Yes, you should be offended because most women are emotionally unstable and are very insecure with their bodies.

It depends on what kind of exercise he has in mind. Maybe he wants to 'work out' with you.

Ask him why. Perhaps he thinks you need to get into better shape (not having to do with weight), or he is concerned about your health.

I never once said that. You did.

No. Use it as motivation. He's just trying to be constructive. Just make sure he realizes he's gotta keep up his end of the bargain, too. Tell him you ain't sleepin with no beer-drinkin barrel ass. >:)

he wants to see you run a treadmill so he can see ur tits jiggling.

I don' t know if i would be offended, of course i work out all the time an don't consider that a derogatory thing.

I would be offended if anyone said that to me. Glad he's a new boyfriend so you can decide if you want to continue dating him. Since I don't know the tone of voice he used, he also could have been joking with you .

if he flat out said lose weight i'd be. excercising is healthy and i hate it but if somebody was just trying to motivate me i guess i'd just take it as constructive criticism

No!! You definately should not, he's the lucky one getting to go out with someone like you! ;)

I think that's a little tacky to say to you. I hope he's in perfect shape!

I've said some dumb things that were interpreted the wrong way, but I had good intentions. I once told a girl that she was smarter than she looked, and in my defense she was really smart but did look kind of ditzy. APPARENTLY not a compliment. If he called you a fat fat fattie mcfatterson, or something, then yea you should be offended. But as a guy I can honestly say that sometimes the best laid plans go horribly horribly awry.

You are aware exercise is not always needed to lose weight but to build muscle and to built energy levels. perhaps he knows your going to need a little extra energy soon. Look out Sara it maybe a bumpy ride. :P

If he exercises alot maybe he just wants you to feel good as him if he doesn't then yeah offensive!

If he's an exercise enthusiast and meant it for health reasons, maybe it's ok. Otherwise, it's kinda tacky and pretty obtuse - if it were me I'd keep my eyes wide open to see if keeps up remarks like that.

ya should be whoever says that to a girlfriend is a bitch sorry if u luv him

Well thats up to you, personally, I would say well you have some walking to do and shut the door on them. At 47 I am not going to spend my time trying to find out if they were joking, which I wouldn't find funny, unable to say what they mean, I am not a baby sitter. If he doesn't like you as you are why is he dating you?

No. He's looking out for your general wellbeing.

Meh, probably shouldn't think twice about it. I'm sure he didn't mean it that way. I'm thinking it was probably more of a health concern then a weight thing. Then again, as a woman, you're allowed to be pissed at pretty much anything. =P

a lot of the other answerers bring up the point about your health. My question is in what context did he say this? If it was just out of the blue, he's pretty much a numbskull. If it was in context of health related conversation it has a completely different tone to it.

Bad manners.I'd say he has some balls criticising like that.You look like you're in great shape.

Not that there's anything wrong with that

From your profile I'd have to say he's a Loon. If he has the gall to tell you that, so early in your relationship, You might want to reconsider taking it to the next level.

maybe he just meant he wants you on top more often. don't be so sensitive.

From you profile pictures, you look beautiful the way you are.

No, Sara I wouldn't be at all. He's probably just looking out for you and your physical health. He just wants to you to get in shape and be physically fit I wouldn't let it worry you or anything. He was probably just kidding anyway. : )

I had this dilemma with my last GF, she was awesome and I loved everything about her, but she had a lil pudge in the middle. I had serious performance issues when I saw it (i have a six pack) but could never figure out how to tell her. So I just broke her off...

Tell him that his breath stinks..lets see if he likes that one and that he has unbearable body odor and that his hair line is thining...Lets go girls try that one..

i think you should not date him if he is basing shit on your body this early or anytime. be with someone who will love the whole package.

That is kind of rude of him to say. Did you ask him why he said it in the first place?

I would be.

I went through the same dilemma recently. I dated a girl who was awesome in every aspect but she had a slight "pudge in the middle". I work out all the time so I just mentally couldn't get past the fact and I did not find it attractive at all. I'm not trying to be shallow but it affected me mentally. So, I just broke up w/ her and now I'm the lonely single again.

Telling someone to exercise doesnt imply they are overweight. Believe it or not, exercising keeps you healthy, no matter your weight, and is generally good to do.

my boyfriend told me the same thing when we first started dating but he told me my breasts were too big...and needed to work out...now im so insecure about my breasts but now he tells me they are beautiful and hes sorry for saying that but it still hurts...i was very offended...

He is trying to be nice about it...CODE worded for "Shape up or ship out.."

it depends on what kind of exercising he wants u to do lol

He just wants to sexercise... nothing wrong with that!

I was never insecure about my body until my (now ex) boyfriend told me that I needed to lose weight - and I wasn't overweight either. In fact, I was a couple of pounds away from being underweight (according to the BMI, anyway) but also more muscular than he was (being as he was a super-skinny Asian guy who hardly ate anything). I don't know what you look like or what your weight/height ratio is, but you can get an idea about it from a BMI calculator (which unfortunately doesn't take into consideration muscle/fat ratio). But here's my take on the situation: a) Maybe he truly is concerned for your health - you should ask him. It might not even be a weight issue, maybe he just wants you to be healthier. b) It might be that he thinks you need to lose weight, but you should consider the reason. Again, check your BMI to see that it falls in the "normal" range. And if you don't think your weight is an issue, you should tell him. But you should really ask him (in a non-confrontational way) about it. c) If there are other areas of your life where your boyfriend is trying to make little changes (like in my case, the (ex) boyfriend was trying to get me to "lose weight," buy a car, and drop out of school) you should take this as a warning sign that he is just trying to manipulate you, and see what he can and can't get away with in terms of controlling your life. I wouldn't take immediate offense, though it's never a "nice" thing to say. You should really ask him what he meant by it though, just to make sure.