I don't know I have a five yr old she won't stop using that darn thing can't get her to use the bathroom potties are for late night emergencies only I guess she'll get the hang of it just give her time maybe she wants to be a big girl and sit on the toilet sometimes when children see other children doing something it makes them want to copy

She's a bit big to use a potty - so she'd be better off using the toilet because that's what she'll have to use when she goes to school.

She shouldn't be using a potty at 5 years old..encourage toilet use...

Teach her how to use the toilet.Make her develope the habit from now.This is the right age.

After my baby was born, my 4 year old completely un-pottytrained herself. She would wet her pants 10-20 times a day. I tried going back to the little potty seat, using a sticker chart, and nothing worked. This went on for a year! This last Christmas, we simply told her that Santa would only bring her baby toys if she kept wetting her pants. She just quit having accidents. I felt a little mean for lying to her, but it worked. I have a friend that tells her kids Santa won't come to a messy house, lol! Try telling her that if she can stay dry until lunch, you will play a big-girl game with her. Then, if she stays dry until dinner, she can pick anything she wants for dinner. Then, try a whole day and take her to the movies. If she goes 3 days (mark on a calendar), she gets a new dress. Give her small landmarks. Also, make sure is she is changing herslf and understanding that when she wets herself, she needs to take off her wet clothes and set them in the laundry herself too.

What about when she goes to school? She might have to stay home an extra year because the school authorities usually want kids to be trained before they start school. Perhaps she is frightened of having to sit on a big toilet? I can remember mum having a bit of a tussle getting one of my brothers to stop using the potty when he was 5 and I think I might have been scared of using the big toilet until I was 3.

Bagless' answer has the solution to the problem. You have tried every kind of reward. How about trying a bit of negative incentive. Years ago the denial of privilege was used much more than today because of the attitudinal differences and parents didn't have the money to buy gifts, toys, etc. (like my parents during WWII). It worked not because it's a superior method, but because both systems work. So what things does your child enjoy, etc. that you can remove if she doesn't go in the potty? And, I would skip the potty and use the big toilet because she has outgrown the potty chair by this time. (With my kids getting to use the big toilet was considered a reward!)

What??? mine were out of diapers by the time they were 2 years old. Is there any reason youve left it so long? It seems you may have to visit a Child Specialist to see what is recommended

Ok, this is going to sound terrible but when my son was almost 4 he still would not go on the potty for me...NOTHING AND I REPEAT NOTHING WOULD WORK. I finnaly told him that if he did not start doing his pee pee on the potty, the bad man was going to come and take me away for being a bad Mommy...he cried the first time and ran to the bathroom and i never had another problem with it. I know it seems mean, but sending him to school in diapers at that age would have been meaner. Downrate if you must, but it worked.

i was really lucky with my daughter, as she was already sleeping without diapers before her second birthday. she is three now and has been using the big toilet with her step ladder (buy at any baby shop) skip the potty, she's five, you should be able to reason with her enough, also try talking to her and finding out if she has an underlying fear of the toilet, etc.. stress the point of big girls use the potty, try positive reinforcements-no sweets though-and simply let her walk in her wet pants until she feels how yucky it is.(that is enough negativity for it to work,trust me!) just start this on a weekend when you have all the time in the world to concentrate purely on this. a potty song cant do harm, give her enough fluids, and let her sit on the toilet every five minutes(for at least a minute at a time) until (finally) you have success, make a huge deal out of it. then comes the battle of staying dry, but get the concept in her head first, demonstrate with her dolls if necessary. if she still has no control of her bladder and other functions, then you should take her to a doctor as there might be an underlying cause.

mine is almost 5 and still in diapers but is getting better at wanting to use to potty as your child gets older they will naturaly want out of diapers like every one else give them time to get there themselves and stop pushing to keep up with every so called parent god with the perfect child skills whos children will probably end up as screwed up as they are.

this seems to be a norm with mothers today...lax in their mom duties...my sister in law (whom) I love dearly..does this, and admits she is lazy and doesnt worry about such things as my little neice is 4 and knew what and how at 2 just didnt want too and her mom didnt stress it...my nephew is 5 and my mom trained him at 2and a half ...when my neice stays with my mom, she wears panties , even at night and has not wet the bed once!! but the worst about it is , no one wants to take her places cause she still wets herself...this is simply a parents fault..for not takin time at a proper age to train...parents allow bad behavior and later on want to fuss when it becomes an issue!!! hey , YOU did it!!!they know NO at very early, and this is when all should be talked to and taught...the 3 R's used repitiously is what raises a well balanced child...they know what they are supposed to do..my neice is a beautiful and bright little girl , perfect away from her mom(her enabler) but when I take her back home she reverts right back to the whiny, no potty, slothful , little girl..there was a time, early on , when my mom talked to her , told her no more diapers, she was big girl now and they use the potty...and only 1 time did she wet her panties , she got a couple little swats and another talking too and never happened again...enforce the RULES....they need , yes, as early as 1 and a half,a parent to start teaching RULES, RESPECT and RESPONSIBILITIES...i feel strongly this irresponsibilities psychologically damage these kids..they are made fun of, miss out on lots, turn into whiny momma's babies, they are behind their peers...parenting takes a lot of TIME and OVER AND OVER and most now a days don't want to take it...they are selfish and lazy... Moms u make these babies what they grow up to be... my littlest neice is a toddler now, but a different personality and probably train herself more than her mom will... it would only take a couple of days...but get the panties, throw away the diapers, have the serious big girl talk and tell her you will not allow it and stick with it...spank that little booty when she does and u KNOW she did it deliberately.... my sister in law was admonished over and over by her own sisters and mom and finally my brother...but she just smiled and said "I KNOW" ...well, this is not good enough...my neice "doesnt know" and it is totally the her moms fault....Rules, Respect and Responsibility start at home and at a very early age...

If shes 5 then she is old enough to use the toilet,buy a trainer seat to put on it as some times its scarey for a yoing child as they feel they will fall down the hole. Plenty of rewards and praise tell her what a big girl she is :) your get there in the end :)

Most schools will not accept kids not yet toilet trained. However, I had medical problems when I was little and it was very hard for me. Now as an adult, I know when its best to ask the question "Bathroom?" If the kid had diaper change plan - you might want to start asking her at those time points if she has to go and work from that point. That's how my doctor coached my Mom with me. Encouragement helps but isn't always necessary. Maybe offer a special dinner item sometime that week. Something out of the ordinary that you know she likes. It doesn't have to be special.

I wonder if kids used to take so long to train in our parents' or grandparent's generation. Mum had us out of nappies by a year during the day but then she didn't have carpets on the floor and it was warm enough for us to run around in the yard with just little pants. Most teachers don't want to have to deal with kids who are not toilet trained (unless they are in a special school where accidents are expected) because they would think that a child should be able to get themselves to the toilet by age 5 or 6 and wipe their own bottom. Parents who don't attempt to train their kids at all are not doing them any real favours in the long run.