Im turnin 18 in oct & he turned 29 in feb. met at work, he liked me first. he said he cant date me till im 18, but i sleep at his house every weekend, have had sex. hes afraid that soon i will get attached 2 him/him attached 2 me, what should i do?
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i think this is a sign you should be together so dnt be scared go for it
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Surely if he sees you as old enough to have sex with him then your old enough to date him? Sounds like hes taking you for a ride hun
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Hmmm can't date you but he can have sex with you and have you stay every weekend - sounds like he doesn't want to be seen out with you; do you look very young or does he look older than he is!? If he has a problem with the age difference and other peoples' opinions it needs sorting before either of you get too serious - people get attached to each other when they are in a relationship whatever their age but if there is an underlying issue before you start you need to talk about it and get it sorted. Good luck
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He can't date you but he can have sex with you. That's why they made laws to keep men away from minors. To late honey you already did it. Don't be surprised if he takes a hike. Your not thinking clearly he using you for sex period. child,child,child. you still have to learn the ways of the world. What should I do? Will you listen? Get the hell away from him. You want to make a bet if by chance your get pregnant all you will see is his dust. i8 alone and a baby your not going to like that.
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Sounds to me like he is using you for sex only, thats why hid did not want to date you till your 18 and does not like the fact that you may start to get too attached. When you turn 18 he may turn around and say "sorry but your too old for me now" You only do what YOU want and feel like you want to do, but remember your 17/18 don't get too tied down just yet and don't grow up faster than you need to!
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Thats priceless, he can have sex with you, but he can't date you. Do you see something wrong with this picture? -
we work together, and apparently from what he said, he will be in big trouble if people know that we're dating. He also said i wasnt ready for sex, but it just happened. He looks like he's in his early 20s, i look like im about 19-20, and not tryin to say that im all that, but im not ugly. at least not to the point where people r ashamed to go out with me in public. also, its weird, cause now he doesnt work with me anymore (he said hes lookin for a new job and already quit) whenever im at his house, and his brother is there, he tells me to stay in his room.(before was because his bro and him both worked at the same place and his bro has a big mouth) but now i dont know why its still such a big secret. WTF
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im not finding excuses. im just curious to what i should do. thx for all the advices i guess, not like i dont wanna break up with him, we're not even dating. and him usin me thats exactly wot i thot, but sometimes the things he does makes me second guess myself. oh well, i guess im just an idiot. thx :)
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sounds like a dirty old perv to me.
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Fact from fiction, truth from diction. The main grain of thought should be him not wanting to get attached. You are not 18 yet, depending on what state you are in he can't date you openly. The fact that he has bedded you could ruin his life forever. He is probably afraid to get involved with you because so many people think as kurr-plunk,that he could not possibly love you, that it has to be impossible and the ONLY way he can be interested in you is for what you have between the legs. He could be just taking you for a ride but depending on what state you are in that could be risky if he thought he would piss you off enough to rat him out to the cops. Maybe he feels you are fickle and in a few months want to go out with some young Hartnett type of guy and he don't want to get invested to have you flake out on him. If you want tit to work you would have to gain his trust that you are in it to win it. If you want to see if he is that committed close the door to the honey cave and see if he will stick around to learn what you have in your Grey matter, and not just your body.
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You should drop him like a hot rock! He's just using you.
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i kno every one has told u he is a loser etc but i do feel u for u :( but it is the truth. from what u have told us of this fella he is just using u. 18 year old fellas can be great fun, n wen urs a bit older u will feel sad that u missed out on the chance to have fun with ppl ur own age goin thro the same things! believe me its much more fun discovering new things with someone who is also discovering them for the first time, its way more exciting!!
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You are attached to each other at regular intervals... your genitals seem to have "static cling".
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The age cap alone is a problem. I'm 21 and won't date minors. There is no age laws when it comes to dating. However, there is age laws when it comes to SEX. So he is well in violation of the law and only using you since he doesn't plan to date you...
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That is REALLY cool of him to to wait until you're 18! But if you're always at his house, what's wrong with being attached? I think he may want to use you, but not get in trouble
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