I feel like he is taiking me for granted as I am usually the one who looks for him. He's busy with work during the week and busy with friends on the weekends so we don't really talk much on the weekends. We usually talk online but most of the time I have to make an effort to being online as he does not really like SMS (he said that his phone is annoying and is too slow to type SMS with). I can understand that he has his own life and I do too but I just figure it might be nice if he tells me where he is going and what he is doing, at least so that I know that he is alive. I feel like I am the one who is always making the effor to make this relationship works. I've known him for ages and he's a nice guy but I just feel like he is taking me for granted and I feel that he does not care about me as much as I care about him. I usually send him an SMS when he disappear when we were chatting but I am getting tired to always look for him. When he is out he does not seem to care about me, even when he is just watching TV at home. He called me today and I asked him where he was and he said he was doing this and that that's why he did not have time to say goodbye when we were chatting. He called me for about a minute and told me he's going to bed. When we talk online, it is always before he goes to bed and by then he'd be sleepy and does not know what to talk about. I find long distance relationship really hard. I sort of asked him about it today and he said he was doing stuff. I am not needy but I just want to know that he is okay. I find that Long distance relationship really hard and I can't be the only one making the effort to be onine as I have a life too. If he only calls for 5 mins a day when I am not in front of the computer, I find that the relationship isn't going anywhhere and he does not care as he does not make the effor on his side. He told me before that he is a carefree and indifferent type of guy but is sending an SMS saying, "I am busy, ttyl" so hard for guys? Esp, if you don't tell your girlfriend that you're going out and will be busy? What should I do 'cos I feel unappreciated and taken for granted? I worry about him when I hear nothing from him but I don't want to SMS him anymore 'cos he does not always reply... I don't have the strength to try to understand and forgive him anymore but on the other hand I really like him and our families know each other. I always make the first move and I am getting tired of it. Most of the time, he only looks for me when he is online and I am not but I can't afford being online all the time. What's your say on this?

Do you have a question?

Perhaps he has not been completely truthful with you. Could he be married?

This is not a good siyuation. You and he should have a long, honest talk...on the porch, not in bed!

Repeat this to yourself 100 times. "Long distance relationships don't work." Then get a guy you can see once in awhile, for crying out loud.

LISTEN TO ME!!!!!!!!!! i am in the exact same situation. my girlfriend who is also long distance doesnt make as much effort as me, and even though i still love her it hurts me sometimes. you need to ask youself if it is worth it or not, and ask him do you mean that much to him.

the question is have you ever met in person? in my opinion long distance never works but who knows there could be soooo many reasons of why this is happening. its scary if you havent REALLY met him and think you should let it go find a real man who can care for you and actually be there for you...u no