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  • Was the molester someone associated with the church? Just wondering, perhaps not, nevertheless such a thing will have lifelong consequences for him Im sure. There is much that can be said but not knowing him it would be difficult to give direction. I would suggest helping him find a therapist who is a Christian, they are trained in how to help and would also rebuild his faith.
  • I can understand how he could feel that way. We often ask "why God"?. Rarely does anyone blame Satan. I would continue to pray for him. He should know that he is not alone. It may help if the person that did this was convicted. I havent heard this sad of a story in a long time. I wish I could be of more help. Job in the bible never blamed God when his faith was tested and he went through so many trials. Your cousin may have to grow older and heal some before he will let God in. take care and good luck.
  • See, that's one of the side effects of being sexually molested by a Catholic priest
  • I'd say that the best course of action is to try to get him into therapy. I'm sure he has lots of issues that he hasn't come to terms with, and that's an important step in the process of recovering from sexual abuse. If the abuser was a close friend or relative, he'll definitely have some issues with trust that need to be explored. Bottom line, there's probably nothing you can say that will help him out of this situation. He needs professional help to get through this. Peace.
  • I would not worry so much about his religious faith. I love the Lord myself. Your husband's cousin needs more help right now, though, then he can get from the church. Faith is a powerful tool in dealing with problems but he needs something more at the present. Unfortunately, getting raped is a VERY traumatic experience, as you know. I would encourage him to find a good counselor. Therapy will allow him to get in touch with his emotions and deal with his past. He needs to know that what happened was not his fault or God's. There are many evil people out there and no one feels worse about that then God. Once he has had a chance to deal with his past, hopefully, he will reconnect with his faith. Give him time! I wish him and you all the best.
  • That poor man...he needs to get help from a phyicratrist and right away....I can't believe that there are animals like that..Why would you want to sexual abuse a child...what do you get out of it...Animals..
  • You let him know that nothing can undo the pain and violation he suffered in the past. That's done and nothing can change that. However, there is today and tomorrow and he has the power to make Choices in his life and to choose to deal with the past and leave it there. No one should have to endure what he endured, but he is still alive and in control of his life. That is Key. In our anger we tend to blame God for everything bad that happens to us. Keep perspective and lay the blame where it needs to be lain. An individual violated your husband's cousin, not God. In time, if your cousin Chooses reality over bitterness, he will see this.
  • You don't. Only someone who has been through a similar situation and was able to pull through it has what it takes to connect with him. Don't worry about his faith. His soul (mind, will, and emotions) is damaged and in need of healing. Faith is the substance of things hoped for. If hope is dead, there is no faith. Hope revives when we discover possibility and potential. Faith can then manifest as we focus on achieving a goal. He needs a professional treatment plan with objectives and techniques for measuring and rewarding progress. He also needs to be exposed to a support group setting where he can commune with people who have suffered similar ills and are trying to survive. If things get serious enough to warrant an intervention, don't hesitate for fear of hurting his feelings. There's nothing you can do to hurt his feelings more than they already are. He has to want help, yes, but he may need to be guided in the right direction. Find the best behavioral health facility and program in his area and do what you can, tactfully, to get him enrolled as soon as possible.

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