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  • Oh, well...shit does happen
  • ... Continued: My son then asked my husband to tell his Daddy to stop saying that to him. My husband & I honestly don't care what he thinks about us, but he is obviously hurting my son. My question is, should I confront him about it in front of my son, so he can see how he's hurting him, or do it in private? I'm afraid it won't stop if he doesn't see how it's affecting our son.
  • Your ex is out of line, and you should tell your son how it really is. If there's more to it than just the question, you may be able to petition the court to have only supervised visits with him.
  • Address the issue with your child's father, but not in front of your son. If he doesn't already know that he is hurting his son, he will never 'get' it just by seeing your son hurting. Make the request that he keep his opinion about your new marriage to himself; let him know that you don't expect him to agree with you, but that you think it is in the child's best interests for him to refrain from exposing your child to this conflict of opinion. If your son continues to report that his father is talking about it, escalate the issue to your lawyer.
  • I think you should tell him in front of your EX! And do tell your son that " Mama and Papa both love you a lot". Simple tell your child that your Ex is no one till he grows up!
  • I think there is more to the story. Confrontation is necessary. Maybe try and have the four of you in the same place, maybe doing something that involves all of you. Your son needs to know that there is good communication between You and his Father and preferably between his Father and Stepfather. At 5 years old, he shouldn't be allowed to manipulate the family unit. This can have a very negative impact on your child's development. Be careful not to put blame on one another, as this usually never leads to solving the issue. In the end, all must learn to accept the situation.

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