I am homophobic. I am because I was hit on several times by my wifes homosexual uncle, however I do not go around "gay bashing." I for the most part let them be, as long as I am let be. Does that make me a bad person?
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scumoftheearth
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Let me clearify. I do not hate, I am simply uncomfortable around a homosexual. However, society has deemed that homophobia.
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No, it doesn't make you a bad person. But, don't let the actions of one person make you uncomfortable around all homosexuals. He is but a minority. Most homosexuals do not go around hitting on straight people. I never have. I mean, what would be the point of it?
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Don’t become hung up on a word that has become almost meaningless because of overuse. Just treat gay people as you would anyone else. If your uncomfortable around gay people get to know some. BTW your wife’s uncle seems like a butthead. I’m bi and I’m uncomfortable around buttheads. Maybe you weren’t reacting to his being gay but rather his lack of respect for your wife and marriage?
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Of course not. This is the correct definition of homophobia, most of the time these days it refers to the hate of homosexuals.
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Not at all. I am the same way. I have even found myself going out of my way to make sure that I wasn't being disrespectful towards gay people.
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No, you're not a bad person. You're a person who's had a bad experience. As with any bad experience, however, I would encourage you to try not judge an entire group of people based on the totally inappropriate actions of one. To put it in perspective, what if every straight female became misandristic because of the creepy unwanted advances of lecherous straight males?
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No you're not. Whoever put that silly idea in your head? I think you're very considerate and tolerant towards people with homosexual inclinations, and I consider that very manly of you. But tell me, why did your wife's uncle hit you several times? And why did you not fight back?
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Nope, not at all. Given your own experience (and your wife's uncle is a complete ass, by the way, and if I were in her shoes I'd never speak to the guy ever again), you have an understandable wariness. I feel the same way about Republicans. I know that many of them would love to ruin my life, but lots and lots of them are fine. My guard goes up a bit when I first meet them, until I know what they're like as people -- as opposed to a label. You're only homophobic if it's impossible for a gay person to demonstrate to you that he or she is a nice person. Up to that point, you're just cautious. Wisely cautious, given the experience you describe.
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