BE TOGETHER FOR HUNDRED YEARS

Get pre-marital counciling. It has a huge success rate in increasing the likelyhood of a successful marriage. Especially if your councilor is good. Get on the same page on Money, Kids, Religion and Inlaws. Pre-marital counciling should help you do this. Oh and don't live with your partner before marriage. Statistically people who wait to live together til marriage are 80% more likely to have a successful marriage.

Live together. Have sex. There are more levels of compatibility than those that come at face value. It takes a lot to make things work. Overall: Make sure you are not being emotionally abused. Emotional abuse is easy to overlook in the beginning, but it will eat at you as time goes on.

Don't dredge up old arguments. Let them die. Or you can do like I did, marry a real jerk, leave him, then marry a really nice guy. No matter what the nice guy (or gal) does, he will always be WAAAAY ahead of the last one. You can always think to yourself, "Man, that was really annoying, but at least he doesn't wet the bed." Or, "At least he doesn't hit me for stopping at the grocery store on the way home from work." That way you will always love and appreciate your mate. Better yet, pick a good mate to begin with. If you have ANY doubts, don't do it.

Dont do it until you are positve that you are ready.

Communicate and talk things through Take time to know them and respect them with all your heart -

Keep your conversations about each other to yourselves. this will develop into a strong bond and trusting relationship.

don't expect anything from your partner.. keep your expectations low and you will never be disappointed

Respect, appreciation, compassion, communication and laughter. If you can master all of these, then you've got it. Oh, and lust doesn't hurt either. :p

Never talk behind each others back Never tell family or friends what faults each has If you can't agree, compromise Never take each other for granted Men, Keep the flowers and the I love you's coming Women, Love him when he leasts expects it Men, say yes dear and take the trash out Women, pamper your man when he is tired

Probably live together first. I also agree with that one the most cause you don't want to move in with someone after marriage and find out all the little things you never noticed before drive you nuts.

You can't expect it to just work You have to work at it Everyday in Everyway

Well, this is a huge topic. OK, here are my best thoughts off the top of my head from what I know and have learned and read: 1. The quality of your marriage depends on the extent to which it is built on a solid friendship and how well it meets the needs of BOTH people. 2. If you put your marriage into a win-lose situation, it will be a lose-lose situation. Learn to argue and fight so there is no loser! 3. You'll get back what you give out. When you give out better, you will get back better! 4. Forget the crap about who is right or wrong. The main question is this: Is what you're doing working or not working? If is is not working, then change it or talk about ways to change it. 5. Find your own ways that work in your marriage to make both people happy. It's different for everyone. Just be sure to realize when it's not working. Then work to fix it. 6. This is VERY important: "Falling in love" is not the same thing as "being in love!!" Being in love takes alot more work. And Staying in love takes even more work! 7. You will not solve your problems by trying to change your partner. Change how you work and act and talk with each other, and that is how you will most likely come to a good resolution. 8. Smile often and forgive and if at all possible, don't go to bed angry with things all up in the air. 9. Respect and treat your partner always, as you would want them to respect and treat you. 10. Always communicate. Never stop. And remember that actions speak alot louder than words. No magic answers. Just some thoughts and words of wisdom I have heard and read and also experienced.

Marriage is an honourable institution, but who wants to live in an institution. LOLOL Seriously, you can't beat it for fulfilling so many of life's basic needs (love, care, sex, friendship, stability, trust etc) and even though I joke about it, I have been married for 27 years this year, and am still in love and enjoying the ride....:-)

Begin as you mean to go on.

Keep the mystery alive, never let them know everything about you. Treat them as you would like to be treated & if that don't work & you don't get respect for it keep trying. Don't expect it to be like a ferry tale marriage. Try not to take your partner for granted we are never promised tom. with them. And try not to go to bed angry.

The way I'm feeling right now I think I would have to go with the best advice that was given to me.........DON'T DO IT!!!!!

stop answering "braveheart reject" has the best most definative answer.