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shrinkess
ANSWERS: 6
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It has in mine. Just make sure it's a good lie. And have a fast back up if you are challenged.
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a foundation built on lies will crumble
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Depends on a number of things: 1) What the lie(s) was and how serious it was. 2) Why the lie(s) was told 3) If the lie(s) come to light 4) How the lie(s) come to light 5) How strong the relationship is regardless of how it came to be. 6) How directly the lie(s) pertain to the marriage. There is a big difference between finding out that your husband never told you that he has been secretly smoking despite telling you he quit years ago and finding out he never stopped seeing that stripper he met on the internet. A strong relation will endure a lot, even lies. Trust may take awhile to rebuild, but I like the chances of someone confessing the lie(s), showing true remorse and trying to re-earn trust better than the the person who gets busted lying about something that undermines everything the partner thought about that person and using a lame excuse to justify it.
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What kind of lies - to prevent hurt feelings, for the betterment of the spouse, to help, good intentions, to smooth things along? Or to facility selfishness without repercussions?
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Lies have been told in every marriage since before the invention of the word. (The word "lie" and the word "marriage".) "Honey, does this dress make me look fat?" (Yeah, go ahead and answer honestly; I dare you.) "Hey, hon, I'm still as hot as when I was the quarterback on my high school football team, aren't I?" (Of COURSE you always tell the truth!) Let's see how long that marriage lasts ...
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Will it? Maybe not. Can it? yes.
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