The other night i cought my 13yr old son looking at porn, I checked his history & found it was gay porn he has been looking at. He has also become a member of a gay chat room thing by saying he was 18.He says he doesnt think he's gay.I dont know what todo
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leave him to it. He's a young boy, finding out who he is. Where as you do need to he supportive, you can't control him. It's something he needs to do. You're his parent. If it's the Porn you're worried about I can tell you now every teenage boy will look at it at some point. I'm an 18 year old girl and I've watched loads. When I was about 12 I loved porn, I watched all sorts, even lesbian and I'm perfectly straight. The chat thing is worrying but also quite good. It'll give him someone around his age to talk to and help him through it. It's probably just a phase. But you need to be helpful and loving either way. It's a confusing time and he needs his family.
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He's 13. He's going to look at porn. He's going to be bi-curious. Nothing to wring your hands about. Open discussion, realistic approach, outside help if you need it in the form of counseling or whatever, and everything will be fine.
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In my psychology course I did an adolescence module. When researching for an essay I found a lot of articles on the topic. It's nothing to worry about. often some kids have confusion when it comes to issues of sexuality. I really wouldn't worry about it. And if he turns out to be gay, relax, it's not the end of the world. He's still the same kid you raised. Same IQ, same personality etc
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I don't think you should do anything. If he is gay, then he is gay and you can only hurt him by trying to make him otherwise. If he is only curious, then he needs to satisfy his curiosity. Attempting to clamp down on him will only give what you prevent him from seeing a "forbidden fruit" allure. You cannot control him. In the best case, if he trusts you, you can gently nudge him, and perhaps explain things to him. But if you lose his trust, he will be forever beyond your control. This is the age at which he will decide he trusts you for life - or not.
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At 13 he is curious about sexuality, maybe gay in particular..
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Actually; you should leave him alone .... Just tell him that whatever his sexual orientation ; that you will always love him and support him ..... IF you pressure himinto talking ; you could drive him into a "Closet" or worse .... If he knows that he has your support ; then he will come to you to talk when he is ready ...
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I think he just doesn't want to admit it to YOU. Please wait until he's ready. He didn't mean to get caught.
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He's probably just curious. Hormones at that age are out of control. You should be sure he knows you love him but I'd stop allowing my 13 year old access to ANY porn or chat rooms... gay or straight, that stuff is NOT for kids!
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