised that way its difficult for her. if your her friend, then try to help her not judge her or critize her. she needs counseling to help break moms control.

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  • by miRi hates social norms and regulations on November 21st, 2009

    miRi hates social norms and regulations

    ok. i'd say that's too extreme on the mom's part. but she's 21. if she really doesn't like that, either 1 don't be late, or 2. move out and make her own rules

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  • by LarryH54 on November 21st, 2009

    LarryH54

    Mom's home, mom's rules. Don't like it? Grow up and move out!

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  • by bonesy on February 20th, 2007

    bonesy

    poor girl. She can come live with me

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  • by ACCOUNT CLOSED on November 22nd, 2009

    ACCOUNT CLOSED

    Yeah, everybody can say the 21 year old should move out and all...but what the mother is doing is pretty freaking maniacal, let's not overlook that.

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  • by PenetratingThursday on November 22nd, 2009

    PenetratingThursday

    Its a dictatorship.
    And its revolting that the mother would do that; sad that the girl puts up with it.

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  • by More2Be on November 22nd, 2009

    More2Be

    It sounds like it is time for that 21 year old female to move out.

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  • by peterpatch on February 20th, 2007

    peterpatch

    I left home because of similar stupid rules. I never looked back. Find some roomates to split the rent with, have a good time.

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  • by mrs.ANONYMOUS on February 20th, 2007

    mrs.ANONYMOUS

    Wow, sound like she needs to cut the apron spings.

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  • by Anonymous on February 20th, 2007

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    I can understand the parents of adult children who live at home wanting the kids to still respect the rules of the home, etc... but there is a way to do it without being condescending or disrespectful to the 21 year old. Sounds like the mom has some control issues.

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  • by Anonymous on February 20th, 2007

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    Parents that don't know when to let it is what it is. My parents pulled the same thing, if you are dependent in anyway on your parents, they use that as levrage so they can still control your live.

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  • by This Daley has a new bundle of joy on February 20th, 2007

    This Daley has a new bundle of joy

    As long as a "child" is still living at home, especially if rent free, then the homeowner (parent) can enforce a curfew and penalize financially. I think it is a brilliant idea because the parent can not really put a 21 yo on restriction or ground them, but hitting them in the pocketbook is really tangible to a 21 yo.

    If the 21 yo is working, she can either move out or deal with the house rules. If she is late home because of the job, I think some arrangement of understanding should be made with the parent. Perhaps parent and child should sit down and negotiate some "house rules" that pay respect to both parties.

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  • by FLYxNIGHT on February 20th, 2007

    FLYxNIGHT

    Those are the rules of the house, and if I may say so, they suck because they are oppressive and disrespectful of an adult's ability to determine what's best for her.

    If that'd been the rule in my house when I was twenty-one, I'd still be paying off the debt thirteen years later.

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  • by Omar Little on November 22nd, 2009

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    Her mother is a genius.
    What she is doing is making life unbearable for an adult, so she'll eventually want to get her own place, because she's learning the lesson that it's under her mum's roof, it's her mum's rules, if she doesn't like it, get her own roof and make her own rules.

    She's forcing her to act like an adult by treating her like a child, it's genius, I say she moves out in 2 months.

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  • by -NUNYA-- on November 22nd, 2009

    -NUNYA--

    Under Mom's roof you follow Mom's rules! Wanna make your own rules then move out!
    The $20 an hour is not proper. That is childish in my opinon.
    +6 Anonymous!

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  • by singwell-is off researching a lot on February 20th, 2007

    singwell-is off researching a lot

    rare, indeed. my daughter is 21. she has no curfew, but I expect her to contact me if she is going to be late, out of courtesy.

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  • by bigkado69 on February 20th, 2007

    bigkado69

    That is a different way to get your kids to get home and i think that is way 2 much money.I dont think money should be used to get your kids home on time.

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  • by to the SNAKE PIT! on November 21st, 2009

    to the SNAKE PIT!

    This is control the daughter is allowing the mother to have over her; answer is she should move out and never let someone control you like that; if it were me I would move out, not tell her where, come back and burn down her car for playing extortion games; a head for an eye!

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  • by rocklesson86 on June 4th, 2011

    rocklesson86

    Mum shouldn't do that. She will only push the daughter away. Seems to me that she wants to be paid for being her mother.

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  • by sdanelson on June 28th, 2010

    sdanelson

    What is the problem with coming home on time! NO RESPECT!

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  • by Vesper on February 20th, 2007

    Vesper

    This is very unconventional!

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  • by Skip_2_My_Lou on February 20th, 2007

    Skip_2_My_Lou

    The charges are ridiculous, it seems to me that the money is more important. I understand that she wants her home, but come on, whats with the charges? is she trying to run a bank?

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  • by killdrphil - reasonable for a madman on November 21st, 2009

    killdrphil - reasonable for a madman

    I guess her Mom is looking for some extra money for booze and smokes or something. Bizarre. But, the girl is 21 and has a job so she certainly doesn't have to continue living there.

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  • by Dave2222 on November 21st, 2009

    Dave2222

    Run baby run.

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  • by Want To Sleep With A Miner on November 21st, 2009

    Want To Sleep With A Miner

    The mother sounds like a complete bitch, but it is her house. My recommendation is move out as soon as possible and sever all contact.

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  • by Brontosaurus on November 21st, 2009

    Brontosaurus

    The $20:00 an hour is a bit much. A parent should not profit from punishing a child. My aunt had a good way of dealing with my cousin when she was living at home to cut living costs while doing postgrad study. She bought her a car, but retained legal ownership herself.
    Minor misconduct was dealt with by a reprimand, but more serious stuff (e.g driving her mother's own Jaguar
    without permission or insurance) would lead to the use of the 2nd car being withdrawn for a period appropriate
    to the misconduct. This would mean getting up about an
    hour earlier to use public transport, and having to arrange a ride or take a cab if going out for the evening.

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  • by Valparaiso on February 20th, 2007

    Valparaiso

    Your living in her house, so you live by her rules.

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  • by sdanelson on June 28th, 2010

    sdanelson

    She is not a bitch! Children have no respect. I wouldn't charge her anything I would tell her to live by my rules or leave! And, I did! She didn't do any chores, pay any bills (not even her own) or come home for days on end! Rediculous!

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