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by Junk Yard Dog on January 24th, 2007

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Why do people have kids when they know they can't afford them?

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  • by blessings on January 24th, 2007

    blessings

    Sex.

    Pure and simple. Take sex away, and -viola- no more kids.

    But on a serious note, many couples have 'unplanned' or unexpected pregnancies. Birth control is not the 'be all, end all' that Planned Parenthood touts as the panacea for the world's problems. Condoms break at the wrong moment, diaphrams slip, and many mishaps can occur just in the 'heat of passion'. It is hard to argue with a raging hard hormone.

    When a couple cannot afford much, sometimes the only thing they do have is each other. One thing leads to another, and well, you get the idea.

    Most people do not plan to fail. They fail to plan.

    And that is true in all areas of life.

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  • by Gingerminx on January 8th, 2009

    Gingerminx

    So only the rich are allowed to have children??? Since a good majority of the rich people in the world are white is this a subtle form of genocide?

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  • by bagicide stayed 10 months too long on January 8th, 2009

    bagicide stayed 10 months too long

    Some people were well fixed for having kids last October and aren't now. Life changes. You can have a good job one day and be in trouble the next. Most folks, no matter how much they make, live one or two paychecks from being homeless. There are many folks who think they are well fixed until their kid gets sick and the insurance company starts raising their rates, hoping to force them to drop the insurance. Then their company drops them because its either drop the employee or drop the health insurance for everyone. Next thing they know, they are unemployed, uninsured and living with relatives.

    And besides those folks who start out in good shape and have planned kids and then have live rip the rug out from under them, there are all the kids on here that we talk to every day who have had sex ed and have been given condoms and didn't use what they had because hey, that happens to other people.

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  • by tjatherton on January 24th, 2007

    tjatherton

    People could be very well off and have a child, within 1 year could be poverished. No one knows the future, and even someone that can't afford one now, could very well afford it by the time it is born.
    Kind of a presumptious question that if you are broke today, you will always be broke...
    Not all wealthy people are capable of raising a child either... children need attention and time with their parents.

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  • by beezkneez on January 8th, 2009

    beezkneez

    Accidents happen... rude.

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  • by Nom de guerre on January 24th, 2007

    Nom de guerre

    Well, poor people do have the right to have sex, and no birth control is guaranteed to be 100% effective.

    The argument that poor people shouldn't have sex (there ARE poor married people, you know), and shouldn't have babies just reeks of unchecked classism.

    People can't win... "don't have an abortion! but know that once you squirt that baby out, I'm not going to be happy that you're getting WIC!!! That's MY hard-earned money, so you need to go get yet another job!"

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  • by munchkin_kids_downunder on January 24th, 2007

    munchkin_kids_downunder

    people's circumstances change. my husband was a high executive >$140K. one month after having our 1st child (premmie & still in hospital), my husband got retenched. sometimes even the people who can afford them get into difficulty especially when you thought you were safe, things get turned upside down in a blink of an eye!

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  • by fishnets on January 24th, 2007

    fishnets

    The only form of birth control that is 100% effective is to not have sex at all. Most married couples are intimate with each other, and unfortunately, NO form of birth control other than just not having sex, is 100%. And everyone who works pays taxes. I'm so sick of hearing about people complaining of THEIR TAX MONEY GOING TO RAISE OTHER PEOPLES CHILDREN. Those people work, and they pay taxes as do you.
    Not everyones a whore, and not everything is within our realm of control.
    Walk a mile in someone elses shoes before expressing your opinion.

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  • by snakebarber on January 8th, 2009

    snakebarber

    If you wait to have kids until you can afford them, you never will.

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  • by Anno on January 8th, 2009

    Anno

    They think babies maybe the source of passion to live, survive. With the existence of baby they think they could work harder(for the baby) and fix their economical condition. But that generally does not work

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  • by DWreck on January 8th, 2009

    DWreck

    Some don't mean to have children. It just happens sometimes, and most people do the best they can with what money they do have.

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  • by SUPER NANNY on January 8th, 2009

    SUPER NANNY

    WOMEN WANT SOMEONE WHO WILL LOVE THEM FOREVER NO MATTER WHAT...SO THEY HAVE CHILDREN...

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  • by TAPriceCTR s son is wearing his COAT on January 8th, 2009

    TAPriceCTR s son is wearing his COAT

    maybe because if they do not they will have nothing left to live for. my question is what percentage of 40 hour/week workers in this nation do you think deserve an income capable of supporting children?

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  • by Rollie on January 8th, 2009

    Rollie

    It is the natural thing to do. Some don't use birth control because it's a religious issue. Some don't know birth control because of the issues regarding sex education and others just don't give a dam because it is the natural thing to do.

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  • by Cognition aka Cog on January 8th, 2009

    Cognition aka Cog

    Because they couldn't afford condoms!

    But really it's heat of the moment they are not thinking about the possibility of pregnancy and all that goes with it.

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  • by anonymous on January 24th, 2007

    anonymous

    ive been wondering that very question as well, it could be b/c of their culture or beliefs

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  • by jennifer225 on January 24th, 2007

    jennifer225

    because some people have their beliefs on abortion.. it sometimes a situation you cant control.. i know what ur saying because i feel the same way about the situation.

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  • by LeMeThink on January 24th, 2007

    LeMeThink

    When you can’t afford anything, any other form of entertainment: procreate.

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  • by AntigoneRising on January 24th, 2007

    AntigoneRising

    Probably because they don't believe in abortion.

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  • by squaremuffin on January 24th, 2007

    squaremuffin

    The unsanswerable question!

    Perhaps they cannot control the craving for responsibility, when they're just not ready for the workload yet. :)

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  • by Yahoo Answers Is A Fraud on January 8th, 2009

    Yahoo Answers Is A Fraud

    Society pressures people to breed. Glad I'm never having them.

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  • by Squarehead on January 24th, 2007

    Squarehead

    Because they either want to be like every other family and have a "normal" like, or because they want kids just for fun. like buying a pet cat. :D or cause the gender thing, that's another one.
    ((btw, i put gender instead of sex, k? but that doesn't make sense cause if i typed it here, shouldn't i've typed it there. ...))

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  • by Nam1310 on January 24th, 2007

    Nam1310

    I ask myself that question a lot

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  • by Firebrand on January 24th, 2007

    Firebrand

    In this day and age there should not be unplanned children . Since family planning clinics provide free birth control it has to be a case of just not bothering . I realise there are times when accidents occur but too many of the accidents happen to the same irresponsible people..
    In this country the State will support you anyway in fact the more children you have the better off you seem to be

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  • by edpesosss134 on January 24th, 2007

    edpesosss134

    well the reason is, there is a program called wellfare,public assistance which is desigh to make people fail and depend on the system. this system was made to be supplemental.

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  • by Mrs.mezzo is a Wagnerian soprano on January 24th, 2007

    Mrs.mezzo is a Wagnerian soprano

    So the people at Child Protective Services have something to do.

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  • by janacide on January 24th, 2007

    janacide

    Because it is thier "GOD GIVEN RIGHT!"

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  • by TaoZen on January 24th, 2007

    TaoZen

    There can't be one answer. Budgeting is often about logic and sex, often, isn't. There's also the issue of intelligence (lack of/use of).

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  • by Discipline on January 8th, 2009

    Discipline

    Accidents aside....

    Not thinking ahead. Not wise enough to be parents. They take whatever that comes their way.

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  • by Borderlinux on January 8th, 2009

    Borderlinux

    They don't know. They're really _THAT_ stupid. It's quite sad :(.

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  • by mttdal on January 8th, 2009

    mttdal

    Because they look at them as possesions, not little people. Trust me I worked for CPS

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  • by Lori K still ignores stalkers and trolls on January 8th, 2009

    Lori K still ignores stalkers and trolls

    Irresponsibility and self indulgence for the most part.

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  • by Want To Sleep With A Miner on January 8th, 2009

    Want To Sleep With A Miner

    Abstinence isn't the only 100% effective form of birth control, unfortunately, the other ones are permanent. And I don't mean abortion, I don't like that any more than anyone else.

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  • by allikatzpop on January 8th, 2009

    allikatzpop

    1.Sex is fun
    2.Oops! i'm pregnant
    3.My baby's daddy will PAY me.
    4.And I get medicaid,section 8 housing,food stamps,WIC and check from the government.

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  • by tiffany on January 9th, 2009

    tiffany

    Lots of reasons.

    -Too lazy to use a method of birth control.
    -They're on welfare so they don't need to be able to afford the kid(s).
    -Cause they think they have so much love to give, it will be enough to support a little baby (without giving thought to the fact that they grow up and also need more than love to keep them fed and warm).

    Those are a few (cynical) thoughts that come to mind.

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  • by Aksafari on January 8th, 2009

    Aksafari

    Because they figure if they can't make the payments, they can just let the bank take them back.

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  • by Wii Gamer on January 8th, 2009

    Wii Gamer

    People just seem to forget to wrap before they tap. It is just the heat of the moment and they are not thinking about the ramifications of what they are about to do.

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  • by zetec144 on January 8th, 2009

    zetec144

    so they can get a council house and government benefits........ its easy!!
    p.s by the way im not one of these statistics, im just an angry taxpayer who foots the bill.

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  • by Jess on September 12th, 2007

    Jess

    Because they can, there is always assistance to help them out so why not. The only people I know that do this are the ones that are aware of how to use the system and get money from their parents.

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  • by edpesosss134 on January 24th, 2007

    edpesosss134

    good point read my answer below

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  • by Trash Street on September 25th, 2010

    Trash Street

    Both my parents were only & very lonely children while growing up. So when they got married they had 4 children.My mom has a fun time going from one grown up offsprings house to another. Loneliness thru lack of siblings is what Octomom experienced growing up. So she made sure she'll enter old age with plenty of friends.If you think having a lot of kids is hard, try loneliness & isolation

    Thanks for Very Good and interesting question

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  • by stop4nicating on September 25th, 2010

    stop4nicating

    Because they are selfish and irresponsible and lazy. Because they think babies are cute and want to clone themselves. Because they know they can get a welfare check by having sex and that is fun. Because they don't give a damn about anyone but themselves or the children they can't feed. Because they were brought up with no values and were welfare kids themselves. They don't consider abortion because you have to have a kid to get the welfare check. Abortions are out of the question for these people not because of religious beliefs but because they want the money and they would rather f**k for it than work for it. And so it goes and the people who are responsible pay. And so it is.

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  • by bcmalloy on April 21st, 2009

    bcmalloy

    Your assuming everyone is rational and would not put themselves at the risk of having a child they cannot afford while they are in a bad financial position.

    human nature demonstrates this is not how most people think at all, most people are less rational than they believe and most people are very bad at making good decisions.

    This is why we use tools like the scientific method (evidence based reasoning).

    An example of this is a large portion of any population will adopt the religion of their culture and family swearing that their belief is more valid than any other often viewing the other religions as ridiculous. The reality is all religions are as valid as one another in terms of evidence proving a particular faith to be true. This view is completely irrational and nevertheless held by billions.

    Clearly "faith" is a matter of culture and geography. If you were born in a jewish family you most likely will hold those religious views a christian family christian views ect: You are unlikely to be part of a religion you have never heard of. every
    religion cannot be correct. but everyone can be wrong.

    I hope this helps with your question, you state it's a simple question and on the surface it appears it is but it in-fact gets right to the heart of the human condition and our conscious and subconscious drive to have children, an interesting example is that mothers have a natural instinct to tell fathers how much their newborn children look like them, when a newborn baby looks mostly like other newborn babies.

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  • by ciaobellamy on January 8th, 2009

    ciaobellamy

    Because they like $ex, but they can't afford birth control or abortions either, or maybe they're just selfish... wild.

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  • by Jane on January 8th, 2009

    Jane

    I have no idea...

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  • by zapshouse on February 22nd, 2012

    zapshouse

    For those of you that are against abortion, you take these unwanted kids and raise them, if you say "NO" they keep your nose out of it, it is NONE of your business....we do not need any more unwanted kids, they don't get raised right, they get abused. These unwanted kids gets put in foster homes to get molested, abused...seriously, it is none of your business. A woman gets knocked up, has the kid, wasn't planned, so she has it out of guilt...when you have a child it is the end of your life...you made a mistake so you pay the rest of your life. You can't go anywhere, they are expensive, they drain your life, you can do the best to raise them, send them out into the real world to learn awful ways...as the parent, you are responsible...they can financially, mentally destroy you.

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  • by Trash Street on September 25th, 2010

    Trash Street

    Both my parents were only & very lonely children while growing up. So when they got married they had 4 children.My mom has a fun time going from one grown up offsprings house to another. Loneliness thru lack of siblings is what Octomom experienced growing up. So she made sure she'll enter old age with plenty of friends.If you think having a lot of kids is hard, try loneliness & isolation

    Thanks for Very Good and interesting question

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