Women: Do you think that its sexist if a guy (father, brother, boyfriend, guy-friend) feels the need to be protective over you?
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Yes, but not over-protective. There is a fine line between protective and obsession.
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I find it pretty attractive, actually. Some women like to feel protected and looked-after in most cases. In some, it gets very irritating and tiring. In example, I'm the youngest of three and my brother is the oldest. Growing up, he wouldn't let a guy get too close to me and if I had a boyfriend, I would suggest that I call him instead of him calling me, lol. My brother was protective- I won't say "over" protective, because I really appreciated it and it showed that he cared, which I loved as a little sister- and to this day I'm thankful for it more than he knows. In short, no, I don't find it sexist. I take it that the guy- whoever he may be- cares alot about me and that my safety is important to him. I value that in friendship and a relationship.
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I don't think it's sexist if it takes the form of making sure certain safety precautions are observed. In those situations (walking you to your car, asking for a phone call when you get home, offering to accompany you on errands at night, etc.) it's just an acknowledgment that it is a dangerous world, and women who have visible protection are safer. It IS sexist if a man tries to prevent you from living your life "for your own good".
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There is a huge difference between being protective if there is or might be a dangerous situation, and feeling the need to control or smother a woman so no other men can talk or interact with her. Protection for legitimate reasons is one thing. Protection to control someone is not alright or fair or healthy for the relationship. That is being not only sexist, but controlling and shows alot of insecurity and perhaps lack of trust as well.
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No, my mom is protective too.
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