people that i know with kids have no problem dating but there might be 1 or 2 people that wouldnt date someone with kids. on the whole though i dont think it matters

yes but I think it's just cause men steriotype women who have children as looking for a new dad for there kid/kids. I think devorced single moms have it worse. men think they want a new husband to pay there bills and father there children. men have it just as bad to women either attack them thinking pre made family, or wont touch them thinking they would be instant house wife.

No, because most men would preffer a single non-mother to date. It is ideal that a woman only have one man's children, and he would rather that your child be his and his only. However, there are so many exceptions to the norm, that there is no real difference in chance. Most men dislike hassle, and could view your child as an obstacle, but many wouldn't mind. You have to understand that your child is your first priorety, and you owe it to your child to sacrifice many things for him/her. Sacrifice is key, and you shouldn't then worry about your chances of dating, perhaps one will come at a better time. The dating "world" is all hype. Just be real and all else will follow.

It is a lot lot harder for single mums. But that doesnt mean it is hard. First some men wont date women that have kids. The older the men and women get, the more likely this will not be a problem. As men are less likely to expect a woman inher 30s to not have children and adjust their expectations accordingly. (Obviously not all men are like that but the ones that are adjust the probablilities...). THe man will also be worried about how the kids will recieve him and maybe the extra cost... Second the single mum has to be more careful than other single girls becuase she has to take into account how her kids will feel about the person she is dating. Just because he makes a potential great date, doesnt make him a great potential new father. That doesnt mean that single women cant go out just to have fun, but some would not want to see lots of different men in case it impacts on their children. Finally - they get a lot less time to go out. Being a single mum is hard work. If you have young children you need ot organise and pay for baby sitters etc. But just because its harder doesnt mean it is hard. Im going out with a single mum by the way.

I have never experienced this situation, but from the women i encounter daily in my occupation, i say that single moms are having a tough time dating. There are many reasons this is so. single moms come as a package deal. the man either has to accept the woman with the children or look elsewhere. this occurs so often. the man loves the woman, but someone else's children are a big problem. the children's father will always be in the picture and in the way. the man will always be jealous of the ex, simply because he is there. Women with no children is like a virgin bride. no strings, no children and no ex's. Single moms have been successful in finding a mate that will accept them, as is. Its rare, but it does happen. How many single moms are out there looking for Mr. Right? a lot more than you would believe.

I think so. Especially nowadays since more and more parents *are* single and raising kids on their own. Seems like there are plenty of single dads to go around lately as well.

Unfortunately some guys get scared off by single moms, they freak about the kids. It does reduce the avaialability of guys available as a result but in my opinion it basically leaves the better guys, the more mature, caring and understanding.

guys can be jerks, they don't know what they are missing. fortunately it leaves the genuine, loving etc guys for you. it's just waiting for them is the problem. just keep looking and be paitent.

I see a ton of single Moms dating where I live. And when I tell a guy I'm single with no kids he's shocked and I don't hear from him anymore. Maybe we should trade spaces.

for casual dating and friends with benefits, yes. but for real relationships...not at all.

Personally, I could care less. I like kids. If I like the mother, the kids are included.

I don't think so. From what I've observed, most men do not want to get involved in a serious relationship with a woman who already has a child/children because he doesn't want to be a father to children that are not even his and women with children can't just do something with them on a whim. Which is why I am so against women giving birth out of wedlock; particularly a young teenaged girl. I have met the occasional guy that wouldn't mind having a serious relationship if the women was truly in love with him, had good qualities, wasn't just looking for a dad for her child/children or someone to support her; etc. Of course, for casual dating or a f*ck friend, pretty much everyone I've ever discussed that with was certainly up for that!

I have heard many of my single male acquaintances say they would not date single moms. They are being honest when they say they do not want to enter a relationship where there are already kids in the picture. It means that they have to extend themselves more, both financially, emotionally, and time-wise, in such relationships.

No, of course not. There are alot of guys who don't care, but there are a few who don't want the connections of a child until they are ready. I personally do not know if at this point in my life (22) I could date a girl with a child, partially because I don't know how to fit in that situation of not being a father, but being a predominant part in a child's life.

A woman with no kids and never wants kids is perfect in my book. Women with kids or even wants kids are off the list.

No. Nor should they. Women manipulate like crazy. There is an instinctive reason why men avoid the situation and they should obey the instinct.

I don't no I am going through a ruff time at the moment and feel I will never get another man in my life. I am 20 years old have a 2 year old and am 6 months pregnant! Both kids are by the same boy (because he ain't no man) I do not see him or hear from him neither does my daughter. And I feel like my love life is over!

Yes,unless you have a ridiculous amount of kids like maybe 8.

Personally I think something happens to a woman when she has kids. They develope some kind of maternal hottness. Im not sure why but there is something about them I find hot. Maybe it's because they are so used to taking care of there kids they don't mind taking care of you. Try dating a young college girl and see how many times a week she will cook for you.

Only if they have a massive support network that allows them to get out and socialise, builds them up and doesn't let them become too depressed or exhausted to even want to go looking. Then they need great and unusually balanced children that are not traumatised and clingy from the loss of the other parent nor suspicious of new adults taking mommy's affection. Then of course, even with all that, they kind of need enough cash to run a home single handed, provide properly for their kids and still have enough left for fripperies like keeping their hair decent, or even just affording a drink at a bar. So mostly, no, no chance, Are you kidding?

actually it's no . but there must be someone who would love the single mom .i hope every single mom will find her Mr right .

I think men would like to think they wouldn't date a mother because of the extra stress that would put on their lives. When two people meet and click though it does happen all the time x

A bit less of a chance, but if, hypothetically, I were single, and truly liked the lady, there would be no problem. Admittedly, I'm in my late thirties - in my twenties I would have ran a mile!

I have been out of dating for so long that this may be out of date..., Both I and my friends, as I remember it, once we (thought we) were mature enough to be ready for the responsibility of a family, were open to a relationship with a single mom with the possibility of an instant family at a later date. Before that we were open to virtualy any woman (girl) who was indiscriminate enough to be seen with us. For me, that's a long time ago, but i am still embarassed to admit it, I would likely have been thrilled to date a single mom, assuming that since she had before she likely would again... I guess the only time it would have been a problem for me would have been if I had lost my wife when our kids were younger. We have three, and that's plenty! If I had been left alone with them and then met someone who also had several... Well, I am not sure I would be up to be the Brady Bunch!

i don't know about the "same" chance since there are differences. it wouldn't be the same because a man may be looking for a woman who doesn't have kids so that he can start a family of his own. but i do believe single women with kids are perfectly "date-able". in my opinion, there is the dating "scene" and then there is the dating "situation", if- you -will. i think being involved in the dating "scene" requires criteria...ie: "i'm a single man, looking for a single woman without kids who loves baseball...etc, etc.." the dating situation may be meeting someone at work, finding that you are attracted to one another and then entering a dating relationship. the person is the primary attraction...kids or no kids. the objectification ("she's hot but she has kids...too bad...") is no longer the issue. if we are seeing people as "objects" and not complex human beings with personalities, talents, and love to offer then we can make hard and fast rules. however, i am not opposing a man who knows he wouldn't be able to date a woman with kids because he simply doesn't want that to be a part of the relationship. i am simply stating that to make the sweeping statement that single mom's with kids are not viable as dating partners is simplifying what is a complex issue and objectifying the woman. on a side note...i am a single mom. i am an independent woman, who is very happy in my successful career that allows me to live a comfortable fulfilling life. i have never had a problem with men not being interested in me because i have children. however, i am very picky with regard to the men i date...and a man would never even meet my children unless i was planning on a committed relationship with him and i've always made that clear. i am not interested in a man for what he can give me financially (i can take care of myself very well, thankyouverymuch) or for him to be a father to my children (my children have a father). i would be interested in a man if he is an interesting person who is making a difference in the world. (this last part is to dispel some of the thoughts i've read on single women with kids wanting men to carry the financial burden and emotional burden of the single woman's children...) alright. i'm finished. :)

I think their chances are much slimmer, since you can probably cut the collective pool of guys by 60 percent. But the chances are much greater than zero. I'm dating a mom, and it's the most incredible relationship I've ever had- I fully intend to marry her.

Not even close. Kids are a handful even with two parents let alone one. Respect the single mom!

No they don't and they don't deserve it, either. MEN: Stay away from women with kids. There's a reason why your instinct is to run.

There's nothing wrong with the question being worded the way it was - nothing at all - but it has led to lots of gynocentric answers where the unfairness of life for single mothers is concerned. True enough, it's usually a woman who bears the burden of single parenthood. Blame the courts, blame the father who was no more ready to wipe his own nose than are the guys who don't want to know her now... Blah blah blah. Every parent, happily married fathers included, is only one terrible phone call away from being a single parent; it won't be any easier for a "he" than for a "she" in that situation. Alot of women, it seems, would like to lay claim to being less "shallow" than that, but in my opinion, it's not a matter of "shallowness", for either gender. Trepidation? Intimidation? Location? A friend of mine, from high school, who is financially secure, married a woman who already had two kids. I've lost touch with them, but last I knew, the family was happy and doing well. I attribute the success to a rare condition where not only were the two adults in agreement in terms of financial goals and things of that nature, but also (and more pertinent to this question) they were in agreement with respect to child rearing tactics, which can become a wedge between such a couple. It also helped that the childrens' natural father, in spite of his having to wear the "ex" dunce cap, seemed to realize that his kids were in the care of a very good man, so he didn't interfere with their child rearing techniques. He just happily enjoyed his visitations with the kids, who were very well behaved. But, I believe this situation to be extremely rare.