How do you get your give a s*** back after it dies off in your marriage?
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jimmyDvidiot
ANSWERS: 11
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It took me like three tries to understand your question. Haha!
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Make your wife happpy duuuuh
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Try watching your wedding video or looking at your wedding photos. It will help you remember why you married in the first place. Hopefully those things still exist, and you will want to put forth effort to keep the marriage together. Communicate with each other, let each other know what you want and need from the relationship. Never go to bed angry. Make time for the two of you to be alone together doing something you enjoy,: movies, cards, puzzles, etc.
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Get another s/o
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I believe you have asked a very important question. If you allow yourself to think about the things you g a s about, you will find that you like things that confirm you own good opinion of yourself and dislike things that challenge it. You have to be able to love caring for someone else so much you forget about yourself. Picturing them dead under the wheels of a train might bring to mind how much you once loved them. That puppy love wasn't made to go the distance. If you can't move yourself toward maturity, be mature enough to get out of the marriage. Nobody wants to be a prisoner. God bless.
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First of all, try to figure out why you lost your give a s***. If it is something your s/o did or said, talk it over with them. If you deeply feel you have lost your love, then you have to talk about a separation, possibly divorce. Open communication will help greatly.
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I'm trying to figure it out myself. I think we just have to wait till we find someone better that actually makes a positive impression on us.
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Well, it doesn't "die off." It gets killed by lack of the following: responsibility, respect, responsiveness and resourcefulness.
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To start off with, marriage is where you are supposed to put selfishness aside and give yourself in service to one another and to the marriage. Each of you should be seeking to understand rather than to be understood. If each of you is seeking to give more than you get, neither will ever be left out or unloved. If you start giving, you usually get what you give. That isn't true of everyone of couse, and sometimes people will just take whatever they can get and give as little as they can get away with. You've told us about how horrible your wife is, what about you? Are you giving to her? Are you being a grown up? Are you listening to her? Do you take the trash out without being asked, or do you sit on your butt with a beer in front of the TV and ignore her nagging all night?
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Giving a s*** is a choice. You do it or you don't. Sometimes all it takes to reignite the fire is some really good sex. Sometimes it takes couples counseling. But no matter what it is always your decision, your effort, and your determination that makes it work. You can't make her do her part, but you have to do yours. If she doesn't follow suit give her time, think it over, talk it over, and, if push comes to shove, call it over.
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I think you do care you just could care less about all the s*** she says to piss you off.You hear things from your s/o for to long to many times you just dont care what they think anymore,you could care less if they are home or what they are doing because if there around they make you feel soooooo small in there world.Thats what I think anyways.
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