ANSWERS: 78
  • Yes. Because there is nothing more lonely and demoralizing than being with someone who abuses you.
  • Yes, there is no love from the abuser, only heartache, and it is better to be alone than live like that.
  • Yes! But its easy to say that from this perspective, where I am already safe. I know for a fact that in an abusive relationship they also work on your self esteem until it crumbles. Its much harder to leave when someone has got into your head and convinced you that you are ugly, unwanted, never going to find anyone else, that they are the only one that would ever put up with you. Take that up one tiny notch and you're at the stage of 'and you are so disgusting/annoying/frustrating that I have never hit anyone else, its only you, its all you, and you made me do it. Look what you did, you made me be a monster, you have ruined me, you ruin everything. You are so effing useless that its just plain all your fault and you ask for it.' Its rotten how physical bruises are much more obvious to the victim than the emotional abuse. Even when we see the worst threats we often miss the foundations the abuser built to stand them on. Even being alone forever would have the pay off of building up self confidence, learning to smile and do things that 'weren't safe' in the relationship (like crying or laughing or choosing the TV or talking to people). The pay off would be peace. Yes, yes, yes.
  • Yes, because it makes you feel so sad and lonely to be disrespected everyday.
  • I can't promise but I'll try to leave if ever happened with me.
  • You are a wonderful human being, fantastic and magnificent. If you are being treated as anything less than great, the person who mistreats you is blind, narrow-minded and foolish. Acknowledge yourself as a wonderful person, trust yourself and live for yourself. Leave him, he does not honor himself. One who likes themself will like others. If you don't like yourself, you can't like other people. You are describing a person who hates himself. Don't let him suck you into his narrow, blind world. LIve for yourself, not him. Honor yourself.
  • Yes , I am doing that now and I'm loving it - No one else will ever have that kind of control on me again . -- + up
  • Being alone beats the HELL out of being abused or being dead.
  • Heck yeah! Without a second thought whatsoever.
  • Better to be alone with no one around than alone with someone else in the room with you.
  • *looks at my right hand* i guess it's just me 'n you.
  • Let me put it this way.... Would you stay a virgin forever or have a whore as a wife? PS: With kids!
  • Yes, and if you do not your really should work on loving yourself.
  • absolutely. I would rather be alone and have peace. I dont need a significant other to fulfill me. I am married and love my husband but if something were to happen to him I would manage. He goes to the lake from May-Nov. three days a week as he manages a small campground and fishes. We both love each others company but also enjoy time by ourselves.
  • Yes. I know it's hard but you can find someone else. You will always have friends and family. It'll be ok, I did it and I'm very happy now.
  • I'd rather be alone for 200 forevers, than to be in an abusive relationship for 15 minutes. Been there, done it, it does NOT ever get any better. The abuse will escalate and the longer you stay, the harder it will be to escape.
  • Heck yeah there is no reason for people to hurt others in a relationship and if someone is to do that its worth being alone. no one should be hurt or put down its not right
  • Im safe at my sisters house now.Thank you all for your help and support. angel_baby
  • You have no reason to think you will be alone 4ever, God has that special person 4 every1. You just have not found that person yet.Good luck, Janet
  • Different take... Oh, I would never want to be alone. It's much more scary to be alone than having fractured ribs and a broken arm. I heal quickly and the bruises really only last less than a week. Okay, so I've lost most of my close friends and have missed some time from work, but at least I've got my wonderful partner with me. Yeah, most of the time my partner is cruel, calls me names, makes me feel worthless and I cry most of the day, but I know I will always have company. I mean, after all misery loves company.
  • Yes...I hate abusive relationship. +5
  • well i def will rather be alone than in a abusive relationship. i'm still barely recovering now from one right now. thought i'd post this nice quote from Dr. Phil "I would rather be healthy alone, than sick with someone else. In fact , I would rather be sitting alone under a bridge in a cardboard box by myself, being my own best friend, than I would be living in a controlling abusive situation. Dr. Phil McGraw
  • Oh yes! On my own I could be happy again. By staying in an abusive relationship I would never be happy.
  • In a heart beat! And DID! I'd rather be ALONE than abused, damnit!
  • You betcha! In a heartbeat.
  • In a split second .... mental abuse usually leads to physical abuse which leads to DEATH in so MANY cases ..... +5
  • Yes. I saw what it did to my mother to try to stay. I would get out.
  • Definitely. I did and I am.
  • Of course. Being alone would be better than any psychopathic man. I'm good just as I am. And if someone stay with an abuser, that begins to rub off on the victim as well, that it is okay, that to be angry all the time is ok, to hurt another is ok, it changes the victim.+4
  • hell yeah, I would rather be alone and happy
  • That is a no-brainer. Of course. I am not a masochist. Why on earth would I want to stay with a rat's a** and be miserable? That is counter-productive, irrational, illogical, self-defeating and well, simply silly..especially if kids are involved! :) Happy Saturday! :)
  • there are many different types of abuse. and many types of alone.. what matters is that you are ok with you! How will you ever be happy if you can't make yourself happy? It is very hard when you leave, hell it could take years to get over what you have been through. I wish you luck on what you decide.
  • In a heartbeat. Because quite frankly, you are alone in an abusive relationship.
  • umm yeah i did about 4 years ago. sure i get lonely though i learn to deal with it. its called moving on!
  • Yes, but how does a person know they are going to be alone forever? Without a crystal ball there is always a chance that someone could find someone better.
  • Yes. I don't need to be abused.
  • Yes! Yes I would. I don't think having companionship is more important than my life in that case. If someone is beating me... I'll be damned if I don't beat them back lol. I'm condoning abuse by any means... but if a man was to lay a hand on me like that I'd walk away without looking back.
  • I would rather be alone and happy.. then be in an abusive relationship and miserable!!
  • I'd rather be dead than be stuck with her forever.
  • I would never have left her unless it reached life threatening levels.... but now that she is gone I would rather be alone than with her and I am the rare kind of man who has wanted marriage his whole life.
  • Better to live alone and breath, rather than be dead from a domestic assault.
  • Feel like your alone anyhow so YES. :)
  • Hell yeah!!! You feel very lonely in an abusive relationship...if you were to leave and never be in a relationship, at least you would have the freedom to socialise and make friends, follow your dreams...live life to the full. Usually an abusive relationship wont allow any of those things to happen in your life.
  • Without hesitation. Physical or mental abuse, friend lover or family member, I would walk away.
  • Yes. Part of the reason people stay in them is because their abuser convinces them of the last part of your sentence. That just ain't necessarily so. ;-)
  • Yes, I did. I at least have a chance at being happy alone then with someone who brings you down every second of the day. It took me a while to figure this one out but I have and if im alone forever so be it. At least im not crying myself to sleep because I didnt wash the dishes the right way. Or worrying at any second im going to be beat.
  • definitely. im too hot to be abused. haha me no like physical, verbally, or emotionally abused. not healthy to live that way. lots of good advantage for being single... no stress, no one to bother u, and so on. you can make zillions of friends or become a doc. focus on yourself and put urself first.
  • yes...it's not realistic to think you would be alone forever...even if you didn't get into another relationship that doesn't mean you are alone. i am surrounded by friends even when i don't have a boyfriend
  • YES I WOULD RATHER BE ALONE AND LONELY THAN TOGETHER AND ALONE.
  • You will not be alone forever.When one door closes,another opens.There is someone out there that is meant to be with you.Be patient
  • I'd like to believe I'd have that strength, but I cannot stand being alone...
  • To be abused verbally (lonely), physically (lonely), and maybe he goes one too far and kills you (no feelings). OR to be alone with many other people, men and women on the planet. Tough decision. +5
  • There are worse things than being alone.
  • Of Course!
  • my first mind is to say yes only cause it's the right thing to say and do. but being in one i say no cause i hate being alone and he makes me feel good at times and you don't have to start all over they already know you
  • God, yes. And how does anyone know they'll be "alone forever"? Old Chinese proverb: Better a crust in solitude than a banquet in bad company.
  • Definitely. Life is too short to put up with any kind of abuse in a relationship. Being alone, one can "find" him/herself spiritually, re-invent oneself, and take a new direction in life that can be filled with many exciting possibilities. Once you discover yourself and love yourself first, you can start living again. Abusive people just pull you down and back. It's toxic to your well-being.
  • Good question! I'm trying to decide that for myself, right now. Although, as i think about it--it's better to love yourself and leave, than to stay and be mistreated. When you stay in a abusive relationship you are saying to the universe this is what I deserve!
  • if you stay with the abusive partner there is a high possibility they will kill you well before your time anyway i had a narrow escape myself i would choose leave every time now
  • Yeah ofcourse! I don't want to be with someone that can make my life worst. I will enjoy myself being alone rather having abusive partner. http://www.cebuanas.com
  • yes. it's better to be alone forever and be happy. because you would still be alone in an abusive relationship. no one wants to be miserable and alone.
  • Yes i most defintley would,i dont need someones abuse to make me feel happy, loved and cheerished
  • Yes. I've known those who wouldn't, but I pity them greatly for it.
  • No. I wouldn't.
  • yes i would,no one has the right to abuse anyone for any reason. walk away while you can.
  • hell yeah i would leave! in my opinion id much rather be alone then abused no one has the right to put thier hands on my body
  • In a heartbeat. No one deserves abuse unless they're the abusers.
  • I used to think I would and till now I suggest anyone who is should.. However there are times when you don't have a choice but you know one day you would..
  • Yes. You don't deserve to be in an abusive relationship. And you shouldn't think that you will be alone forever because right now when you think about leaving this someone you will feel lonely and that there is nobody out there for you. But eventually through time I am sure you will find that special someone who would make you feel like a princess....for your own sake get out of this relationship as soon as possible. Be strong and never look behind. Nice things will happen soon.
  • Indeed I would but, unless there is more information that you haven't divulged, I really don't understand the inevitability of leaving a relationship meaning having to be alone forever.
  • Yes being alone and loving life because you have no one to hide from is a million times better then stayin with some one that is abusive!!!!!! anyday
  • I left mine 27 years ago and will be alone forever. Also it seems to create a certain amount of jealousy with my friends and relatives. So, some people think it's a better way.

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