Women: What do you think about carrying a child for a friend or sister? Would you ever do it? Men: Would you mind if your wife was doing it for someone?

I've offered to do that for a friend of mine who can't physically have kids, since we're so close and I think they'd be a good parent. I have no problem with it, I think it's a great thing that you can do for someone in need.

G'day Vesper,

Thank you for your question.

I would support my wife if she chose to carry a surrogate child for her sister or a very close friend. She would need plenty of support in those circumstances.

Regards

I carried my sisters kid, but only about two blocks, then he got too heavy, had make him walk.

I have a cousin how does not have a uterus, but does have overies and she wants children oneday, I offered to carry her children for her. I love her dearly and I see nothing wrong with it! If i was in the situation in which i could not carry my own children I would want a family member to do it for me rather than a sarogate mother!

well, ive already done it once...i wouldnt mind doing it again for someone who cant get pregnant.....maybe im just a nice person =)

i think that would be the most unselfish thing in the world - i would have done it for my sister but - she got pregnant!

I wouldn't mind, it would be a change, but in life change is just another word for excitement. Besides that it would be her choice, I suppose I would support her in it if she wanted to do so.

I've thought about that off and on for a while because I thought I'd want to be a surrogate. My ex-husband said no because I'm not always pleasant when I'm pregnant! lol I think it would be very difficult to go through the pregnancy, then have to give up the baby, even harder if the person is close to you. I have a great respect for anyone who can do it, but I think I might get way too emotionally attached.

I know it is a wonderful thing to do for somebody, but I would never ask anyone to do it for me ,
I find the thought rather distasteful.

I don't think so. Actually, I know so. I have a serious problem with saying no to people, but I think I could do it in this situation.

i would do it because if someone i love couldn't carry the baby themselves i think i would try to be as helpful as i can even if that means carrying the baby myself. i know that the women in my life that love me would probably do the same for me

I wouldn't mind my wife carrying a child for someone if that was her choice.

i wouldnt do it, id get too attatched to the baby and feel like it was mine

yes i def would... what a great gift to be able to do that for someone. and def for my sister if she could not have a child i would do that... i would prefer to have her egg and her partners sperm and i would be the surrogate. but yes def.

I think it is a wonderful thing to do. I couldnt personally do it because I would get to attached to the baby but if you can get passed that then you giving someone else the gift of life :)

i would do it...but we have to agree on some terms lol

Surrogacy is a hard one. the worst would be that after nine months the surrogate mother does not want to give the baby over anymore

I would totally do it. Plus it would be cool to watch that child grow and always be close with them.

I don't have a sister but if I did yes I would carry child for her. I have a daughter and I would carry for her as well if needed.

I have no problem if others want to do that. It is a beautiful gift. Myself I couldn't do it. A: because I never want to go through Nine months of heck ever again and B: I can't imagine going through all of that and not having a child to hold and love. After all that is what makes those nine months of heck worth it all!

I loved being pregnant and thought for a while that I would like to be a surrogate for a childless woman, but after giving birth, I came to understand how difficult it would be to not form a strong attachment to that child. I don't think I would be able to give it up after carrying it to term. Of course, it is a non-issue for me at age 58, but I think the idea of it is totally selfless and the greatest gift of love one can give.

For a close friend or sister, yes.
I would not lightly take on the responsibility of nurturing a child through their development. Even if genetically the child were not mine I would feel so close to him/her I would want to be a part of their lives afterward.

I would do it for a close friend or a sister!

I've never been pregnant for nine months and then given birth afterwards, so I don't suppose I really understand the full bonding process with a baby I've carried.

In theory, yes I would consider it if I thought my sister or my close friend would make a good parent, and was financially and emotionally stable. I know some great people but they would (and do) make lousy parents.
I'd also want my sister or friend to be in a stable relationship, whether it be with a man or a woman, I wouldn't care... but I would want the child to have two parents.

-- and in fact, when I wrote that the first time, I wrote ''but I would want my child to have two parents.''
It'd be incredibly important for me to realise it wasn't *my* child before entering into such an agreement.

I'd do it in a heartbeat!! That'd be a wonderful blessing for someone:)

i wish i could find somebody nice enough to do it for me! i'm only young (nearly 19) but when you are told you can't have kids and everyone around you has a baby it's so hard. especially when you have always been maternal. ladies, its a huge thing to do for somebody but it must be worth it to see a loved one so happy for the rest of their lives

I had agreed to carry a child for my sister, however, thanks to the miracles of modern technology/medicine, she & her husband were able to have one of their own, that she was able to carry, through invetro (sp). She is just gorgeous!

Don't think I'll mind .. but its something that needs to be thought through very well .. its a big step that can end in disaster if not handled right ..

I would do it....Ive known people to pay others to do it, and they take care of all the expenses during the pregnancy...but I have thought about it..

For the right potential parents, I would do it and actually have considered it before, however, as it turned out, they didn't need me :)

i dont have a sister but my best mate is engaged to my bro andif it turns out she can not have a baby on her own i will offer.in an ideal situatin i would like 2 have had my own kids (or well had my own child) as i would find it very hard to give up the child but id still do it.
after we have had all the children we want i would like to be a surrogate mum for a couple i do not know, reason is because id like someone out there whod do it for me, so if im able id love to help unable couples!