Why have kids? why not just live
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Some people just get that Maternal/Paternal feeling.
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Exactly. Childbearing is a choice. There are too many old cultural pressures on couples to have children. It is a personal choice - to give life to anither human being. After we do so, we better have a 20 year plan ready for them. God said, "fill the Earth". He never said overfill it. The Apostle Paul called singleness "a gift". We do not need to have children in order to "become complete". If we change our attitudes later in klife, then perhaps then we could have children.
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Being a parent is not for everyone. But in my experience there is not greater love or joy then what I feel for my son. He is a gift from God that keeps on giving.
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Because kids are a lot of fun,...and any family is going to bring you up most of the time. But its competely your choice. If you dont want them,...dont have them.
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I agree with perryman that having kids is a personal choice, that no couple should feel pressured into it and that the world is plenty full enough. Speaking for myself, however, having children is something that I definitely want to do. I can't really explain why, I just know that watching and helping someone I love more than anyone in the world grow up into an amazing person will be one of the highlights of my life.
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Barring divine intervention, if everyone on the earth right now decided to not have kids and to instead "just live", in a hundred years or so the human race would be extinct.
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Because reproduction is necessary for the survival of our species.
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When I was first married my Mom used to tell me "Now remember, having kids isn't like having a pet. Its a 20 yr commitment. You can't just give them away if you're displeased". I never forgot that. After 5yrs we decided we wanted more. We wanted a child. WE LIVED! We loved. We've been happy with our decision. Not everyone wants children, but we did.
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Kids are our little shot at immortality...
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we were all kids once too. If our parents thought about not having us then we wouldn't be here. anyway i do agree parenting is not for everyone. we do sometimes feel pressure by our culture to have a child. I believe u should have a child when you are mentally and emotionally ready to have one.
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I have a kid, and I "live". It's fun to have him, to be his guide in life. I like being a mom and I think that's why some people have kids, because they enjoy it, and having children is living.
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If, at some point in your life, you decide to have kids, you'll know why. I never wanted kids, didn't think i'd be a good father, blah blah blah, all the typical reasons. now i have a son and i couldn't imagine life without him. when i was a kid i thought that the love you have for your parents is the most you could love someone, then i met my wife and thought THAT was the most you could love someone, but my son proved me wrong. the love you have for your children is the most you can love another human being.
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For me, I was raised in a very abusive home. As I grew older I felt the need to identify with any other personality aside from what my mother deemeed me to be. I tried on; drug addict, drop-out, bully, alcoholic, abuse victim, runaway, etc.. I was very good at each of those too. However, when I learned that I was having my first child at age 16, something else just kicked in. I decided to be a Mommy and teh best damn one you ever saw. I was Supermom!!! That has its challenges, but I'll tell ya one thing...It is the most fulfilling and awe inspiring thing I have ever done with my wrteched life. I can live again and I can do it better than my mother and better than I did yesterday. There is nowhere to go but up and I love (almost) every minute of it. :) I dream of sitting on my porch one day watching my grandchildren play and knowing that I did that, I had a hand in something good and NOBODY can take that feeling away from me. Even if I die today, I know I created something beautiful and it had nothing to do with what my mother did to me.
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You don't have to have kids, especially if you don't really, REALLY want them. That wouldn't be fair to either of you.
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How would you feel if your parents felt that way? Oh, I guess you wouldn't have feelings because you wouldn't be here.
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i think a lot of couples see children as something to live for, build their lives around.
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The arguement that my mother keeps giving me is that I will not have anyone to share a special relationship with when she dies (other than my husband) and when I am old, and both she and my husband have passed, I will be alone in the world. I don't know that that is a GOOD reason, but it is a reason.
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If I did'nt have kids then I would'nt get to see the look on her face when she got her first gold fish yesterday. I would'nt get to see her expression when she beat mommy and daddy at candyland. Although I did have a tantrum and threw the board. You also did'nt get to see the look on my wifes face when she said "Damn it" for the very first time. When mommy asked where did you here it? She looked at me and pointed-----Daddy! Now those are precious times.
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You can! Some people want to and some people don't -- it depends on their way of life and how having children would affect their life...
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because having a kid can mean a life change. having a child is living, you push your self alot more because now you know you have to become somebody to give your child a better life so you try harder at everything you do. having a child can make you realize alot of things you dont notice when you are out "living". you have something to live for now, you think more about your actions...having a child is living and to me is the best life you can possibly live. i love my son, and thanks to him i am now very happy and at the age of 19, working in a office assisting a president. that was thanks to my son...he made me realize that i have to look up in life...not straight or down.
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You need someone to change the channels when you've lost the remote.
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And that...Just Live..you can do, it is a choice you get to make. Some people are perfectly happy with their lives and the choice they've made not to have kids. Some people just aren't happy with every aspect of their life until they do have a child,& then there are some people who really are here "just to be a mother or a father" and that is what they are best at. Why have kids? Well, because you want a child(ren) and you want the responsibility that comes w/ them. Either way, is fine as long as it is what you want, have them...or don't have them..
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I am living..I chose to be childless and I am loving it!
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Good point. It's all about choice really. If you really don't want kids then there's nothing wrong in avoiding them.
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I respect some people's decision not to have kids. Having said that I think "just live" doesn't make it justice. When you have a son or daughter, you live AND give life, isn't that wonderful?
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No one says you hav too. Live if you want to. If you dot really want them it's etter that you don't.
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India is outdoing us all.
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My kids are so pleasurable to me. They have improved my life in so many ways. I enjoy them. But it isn't easy and I have asked myself this question a few times. I think there is nothing wrong with not having kids. I chose to have them I like my life a lot.
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