Well if we know that he doesnt like her, then its no reason for her be with him. It is someone mean that he knows her circumstances and doesnt care, however....it sounds like he has made it known by other actions..If hes not around in general than I would expect him to do NOTHING. just my thoughts:) have a great day

tobeautyofsac: You are entitled to your opion but I could not put everything down. First he asked this person not to abort his baby eventhough doctors recommended it and he gave a promise to help her while she was seriously ill. Further I found out years later from his new wife who told my daughter that he really didn't like me for something he never told me he didn't like or I would not have been with him at all!

This is worse than abuse, it's neglect. He could go to jail for this.

Absolutely no question about it. He is only thinking about himself. Men generally are extremely selfish and self centred. As they get older it can change somewhat if they decide to work on a relationship. this is why divorce rates and common law divorce rates (what do yo call it if you aren't married?) are so high in recent years. It is too bad, but my years of watching people in relationships and knowing what guys are like (I am one) make me somewhat of an expert. Most of my friends the guys I hung out with in my younger days were all like that. women were for sex and doing house things, etc. and they really didn't have any proper upbringing to show them how they really should treat a woman. Women need to quit "Looking for love in all the wrong places". It is the same when you buy something you can go to the CHEAP store or you can go to a QUALITY store.

Short answer: Yes. Where I come from, he would have been drug out behind a barn and given a lesson about the responsibilities of fatherhood.

it is at the very least inconsiderate and heartless...but you really don't give enough information to determine if if he did anything crimminally abusive or neglectful...or cruel. you do give enough information to determine that there is some twisted thinking going on. why would she expect him to take care of her if he didn't like her and was cheating on her? why would he agree to take care of her if he didn't like her and was cheating on her? why is she being referred to as his girlfriend? did they ever agree on an exclusive relationship? what kept her from picking up the phone and calling 911 and telling the police she had been left alone without food and water? was she really unable to get up and get food and water herself or call someone other than this schumck? if so, she was soiling the bed too...but you didn't mention that. how was she making doctor's appointments and getting to them? why didn't she call her doctor and tell him what was going on? Just because she is or might be carrying his baby doesn't mean he is legally responsible for her. women get pregnant and men walk away from them everyday and they aren't legally responsible for anything regarding the baby or the until paternity is proven. There's simply not enough information to determine if it meets the real definition of cruel or abuse.

errrr YES?!!!!

yeah. very abusive. For God's sake you're carrying his love child. Break up with him if he's cheating and drain him for all he's worth in child $upport.

definately...if my bf would ever do that to me...i jus wouldn't think he cared about me anymore...