Honest opinion... going crazy... please help. read answer for details.
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angel_of_mercy
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I feel like my family treat me like a second rate person. like i dont deserve anything. i work, go to uni and pay rent but it doesn't seem to stop them making me feel small. whenever I try to say something i'm belittled even more and i'm going out of my mind with frustration cos i dont know if they're right and it's just me over-reacting to stuff, or what. We have two dogs in our house. and i feel like their opinions and feelings matter more than mine do. just the other day i asked to hold my new nephew and was told i'd have to wait until the next time he came down to hold him. stuff like this happens all the time please tell me what to do. it's driving me crazy.
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well, you work and pay rent there, so why can't you move out? things will probably get better (or at least more tolerable) if you see less of your family. you may not be able to change your family's attitude.
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Your family is not right for making you feel this way. Have you tried discussing it with them? Maybe they are unaware of your feelings.
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Unfortunately you can't pick your family! And you can't change people either. If it seems like the situation is progressing, it probably is. You're becoming more of your own person and it happens to be unlike the rest of the family. Continue to try to be the bigger person- it sucks but at least you'll have no regrets or give them reason to be even more rude to you. Try to deal with it but you better start planning to move out. Depending on circumstances, it might be hard to move out but I bet it will be worth it! It was for me! Good luck!
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Poor Angel. Im sorry that you feel this way. It is impossible for us to give you the right answer here because this question is only one sided. I would have to hear your family's side of things to know for certain if they are just being jerks or you are just not on the same level for understanding their reasons for what they say and do. Family dynamics are difficult and that is why I have always believed that the people we are born to are family of course, but you don't owe them anything for that reason alone, nor they you... The people we chose are our real family and when we decide to have someone in our lives, the interaction is pure, on our own terms and therefore far more productive. Im assuming that you are young? WHen you go out into the world, when you go to school and meet your life long friends or go to work and make more, move into a neighborhood and meet people... Stranger can become more family than those we are merely born to. You'll see...
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