This has never happened to me. I think I would ask (through a comment on one of his or her questions) why he or she did not accept my denial in the first place. But I think I have only denied one request until now. I usually need a good reason for that.

It's obvious that a lot of folks don't look at profiles before they send a friend request. I know I am not the only one who has personal "rules" for accepting friend requests listed in profile. I get friend requests all of the time from people I've never heard of before. And yes, some have requested repeatedly. I don't get mad, I'm just a little annoyed that they don't read profiles or choose to ignore what is said there. I do not accept friend requests from complete strangers, someone I've had very little interaction with, someone who has no friends in common on their list, or someone I know to have extreme opposing views from my own and/or is known to be bigoted, rude, insulting, etc. Most of them have stopped after a few requests. Also, I tend not to add anyone who is a teen unless I know them very well.

I've been fortunate to never be in this situation but I thought there was a limit on how many times a person can request you. If there isn't, I'd just keep hitting the deny button.

That would annoy me. Its never happened but I think I'd just give in and accept them if it was on Answerbag. If it were on Facebook or Myspace I'd keep denying them

That has only happened to me twice Keysha. One person sent the same request about 4 times and I kept denying. I guess they gave up. I am like Redcatt why don't people read the profiles for requirements. I can be pretty stubborn and I have no problem with hitting that denial button 100 times if need be. I hardly ever request friends. I let them do it. If I have ever requested more than once it's because I have forgotten I requested before but once I am denied, I won't ask again. it's their move. I am not in for "most friends". I want true honest ABers who hang around, comment, answer my questions, etc. My friends I accept will follow my rules in my profile (thanks for the reminder I am putting it back in now) or they will not be accepted. Keep denying them. Don't give it because that defeats the purpose.

That drives me a bit bonkers. One of them recently requested some 8 times before I did the following: I have had people re-request as soon as I turn them down until I finally give in, approve them, then delete them a bit later. Then I get to hope that they do not start this crap all over again. It is obvious that these people are friends collectors. I have never seen them before and, if I remember to look at their profiles later, see umpteen pages of friends. They are almost always level 1 or 2. I would leave them unapproved and undenied except then I miss real friends requests.

I have had a few do that and I just keep denying them. I may wait until a day or two before denying them letting them set in limbo. I had one ask me a few different times why I denied him and I tried to be nice about it but came down to I thought he was annoying and not what I would call a friend. It does get annoying and I have made suggestions that we can block invites to these people who can't accept no for an answer but well we know that isn't happening.

No one forces me to do anything I don't want to do. I can be as stubborn and obsessive as anyone if I must. However, I never deny people. I always give everyone a chance. I am inclusive, not exclusive. Now, if I find that I made the wrong choice, I delete and that's that! :) Happy Tuesday Keysha! :) ((hugs)) If someone keeps annoying you, that is the same thing as stalking and I would immediately report it to AB staff and let them deal with the person who continues to harrass you..because that is exactly what is going on! :)

I haven't had that problem yet. Here's my take on it: I have certain criteria for adding someone to my Friend's list. Basically, we must have had at least ONE meaningful conversation at some point, beyond just "Nice answer!" and "Thanks!". I add people to my Friend's list because we have SOMETHING in common. If we don't, then there is no sense in me adding that person. This is posted in my profile for anyone to read. In addition, I have other criteria: I have no desire to have rude people or people who's sole interest in life here on AB revolve around a very limited topic...like things of a sexual nature for example. This does NOT mean that if I don't agree with a particular view point of someone that I won't add them. Just because a person is a hard core Athiest, Islamic, Gay, or a Liberal Left-Wing nutcase (at least, in my opinion), doesn't mean I won't add that person. Part of having a meaningful conversation means being able to intelligently discuss things that we don't agree on, too. I do have some people in my Friends list who fall into those catagories...and they are fine people. Now, what to do with someone who won't take a hint? Perhaps I'll just keep them in the pending list for a time (weeks or months) until they meet the criteria I have. Perhaps, if they won't take a hint, I'll drop a line in a comment somewhere as a clue or hint that there is some behavior preventing their acceptance on my list (but I won't air it deliberately in public here...that would be rude). Perhaps, if they have an email address listed, I'll drop them a line explaining WHY I denyed their request and (this is important) what my specific criteria is regarding themselves so that they can try again later if they wish. Or maybe I'll just keep denying them. I don't wish to p*ss anybody off, but MY Friend's list is MINE to do with as I see fit. Adding or denying people is my right alone. People should take no offense at this...I am perfectly capable of being offensive through other means if that is my goal. Not only that, but I won't say anything behind someones back that I wouldn't say to their face. Currently, there are two whole rows of people in my pending list because they haven't met the basic criteria I require. I have added a few of these people to my Friends list after a few weeks or months. Some I later denyed because during all those weeks ALL they really wanted to talk about were sexually explicit topics or, in once particular case, only anime. The rest sit there until I can get a better feel for the type of person they are.

Haven't denied a friend request yet, then again haven't gotten any requests from people I haven't interacted with at least once.