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You need to grow a pair! Figuratively speaking of course.
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He's not "doing things for you" or taking care of you in any way shape or form. He's owning you. You are his possession. I hope that's clear to you. Now, what choice will you make?
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Oh no. NO-NO-NO! Nothing is worth being abused. You mean if he feeds you he has the right to hit you? http://wadv.org/abused.htm Look this up.
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Bad situation. The rings are only a token. Get help - ring a refuge for help if need be. Police wont act on family members reporting - you have to do it yourself. You WILL be OK, IF you get out. You CAN do it :)
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Feeling safe is a basic need. Despite what luxuries he may be able to afford, it's not worth living in fear of being hit. Don't feel like a user, get out.
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So; you just stay around and allow yourself to be a damm Punching bag for this low life son of a bitc* ? Are you aware that MOST Physical Abusers end up KILLING or Nearly Killing their spouse ... ? If you aren't NUTZ ; then save yourself and do something !! Get his ass in JAIL and you get the poor kids (if any) and Run for your lives ... preferable to another state if at all possible .... Don't look back , call ANYONE there etc ... and Start your life OVER .... If not; perhaps you can go shopping for a gravestone ... as you are probably going to be needing one .
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If he hits you and wants you to be his wife, then you really can't think than he will take care of his family- hitting you is to the contrary.
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If I understand this right - it's okay to hit someone when they do wrong as long as they are taking care of you. So since you take care of your child - then it is okay for you to hit them? Please listen to yourself and get out of there, when you are dead - then it's a little too late - but hey he took care of you?????....
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Go for counseling. He sounds like a good man with anger problems. Try to get him into counseling; tell him to think of the kids who come first always. Unless things are proven to be unsolvable get into counseling. If he won't go with you then go alone. There is a thing that is called "Anger Management." Look into it. I have the feeling that he really loves you, wants a home, but doesn't know how to control himself. That can be taught.
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Take him to church. Read your Bible. Best to stay with him as the Lord expects. He can change -- and the Church can help. Read Your Bible!
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Carefully examine exactly what sets him off. Keep a diary. Sometimes a woman does things that dig right into a man's guts. If I wanted to I could turn the nicest man into a hitter. Whatever it is avoid pushing those buttons. It's up to both of you.
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Then give him the rings back when you leave. What you're not getting is that he's using you as a punching bag. Your willingness to stay and be hit is fulfilling a need of his. It's not good for you to fulfill that need, and it's not good for him to think that he can use you that way. You are not the user. He is.
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He beats you! Do rings make up for that?!
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You need to see somebody that will talk some sense into you. You think because he pays for food that gives him the right to use you as a punch bag. As you accept this kind of behaviour from a creature that it would be an insult to real men to call him a man. You will be lucky if one day he does not harm you so badly that you will not be able to leave and then he can pay for your funeral. It must make him feel really big to beat a woman. I do hope you do not have children that you let see this creature beating you. Find a REAL man to take care of you if you cannot do it yourself. A man that loves and respects you as a person . Not as a sex object and a whipping boy.
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sorry to say that but to me you ARE a user. OK OK OK don't scream I am going to tell you why. what would be the reason that someone abuses you and u still stay with that person?!!?!?! I tell you why. its because of financial security. so in other word you are using him. I understand that it is his responsibility as a mate to support his family but when it comes to abusing, you should not stay even for one minute with him.
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He needs to go to anger management because without some intervention, he probably isn't going to stop, and NO ONE deserves to be hit. Until then, get out and get help for yourself. There is NO EXCUSE for hitting someone in a relationship. If you have kids and he hits you in front of them, they are being emotionally damaged every time he hits you. Even if he doesn't hit you in front of them, they know what is going on. Please take to heart what I have written. I speak from experience. What is there to love about someone who disrespects a loved one by hitting them? Wish I could help you more.
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i Know you may be feeling guilty but if you think you love him then stAy with him
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When you say that he takes care of the family, do you have children with this man? If so, leave immediately! Do not let them grow up in a violent household! I'm surprised that so many people are telling you to change your behaviour. If he can't tolerate the real you, then you shouldn't have to tolerate his abuse. You have several options. 1. Go to counselling. 2. Call the police and leave him. 3. Leave him. 4. Sit him down and have a discussion with him. Be clear that you will no longer tolerate physical abuse. If he continues, pursue options 1-3. 5. Stay with him. This is not recommended, as it will most likely escalate over time and will be destructive to your self-confidence, self-esteem, the relationship, and the development of any children that are introduced into such an environment.
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