i think it hurts but as time goes on you can be happy again. it does take time but you will get there in the end. i think the hardest paert is deciding to move on and once you have done that things will click into place for you

10 years! that is a long time to be stuck. You can't go back unless the two of you are in agreement. (Yes) you can live again!. You have to pick up the pieces and began healing, and time will do this,if you allow it to work for you. Norman O. I've been here and done this.... I had to let her go, man! I have the best of both worlds now... one thing I would do is to get counseling.. nothing is wrong with this, usually it is a benefit. I am sorry that things have taken so long to come together, but it can.Norman you are going to have to find yourself, began focusing on things that make you hold your head up, be proud of who you are and your accomplishments in life. Love who you are so others can see something in you to love back. Do things that will allow you to meet other people and grow. There are times when people are sent to us for particular reasons, and many times they are not with us for a life time, but we make these decisions to be committed when it was not part of the plan at all. I hope that you will come to understand that you are not alone, and you can accomplish life rewards. LIFE is a gift, live it to the fullest there of. Good luck NOrman O.

I think that is a very long time, however each one of us is different. Some things and loves, we never ever get over, but there comes a time we have to move on regardless of the pain. I have found that isolating yourself just makes the pain linger for a longer period of time. I believe we have to force ourselves to get out there, meeting people in general, date, and enjoy each day. By obsessing over something you cant change, somehow ruins your days of living, rather than to amplify your happiness and life.

theres a reason ppl break up, stick with it.

Tom Wolf said it many years ago,.."You can't go home again"...("Look Homeward, Angel"). You can go back to the same place,..but it is never the same. It is never "home" again. We grow away from our roots. Our friends leave and make their own lives. We make our own. We can remember and love the memories,..but they are gone. I know how you feel, Norman. I feel the same way whenever I go back to my home town for class re-unions, etc. We talk endlessly about the old days. We had fun. We loved and we still love. But, we all have to move on. Life forces us onward.

If you can't get back to 'normal', that's okay - you don't have to be normal. When you dwell on the past or the future you are not living in the present. You will not change until you are truly committed to change. Let go of your pain, just as a drop of water falls from a leaf. What you resist, persists. One of the easiest things to do in life is to become a self-fulfilling prophecy : )

Norman, life is full of pain, hurt, bitterness, grief, and great loss. It is also full of beauty, wonder, the awwwww of nature, sunrise and sunsets. I think we have to believe each day has a purpose, no matter how small or unimportant we feel. Fill each day with faith, hope, and love and believe SOMETHING GOOD is going to happen to me today!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

This question was posted in 2007... I would be curious to know how the poster feels today? 2 years later?