What would you do if the man you love gave you herpes?

Well, if I loved men (something that I do not) I'd probably be like...

"What the fuck bro?! UNKIND!!!"

hahahaha (ever get the feeling you should have answered one less question before bedtime?)

try and make this love last so we can just pass the herpes back and forth between the two of us, and keep others uninfected.

too late, I already have it.. So it would be better for me, so we don't have to use condoms

He did, he didn't mean to, he was really upset and I forgave him.

He got cold sores from being a kid and although he was aware that cold sores are outbreaks of herpes on the mouth and the herpes virus could be passed from his mouth to my genitals giving me genital herpes, he thought it was only possible to pass it when he actually had symptoms - i.e. when he was getting warning signs for a cold sore (prodrome), when he had one or was getting over one.

Unfortunately oral herpes which causes cold sores is infectious about 10% of the time even when a cold sore is NOT present and he had NO current symptoms.

He felt awful, he still feels guilty because he knows that while my genital herpes is physically no worse than his oral herpes, he does not have to deal with any stigma for getting the occasional 'cold sore' while I have to deal with rejection, being seen as dirty and undesireable and a huge amount of stigma, despite the fact we carry the identical virus in different places and my genital infection is less infectious than an oral one (with hsv-1).

I really struggle with the psychological side of having herpes. It isn't much fun to have friends, lovers and family drop the occasional clanger (saying a man who caught herpes must have been with 'dirty' women etc - a woman with herpes is NOT dirty! or asking if it is safe to use the same toilet as me). Nor is it great telling men you like and risking their reaction, or having a man ask if he can get herpes if he touches you down below. I don't think anyone asks people who get cold sores these things, when they don't have one - the stigma of genital herpes is so strong, however misplaced.

But I can say hand on my heart that I do not blame him. He was so upset, I think the guilt must have been worse for him. I was so angry I caught it, but I couldn't direct it against him. After all, you take your own risk with sexual relations and that risk is your responsibility not someone elses. If anything, I blame myself for not being more clued up and for just thinking it would never happen to me as most people do. People have to take responsibility for their own sexual health, not go around blaming other people.

I've been with my man for 14 years! If I came down with something he would be losing his favorite body part!!! No seriously it all depends on if your married or single, how much of a commitment you really wanna give this person, all kinds of factors. And for petes sake PLEASE inform future partners! Thats the only way to stop the spread.

MY BABY'S FATHER GAVE ME HERPES. I DIDN'T KNOW UNTIL MY DAUGHTER WAS 2 MONTHS OLD. HE CHEATED ON ME WITH SOME STRIPPER. I WAS PISSED BUT I'VE LEARNED TO DEAL WITH IT. I THOUGHT THAT I SHOULD LEAVE BECAUSE IF HE GAVE ME HERPES HE MIGHT COME WITH AIDS.

You can carry the herpes virus for a long time and have no systoms.. He might not of known and accidentally gave it to you. If he makes you happy and you trust him don't split up with him because of this.

Okay well I am a guy but I think I feel the same way. I had a girl tell me she had them after I had sex with her! It scared the shit out of me for a couple years.
Luckily I never came down with it. But, that's not right not to share that before sex!

Depends.... If he had herpes before we got together I would probably stay with him because I do love him and I would have herpes forever anyways... But if he got herpes while he was with me I would beat his ass!

Then you dont love him anymore - simple!

Go to the doctor, try to figure out where he got it from, if it was during or before or relationship, and find out if he had know about it before we were physically intimate.
If he knew or cheated then Id definitely boot him and never look back.
If it was all an accident or he told me before the relationship everything would be fine.

It'd suck like hell but shit happens and i can forgive. It wouldn't be his fault really if he hadn't of known but id be a bit pissy that he wasnt more careful and got tested often enough to know.

Not give him oral sex that's for sure.

First I'd give him an earful, then I'd give him the doctor's bill.

Have sex with more people who have herpes.

considering I'm hetro
if a man even tried to give me herpes I would cut his junk off with a dull rusty axe

If he knew he had it and didn't tell me I'd be furious! But if I knew and took that chance then I would deal with it.

It depends. I'd certainly wonder how he got the herpes.

I would wake up from a nightmare, I don't think I want to picture any situation with my dad.

cut his private part and kick on ass out.

if after a month, it's perhaps my fault and requires more information. if after 15 years, a .357 sounds just and fair.