What would you do if your s/o was very insecure over 1 friend of the oppisite sex, your not very close to this friend, but your s/o wants you to stop seeing them, would you? its not every1 of the oppisite sex, just this 1 person
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Do you invite your s/o to join you when you see your friend? If you do and your s/o refuses to go, I wouldn't stop seeing the friend. That sounds like irrational possessiveness to me. Now, if you don't want your s/o to come with you, that is something else again. Happy Wednesday! :)
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There's something about this friend that your s/o feels threatened by, what might it be? Sometimes, a person can feel that someone is attractive to their partner because THEY perceive them as attractive. Does this friend have qualities that your s/o envies? If so, then maybe your s/o has these qualities too but is not making the best of them, or they're repressed. I'm thinking that maybe if the friend was an artist and your s/o secretly longed to be, for example? Perhaps you could encourage any 'hidden talents' or attitudes, such as confidence or humour that your s/o might feel jealous of? If he's not usually controlling then something more is going on. Don't just give up the friend, try to get together as a group tho', at least for a while?
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If I had the answer to this I would be able to answer roughly seven thousand other AB questions. I am not a cheater and my past proves it. But my Girly is very jealous of others. Frankly, it's a compliment. She believes I am worth that much protection. As for dealing with it, in the case as you describe it: S/he needs to grow up. My Girly has learned that I'm not out to screw anything with a pussy (though, I admit, that is how I was when we met). She has learned that I do not cheat, but I am not giving up friends, either. I must say that if they can't be secure, given your minimal description of the situation, then you need to move on.
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That depends on who you are. If your s/o is insecure about it and it makes him feel uncomfortable, then why do it? Isn't this s/o supposed to be more special than anyone else right, now. Error on the side of caution. Give your s/o the benefit of the doubt. If you don't he's probably not that significant.
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don't humor him he needs to get over it if there's no true threat then there's no reason for distrust
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I wouldn't care because from the start of our marrage, I made it clear that it wouldn't be the end to my individuality. We both trust and respect each others happyness apart from each other as well as together. That's why it's lasted 20 years. Although, I have to concede, my husband would be against a male friend, he's the jealous type.
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It all depends on how cool me and that friend is. If that friend was a major part of my life, I wouldn't stop seeing her. Of course I couldn't tell the girlfriend. You know what they say: What she doesn't know won't hurt her.
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If someone was truly "significant" to me, I would stop seeing someone who is not very close to me to make him more secure.
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